So I moved in with my OH in September of 2008, and my nephew moved in at the same time. My OH's family is from Caborca, Sonora, Mexico, so there is no English. So My SIL just let my MIL raise him. He was supposed to be going into the 2nd grade but got held back because he didn't know any English. So I taught him. The last 3 years I have taught him English, went to all his parent-teacher conferences and school functions, I helped with the homework. He was getting straight A's. I was SOOOO proud of him! My SIL only came every couple of months. He didn't even call her mom, he called her Morena (her nick-name) He called my MIL mom. The same thing with his dad. So then a little bit over a year ago Morena found out she was pregnant. Beto(my nephew) was 10. She decided that now that she was going to have a baby maybe she should have her whole family. Beto moved back to Mexico right after the baby was born, his mother decided he should go into the grade he was supposed to (a year ahead) and he failed his first year back. Iwas so upset. I had done everything to make sure he succeeded here, but while that happened he was not learning to read and write in Spanish, and Mexico's math is more advanced. I was so upset, not only did SIL get pregnant when he didn't even care about her own son, but was raising him, and trying to have my own. It'snot fare. I have been very civil to her though. As a gift, I bought her a beautiful stroller/car seat. The first time she came to visit with the baby, I was PISSED. The whole ride in the van/ shuttle to Tucson from Mexico the baby was on her lap! She was only 1 month old! All because she did not want to use the carseat I bought here so MIL bought her a used one for when she visits. Not Only was I mad because I spent almost $200 on the set, but it is so DANGEROUS. I was LIVID. My spanish maybe horribly broken, but I translate decently LOL
. So I vented for as whole week to my OH but he didn't have the guts to day ANYTHING. So I went next door, and I sat my MIL and SIL down. I told them that the next time that she comes, and when I drop them off things were going to be different. I told them that if that baby was not in a car seat when I picked them up, I would take the kids home, and they can find another ride to Marana (an hour away). I was not putting them in danger, and if they don't care about the kids they can walk their asses back. When I dropped them off, same thing. There is NO reason in the world to have 2 carseats! They got mad, but I didn't care. Not even a day after I told them this, we all went shopping. I was on the freeway. MIL in front seat, nephew, neice, and SIL in the back. I look back, and SIL had the baby out of the seat to feed her a bottle. I pulled over, right there on the freeway. I told SIL that if she didn't buckle that baby into the seat to get out. It was dangerous. I mean what if I got into an accident, it happens all the time. On top of that it was illegal, and I am the one that would have gotten in trouble. She goes on to say that the baby like to be held when fed. I said I don't care lock her up or get out! She was mad, but I was pissed!! Things have blown over since. After she left I was at work about 3 weeks later, and it turned out that my BIL(he has 3 kids) and one was really sick, and in the hospital. SO my MIL called my OH and asked if I could take her to the bank to send him money to help out w/ the hospital bills, it was urgent. So I got off work early to take her.(She doesn't know how to drive a standard, and doesn't like driving anyways) On our way there I ask her why they need the money, and tried to find out what was going on. She goes on to tell me that my SIL wants a car and so she is giving her the money for one. I blew up. She lied about what the money was for, and I got off work for what I thought was an emergency!! Anyways my in-laws are very selfish. It's all about them. So they bought a car, to come back and forth when they visit, and when the visit it is for months and my MIL pays for EVERYTHING clothing, food, shoes etc. It makes me mad the my SIL is such a mooch. My nephew is about to do his first communion, and thats why they are coming. MIL bought his clothing for it. My nephews English is going down the drain as well it really frustrates me. Sorry this was so long but I really needed to vent LOL