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[treasured]

I wish my yearly update from joining BnB could be a positive one haha Its crazy how fast time has passed. Im glad it feels fast, although seeing people on my facebook completely lap me as in find out theyre pregnant give birth and then post 6 month picture updates really puts it into perspective. ANYWAY.... sorry to deflate the mood haha, I hate posting moans and groans in here now!

But! Spring does hold excitement because we will very shortly be in our new home and as soon as we get our new doctors surgery set up I will be making an appointment. Did any of you take your OH to doctors with you? Hopefully OH might not need to go away for a whole 6 months either, so thats another good thing!

as for this month my temps were REALLY steady pre O, but since about 5dpo they have dropped every day, its strange :S. 11dpo tomorrow and not so much as a twinge haha.

Love to everyone!!! lxb you must be close to me? xx

 

[SashimiMimi]

Treasured if you need to groan I still think this should be a safe place to do it. I hope I didn't sound disrespectful with my last post. I guess my other milestone before that was reaching one year of TTC with no results and then last march admitting to myself that it wasn't going to happen on its own. Up until this last September I was pretty deflated and felt like nothing was going to work and then something did. I feel like these fertility specialists hold a lot of answers and while it can be a frustrating road to go through failed procedures, ultimately most women will find success with a little help if they need it.

My OH came to the initial consultation as they did loads is tests on both of us and we were each questioned about our medical history. After that I went to cycle monitoring appointments on my own excep for days where I had IUIs and obviously IVF where OH needed to provide sperm samples. And he stayed with me for the procedures for support.

I just feel like spring always feels like a good time and good things always happen I. The spring. It's a time of renewal and the end of our cold canadian winters always put me in a good mood. Sadly our winter has no end in sight. It's still cold and people grumpy because of it. Someone ran a red light today and came inches from hitting me and its made me want to become a recluse! Every time I go out lately something stupid happens that shakes me up!! So when spring finally arrives here I hope people act less aggressive! Sorry that's my mini vent of the day.

 

[lauren26]

Treasured It was a year ago that I found this crazy lady thread!! I joined BnB before that but never thought I'd find such a wonderful and supportive group of crazy ladies. I'm very glad you'll be seeing a doc and getting some answers!! I really have faith that every one of the crazy ladies will be a mom. My husband came with me to my initial OB appointments before I saw a specialist, back in August and November of 2011 and February of 2012. He wasn't able to come with me to my first specialist visit nor did he come to any of the ultrasounds where they discovered and monitored my cysts. I wished he had been there! He was of course at my surgery and came to the first four ultrasounds I had after getting pregnant. We don't share insurance so he had to go to his own doctor for a semen analysis. If your OH can't come I recommend bringing a friend or family member if/when you get any kind of big piece of information. I found it overwhelming to try and hear a bunch of medical information while trying to handle my own hopes, fears, questions, etc. during a short appointment. In hindsight I may have brought my mom or a friend to ask the questions I couldn't think of in the moment. Plus it can be nice to have another set of ears hearing what you're hearing because they're not coming from an LTTTC perspective and may hear it differently. I hope that helps! And we are always here when you need to vent. Don't hold it in, sister!!

 

[treasured]

Sashimi- You didn't sound at all disrespectful! I want you all to honestly know how happy I am for you all and would never want you to feel bad! We all have our own paths and I know I will get there one day, as you ladies have I think it is about time to buck up and realise that its not going to happen naturally, So really I am not TTC anymore because its probably pointless haha! I hope it is a quick fix but I am prepared to do whatever it takes!!

lauren- Thank you for advice! I am hoping that OH can come with me, not only for support for TTC but also so that my doctor takes us more seriously. I am still worried about them being judgemental. I'm so glad that I found this thread too! I hope one day we can all start a parenting crazy lady thread which we can make when we all have our babies x

 

[lxb]

treasured - yep~ we're very close! I'm 12dpo today~ so a day ahead~ Yes, I asked DH to come with me to the initial consultation so he would know what to expect and also for support. I would recommend bringing someone close to you and you can trust with you if your oh can't make it to the appt for support. I felt sooo overwhelm at the initial consultation because there are loads of information and all these different possibilities, so it was good that he was there to share that with me.

I see that your temp went back up today~

sashimi - @ those people who ran red light!! red means stop!! NOT hurry up~! especially during weather like that~ Happy <~11 more weeks to go!!! Ekkk.. it's all coming together~~

lauren - happy 33 weeeks!!! 7 more weeks to go!!!

haribo - we'll be waiting for the scan pics~~~~

can't believe it has been a year since I joined bnb! I don't even remember what was the reason that brought me to this site as it feels AGES ago~ I'm so glad I've met you all and definitely appreciate all the love and support from all you crazy ladies~ I wonder if we'll ever get to meet irl~

 

[SashimiMimi]

I really hope we get to meet IRL, it would really be a dream come true!! I know we always say it but this thread has been amazing and I've not been so lucky with others. I wasn't even going to start a thread because every time I wrote or commented anywhere else I got ignored or people were really short with me. But this thread sure attracted some great ladies and I couldn't imagine my life without all of you!!

Treasured I don't think they will judge your age. I saw people from all walks of life and all ages at my clinic. There were couples in their early 20s and couples in their late 40s. I even saw a quadriplegic woman come in for cycle monitoring one day! I think you will feel great once you go. Blindly TTCing is so annoying and so frustrating, it's nice to feel that someone is helping you and it's their job to help all women no matter their age with fertility.

 

[lauren26]

We must meet IRL!!! You ladies have been some of the most supportive friends I've ever had! I don't share the TTC bond with anyone IRL at all, and I can't imagine being as close to anyone else around something like this now.

Treasured I feel sad that you're afraid of being judged by the docs If you need us to make some anonymous calls don't hesitate to ask!! They should treat you with as much dignity and consideration as anyone else, regardless of age. We're here for you.

lxb thanks!!! Wowzers getting mighty close now...

Sashimi I'm so glad you started this thread!! What would we have done without it??

 

[Pino6161]

For all you mommies and soon to be mommies!! I found this on Facebook (where else ) it brought a tear to my eye and I had to share.

CONGRATS lxb on your

&#8206;(For all the mother's (including pregnant ones) in the world, this one is for you! - Author Unknown)

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family." "We're taking a survey," she says half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?"

"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.

"I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations."

But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes.

I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, "What if that had been MY child?" That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.

That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.

I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of "Mom!" will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moments hesitation.

I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her
baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right.

I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming
children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.

However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.

Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself.

That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.

I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor.

My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks.

I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child.

I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.

I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving.

I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.

I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.

I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.

My daughter's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "You'll never regret it," I finally say. Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.
Please share this with a Mom that you know or all of your girlfriends who may someday be Moms. May you always have in your arms the one who is in your heart.

 

[lauren26]

Lxb!! One more of these!!!

 

[lxb]

I think I'm still scared to believe this is really happening. I'm trying my best not to worry and enjoy this journey~~

Thank you for sharing the article pino! MOVING DAY!!! EXCITING!!

Sending lucky dusts your way Pino & treasured!!

 

[treasured]

Congrats again lxb!!!! this bean will stick fast!!

Pino- that post was so touching! I hope one day we can go through alll that! It's just us twoo left now LOL we better do somthing about this quick! Although AF is almost here for me so im holding out hope for your moving day bfp!! Also good luck on the road tomoriw keep us updated! X

 

[haribo813]

LXB that is the most FANTASTIC NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so pleased for you both!!!

You will make the most brilliant mummy.
xxxxxx

 

[SashimiMimi]

Lxb I nearly fell off my chair!!! Yes! This is it! Much love an hugs. So happy for you! Isn't it typical that when people start seeing a fertility specialist that a bfp happens? At least you have them now to monitor you closely and keep your mind at ease!!

 

[countrygirl86]

CONGRATULATIONS LXB! I am so happy for you, this is the best news How are you feeling?

Thanks for sharing that Pino, it's so sweet and so true.

 

[lxb]

treasured - Sending you lost of ~ This shall be your BFP cycle~

pino - hope moving day went well~~~ hope to hear your update from another state!!!!

haribo - where the u/s pic???

sashimi - I'm so grateful that the next appt with the FS is onto a different topic~~ I'm getting nervous and yet excited! Happy 30 weeks!!

country - I'm trying so hard to relax and tell myself.. "just trust your body". I'm feeling great physically~ just mild cramps here and there. Got a little nausea last night and I got excited~

I think it will really sink in when I have my first u/s~

 

[treasured]

Pino!! Update us pleaseee hope youre okay

lxb- unfortunately not this month, AF showed up at 12dpo, which is early for me. Atleast she didn't give me any false hope hah. I'm not too upset just used to it now... Ahhh cant wait to see your first scan pic. You should stick it to your wall for good luck in making it a sticky bean


So we are moving in 2 days! So im not really letting AF get me down this month. Don't think I will bother to temp or anything this month cause I have the move and my show to prepare for so just going to let it slide. Don't really have very much motivation to do it anymore anyway haha it doesnt seem to make any difference :S..

Peace and love to all xxx

 

[Pino6161]

So I am here in Oklahoma. We left Saturday at 2PM and got here at 1PM OK time with 2 hours of sleep. It was a horrible long drive. We spent $500 just on gas. :crazy:

Today is OH's first day of work so hopefully it goes well.

I am 10 DPO right now and AF should start in 2 days, but all of my symptoms from last month are gone I had a little cramping a couple days ago, but that's it

I hope all is well.

 

[lxb]

pino - glad to hear from you~!! 10dpo!! FX!!!!!

treasured - almost moving day!!!!

hope these moves will bring lots of luck and a sticky BFP!

 

[lauren26]

Wow!! Big times for treasured and pino moving and for lxb!!! Exciting!! This will be a good spring for the crazy ladies

 

[Pino6161]

Thanks everyone, but AF snuck up on me tonight so. Most likely I am not 11 DPO, but I am 12. It's so hard to tell for sure when I am not temping at all, and trying to temp in my parents house just isn't going to happen.

So I was major horney last night which is how I kind of knew the witch was going to fly in. Of course it didn't happen as OH was tired, and uncomfortable about having sex while people were in the house. I understand that completely so I can't really get mad but I had dream after dream about sex Then I woke up around 3am knowing AF started. Of course I hadn't brought my tampons inside from the storage garage and I didn't want to wake everyone up, so I used toilet paper Then for some reason OH's alarms didn't go off, so he was running late on his 2nd day of work. He leaves, and I go to get my tampons and of course, my dad's dogs go nuts so I KNOW he woke up the whole house. Luckily they were supposed to get up for school in 15 minutes anyways, but still. It has been one hell of a morning already.

I am not too bummed out over AF as I had hope most of my cycle, but this week has been so busy I haven't thought about it much, of course I just bought a HPT yesterday and now I don't get to POMS (pee on my stick ) Anyways usually I have a hint that AF is coming by cramping a couple days before hand, but this cycle there is nothing No symptoms at all besides actually getting my period.....