Donor Sperm IUI/IVF- 2012

[MrsC8776]

Hi ladies! I hope you all are doing well. I'm kinda lost in everything thats going on in here. I'm going to try to catch up real quick though.

CM~ Yay for starting meds and having ER so close! I'm beyond excited for you!! I have everything crossed that things will go great for you and DH one ER day. Do you have someone to drive you both home?

cbergs~ That would be a difficult situation. I don't think you have to be in love with the one you pick. Have you had your DH look for one? I had my hubby pick the ones he liked (if that can even be possible) and we decided from there.

Guen~ How are you doing?

DG~ Coming to terms with DS can be very difficult. I think a lot of us struggled with the decision. Until you are fully ready and comfortable with the idea it feels weird I guess is an ok way to put it. You guys just have to feel comfortable and think of what matters most. For us we knew that no matter the genes we would always have our child/children and they would always be ours. The fact that you may not have the same donor for child #2 is a big thing to think about. You could always order an extra vial and have it frozen waiting. We have one frozen at the clinic because it went unused but I have no idea if we will even try to use it now.

Piper~ Welcome Fx for you!

SB~ How are you doing? Are you still hanging around in here?

AFM~ The girls are trying to come early it seems. I went in for my twice weekly NST on Monday and got sent to L&D due to so many contractions. They kept me over night because I'm contracting every 1-5 minutes and 2.5 cm dilated. I'm still contracting and cramping but they sent me home because nothing had changed by the morning. I have a follow up appointment tomorrow and my 2nd NST. I truly don't believe these girls will stay in another week. I've been spotting old blood since they check my cervix in L&D. No matter what though they will let these girls come when they want to now because we are in the 34 week mark. It's too late to give steroids for their lungs but with the amount of hiccups they both get I'm sure their lungs are doing good in there. I'll try to keep you updated when and if things change.

I hope you all are doing well and so sorry if I missed anyone.

 

[CanadianMaple]

MrsC- That's exciting! I was a 34 weeker and went home after a few days. You're definitely at a good spot if you go into labour this week. Keep us updated.

AFM- We had our first follicle check. Day 4 of stims. They warned me before that I wouldn't see much in the u/s, the bloodwork tells the tale at this point. I had a triple lining already at 8.6 My follicles were bigger, only one above 10mm, it was 11mm and I had 40 under 10mm. The bloodwork was perfect and I go back on Sat. I worry about there being so many follicles that could mature. Since DH is getting the TESA the day before the ER, I think we can drive each other. His TESA is booked for a week from today, I'm even feeling nervous...

 

[Redhead7211]

My goodness I am behind...

MrsC-I'm so excited it's almost baby time. Is DH home yet? I'm sorry you're so uncomfortable, but you've almost got your beautiful little girls!

Piper-Welcome!

cbergs-Selecting DS that you and your DH like is a very challenging process. It was one that DH was not comfortable with at first. We talked a lot about how the person who raises the baby is the father, not the donor etc. Are you looking at multiple banks? I hope you find a winner!

CM-I'm so happy you're on your way! Everything sounds promising! I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!

G-I'll look into the endo diet. I just wonder if I have it, why they didn't see it when I had a lap done a few years ago? It will be nice just to get an answer though I am very anxious for the surgery!

Deafgal-Hey there!

AFM-I had an interview last week for a long term sub job teaching 11/12th grade English/Special Ed and I found out yesterday that I got the job! I'm very excited, but now I'm a little unsure of when to do the surgery. The teacher I'll be replacing is pregnant and is having complications so she can go out at any point. The students are on Feb. Recess next week, the following week the teacher wants me to shadow her, the week after that she may be out. I was debating on if I should try and get squeezed in for next week or wait for spring break in April. Or maybe I should just do it on any given Friday and then get my butt back to school on a Monday...I've been looking over the school calendar and I see 3/29 is good Friday so I could do it that day and have the following week off school for recess...I'm not really sure when to go in for it. If anyone wants to throw their two cents in please do!

I hope you ladies are doing well!!

 

[CanadianMaple]

Redhead- I'm a teacher too. My vote would be to get it done ASAP and then you can settle into your job without worrying about trying to plan it. I would worry they wouldn't be doing the procedures over the Easter long weekend. Would you have to shadow that teacher for the entire week the following week?

I had my day 6 appointment today. I had a different doctor and remember not really liking her back during my canceled IUI. She saw about 8-9 follicles at 11-13mm. More under 10. They told me it was still early to see how many we would end up with. My lining was only 6.3 today and I swear my RE said 8.6 on Thursday. They also said something about my blood flow to my uterus being low and how I needed to get out and walk for 20-30 minutes a day. That was always good before now so I have no idea what's going on. I'm feeling a bit nervous and hope Monday's appointment is more positive.

 

[CanadianMaple]

Day 8 appointment was great. We had a huge snowstorm yesterday and the roads were awful today. It was around 40cm of now plus high winds. It almost took us double time to get there and we were 40 minutes late.

I have ~14 follicles all between 11-15mm. My lining is over 10. My circulation was really good. They called me when I was just getting home and my labs were good enough to skip tomorrow and continue the same dosage of meds. When I go in on Wednesday, it could be my trigger day. Cross your fingers!

 

[Guenhwyvar]

Hey ladies! Hope everyone had a good weekend.

CM - DH was able to drive after all of his TESE without any problem. The ladies have already covered ice packs but don't forget loose clothing. He probably wont want tight boxers or pants for awhile.
I was just going to ask about todays apointment when I saw your post. Sounds like there's something off about the Dr you didn't like. Sounds like you have a nice selection of follies. Fx'd all goes as planned and that they actually find some swimmers and you wont need your donor.

MrsC - I'm good, nothing really to report. How are those girls? I hope they stay in a few more days even though I'm sorry you are in so much pain. It's going to be so worth it all though! Can't wait to get another update from you.

Redhead - That's a good question. Maybe it was so minor that it went undetected and with all the things going on ATM it's kicked it up a notch. *shrugs* It's hard to say. I'd say get the lap done ASAP, it's better knowing than not. I've come to realize that there is no such thing as the perfect timing, something will always come up. Plus it'll increase your chances and CM is right, this thread needs some more

AFM - Nothing to report. I'm expecting AF wed so we'll see if she is on time. I'm toying with the idea of using Soy Iso in the hopes that maybe my left ovary will produce a good follie. That right tube still concerns me. Our donor still hasn't backed out so I'm assuming he's still willing to help us out. DH will talk to him and confirm things once AF shows.
I hope everyone is doing good.

 

[want2beamamma]

Hi ladies,

Not sure if you remember me or not. I have decided I'm ready to join in again! OH and I have decided against the reversal and are going to try iui twice more! With using a donor of course. I am nervous but also excited. I was really hoping to go to Ivf.... Unfortunately that is not affordable. I wish we had some type of funding or could get a loan somehow. Do you ladies have any ideas?

 

[MrsC8776]

My goodness I am behind...

MrsC-I'm so excited it's almost baby time. Is DH home yet? I'm sorry you're so uncomfortable, but you've almost got your beautiful little girls!

Piper-Welcome!

cbergs-Selecting DS that you and your DH like is a very challenging process. It was one that DH was not comfortable with at first. We talked a lot about how the person who raises the baby is the father, not the donor etc. Are you looking at multiple banks? I hope you find a winner!

CM-I'm so happy you're on your way! Everything sounds promising! I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!

G-I'll look into the endo diet. I just wonder if I have it, why they didn't see it when I had a lap done a few years ago? It will be nice just to get an answer though I am very anxious for the surgery!

Deafgal-Hey there!

AFM-I had an interview last week for a long term sub job teaching 11/12th grade English/Special Ed and I found out yesterday that I got the job! I'm very excited, but now I'm a little unsure of when to do the surgery. The teacher I'll be replacing is pregnant and is having complications so she can go out at any point. The students are on Feb. Recess next week, the following week the teacher wants me to shadow her, the week after that she may be out. I was debating on if I should try and get squeezed in for next week or wait for spring break in April. Or maybe I should just do it on any given Friday and then get my butt back to school on a Monday...I've been looking over the school calendar and I see 3/29 is good Friday so I could do it that day and have the following week off school for recess...I'm not really sure when to go in for it. If anyone wants to throw their two cents in please do!

I hope you ladies are doing well!!

Dh is home with me. He decided to just stay home until about 6 weeks after the girls are born. It was a big relief for me since anything can happen at any time.

Congrats on getting the new job!! How long is recovery time for the surgery? If you have to do it on a weekend how tough do you think it would be on you during a school day while you are recovering? I think those are some things I would think about. Getting it done ASAP would be what I would do. That way you can have it done and not have to stress about it during the rest of the year.

Day 8 appointment was great. We had a huge snowstorm yesterday and the roads were awful today. It was around 40cm of now plus high winds. It almost took us double time to get there and we were 40 minutes late.

I have ~14 follicles all between 11-15mm. My lining is over 10. My circulation was really good. They called me when I was just getting home and my labs were good enough to skip tomorrow and continue the same dosage of meds. When I go in on Wednesday, it could be my trigger day. Cross your fingers!

Sorry about the snow storm. I imagine that would make things a little difficult. Sounds like you had a great appointment! I'm so excited that you are this close. Fx for Wednesday! Is your DH able to take what ever day off he needs for his part and to help you after ER?

Hey ladies! Hope everyone had a good weekend.

CM - DH was able to drive after all of his TESE without any problem. The ladies have already covered ice packs but don't forget loose clothing. He probably wont want tight boxers or pants for awhile.
I was just going to ask about todays apointment when I saw your post. Sounds like there's something off about the Dr you didn't like. Sounds like you have a nice selection of follies. Fx'd all goes as planned and that they actually find some swimmers and you wont need your donor.

MrsC - I'm good, nothing really to report. How are those girls? I hope they stay in a few more days even though I'm sorry you are in so much pain. It's going to be so worth it all though! Can't wait to get another update from you.

Redhead - That's a good question. Maybe it was so minor that it went undetected and with all the things going on ATM it's kicked it up a notch. *shrugs* It's hard to say. I'd say get the lap done ASAP, it's better knowing than not. I've come to realize that there is no such thing as the perfect timing, something will always come up. Plus it'll increase your chances and CM is right, this thread needs some more

AFM - Nothing to report. I'm expecting AF wed so we'll see if she is on time. I'm toying with the idea of using Soy Iso in the hopes that maybe my left ovary will produce a good follie. That right tube still concerns me. Our donor still hasn't backed out so I'm assuming he's still willing to help us out. DH will talk to him and confirm things once AF shows.
I hope everyone is doing good.

The girls are doing good. If I make it until Thursday we should have another guess as to how much they each weigh. I'm hoping that their weights have gotten closer together though. I'll keep you ladies updated!

I hope the talk goes well with your donor. Fx he doesn't back out and AF shows up on time this week.

Hi ladies,

Not sure if you remember me or not. I have decided I'm ready to join in again! OH and I have decided against the reversal and are going to try iui twice more! With using a donor of course. I am nervous but also excited. I was really hoping to go to Ivf.... Unfortunately that is not affordable. I wish we had some type of funding or could get a loan somehow. Do you ladies have any ideas?

Welcome back! Are you in the states? Theres places that do financing for IVF. I think some banks will give medical loans. Attain is a IVF financing place and I think Springstone is another one. Maybe look into those and also see if your clinic has some places they suggest.

 

[SunUp]

If you are in the US, google the CADE foundation

 

[Guenhwyvar]

Want2 - Welcome back!

MrsC - That's great that the girls are doing so good and the hubby has come home a little early. I bet he's extremely excited and nervous.

AF has decided to show up 2 days early. I'm excited and nervous all at once. Did any of you ladies ever have a moment where you think, "what the heck am I doing?" If this works (and I believe it will) everything is going to change, for the better without a doubt but still change. I'm tired of being jealous, and of people always asking why we don't have kids. I really want a child, I'm just afraid of change. Thoughts?

 

[mkwalsh]

Hi all, I've been semi-faithfully stalking you ladies for almost the start of this thread and I'm finally stepping out! I have admired all of your strength through each test and tribulation in the journey to conceive and for those of you have been blessed to achieve that, I am happier for you than words can describe and for those who are still trying, my heart goes out to you and you're never far from my thoughts and prayers.

DH and I have bounced back and forth on how and when to move forward with our TTC journey and after meeting with our fertility specialist we have finally gotten our go ahead to try a donor IUI cycle in May. We are both so nervous and so excited because so far this has been a 2 year journey in which DH found out he has only a few good men and that I have endometriosis. The tentative plan is to do a femara cycle in May with a trigger before the IUI.

CanadianMaple - I wish you the best of luck this cycle! Your journey has been a long and trying one and you've most definitely earned this easy cycle with a nice

I want to write more to each of you, but they're calling my flight. Happy Tuesday everybody!

Mel

 

[Redhead7211]

MK-Welcome! I'm glad you finally decided to join us! We all have been on incredible paths and I know I wouldn't have been able to maintain what sanity I have left if it weren't for these ladies. How did you find out you have endo? Have you and DH picked a donor yet?

CM-Woot woot! You're on your way to being on the baby train! I'm hoping you can trigger today! Any updates? What do you teach?

Want2-Welcome back babe! I'm glad you're feeling ready to start again. I'm not sure if what SunUp said is the same site, but there are sites out there where you can share your story and people can donate money to help you pay for IVF.

MrsC-I'm looking forward to seeing some baby pictures in the near future! Let us know about their weight. I'm glad DH is home, you must feel more comfortable with him there by your side.

Guenhwyvar-I would like to think (and MrsC and other mama's feel free to step in) that there is some kind of emotional change that happens when you know your pregnant and maybe you feel less scared (okay, okay maybe more scared...) or more settled or something. I don't know. I just try and think that life will change for the better. After I had my first IUI I remember a very distinct panic feeling that first night in. I was lying in bed and got so sick to my stomach and thought "Today could be that one moment that alters my life forever." I got all panic stricken and was afraid that maybe I would be a bad mom, how can we afford a baby...etc. I think it helps to talk it out. Whatever your feeling, someone else here has experienced. By the way-how nosey for people to question why you don't have kids. Geez...

Did your DH secure the donor goods?

AFM-A guy from work's wife just found out she has stomach cancer. There are only a few people in the department DH and I work in so unfortunately every moment I am not at school shadowing the teacher, I'll have to be there. I'm pulling for the surgery at the end of March/beginning of April.

Thanks for the congrats on the job! I'm very anxious to get started. I also have some reading to do before I start.

Much love to all of you!

 

[CanadianMaple]

I just did my trigger shot! OMG!! DH is going for his TESA tomorrow. We know the odds are low that we will get sperm but at least we will be able to move on from the what ifs. My visit today was great other than driving in yet another storm! We missed most of the freezing rain, thank goodness. My lining is thick and over 10, I have 14 follicles that are between 16-21mm and a few at 14 that could be ripe by Friday morning. They were very happy with everything again today.

Redhead- I teach grade 5. Half the year is intensive French and the other half is a compacted curriculum in English. It goes well and it feels great to switch back to their first language for the second term. I really love my job but I am so happy to be off now for a week and a half and then a week for March Break. I won't see them until mid-March now. It's always so hard to get started mid-year, but after a few weeks, it's good. What have you taught before this? So sad about your coworker's wife, is it a hard cancer to beat?

Mel- Welcome! I know it sounds funny to say but May will be here before you know it. I had to wait a year for this IVF and it's amazing now to see how fast those last 3 months really went once we had a plan. Have you chosen your donor yet?

MrsC- Are you still hanging in there? I can't believe your pregnancy is almost over!

How is everyone else?

 

[SunUp]

YAAAAAAAY CM!!!! Fingers crossed!!

Red, on your response to Gu en-as for me, there were times of panic in the beginning, but I am so excited now! All of that has calmed down for me, at least at this point! I guess in the beginning, it was like 'wow, this is so real!' but there is no turning back! (Not that I would ever want to, but you know what I mean). Once I saw his heart beat and him moving around, it really let me fall in love with him - and I have been in heaven!

 

[CanadianMaple]

No sperm. We're okay. He's still in recovery and we've had some tears but expected this.

 

[MrsC8776]

Hi all, I've been semi-faithfully stalking you ladies for almost the start of this thread and I'm finally stepping out! I have admired all of your strength through each test and tribulation in the journey to conceive and for those of you have been blessed to achieve that, I am happier for you than words can describe and for those who are still trying, my heart goes out to you and you're never far from my thoughts and prayers.

DH and I have bounced back and forth on how and when to move forward with our TTC journey and after meeting with our fertility specialist we have finally gotten our go ahead to try a donor IUI cycle in May. We are both so nervous and so excited because so far this has been a 2 year journey in which DH found out he has only a few good men and that I have endometriosis. The tentative plan is to do a femara cycle in May with a trigger before the IUI.

CanadianMaple - I wish you the best of luck this cycle! Your journey has been a long and trying one and you've most definitely earned this easy cycle with a nice

I want to write more to each of you, but they're calling my flight. Happy Tuesday everybody!

Mel

Welcome! I'm so glad you decided to join! There are a lot of great people here and as you can see from following, we do our best to support each other all the way. I hope that your May IUI will be all you need to get your BFP

MK-Welcome! I'm glad you finally decided to join us! We all have been on incredible paths and I know I wouldn't have been able to maintain what sanity I have left if it weren't for these ladies. How did you find out you have endo? Have you and DH picked a donor yet?

CM-Woot woot! You're on your way to being on the baby train! I'm hoping you can trigger today! Any updates? What do you teach?

Want2-Welcome back babe! I'm glad you're feeling ready to start again. I'm not sure if what SunUp said is the same site, but there are sites out there where you can share your story and people can donate money to help you pay for IVF.

MrsC-I'm looking forward to seeing some baby pictures in the near future! Let us know about their weight. I'm glad DH is home, you must feel more comfortable with him there by your side.

Guenhwyvar-I would like to think (and MrsC and other mama's feel free to step in) that there is some kind of emotional change that happens when you know your pregnant and maybe you feel less scared (okay, okay maybe more scared...) or more settled or something. I don't know. I just try and think that life will change for the better. After I had my first IUI I remember a very distinct panic feeling that first night in. I was lying in bed and got so sick to my stomach and thought "Today could be that one moment that alters my life forever." I got all panic stricken and was afraid that maybe I would be a bad mom, how can we afford a baby...etc. I think it helps to talk it out. Whatever your feeling, someone else here has experienced. By the way-how nosey for people to question why you don't have kids. Geez...

Did your DH secure the donor goods?

AFM-A guy from work's wife just found out she has stomach cancer. There are only a few people in the department DH and I work in so unfortunately every moment I am not at school shadowing the teacher, I'll have to be there. I'm pulling for the surgery at the end of March/beginning of April.

Thanks for the congrats on the job! I'm very anxious to get started. I also have some reading to do before I start.

Much love to all of you!

Red I fully agree with everything you said! Once it all happens theres nothing in the world you would change. Yes theres some fears but nothing can compare to the feeling of knowing you will have a LO (or two) in a short time.

So sorry to hear about your co workers wife. Try to take care of yourself while also being there for them.

No sperm. We're okay. He's still in recovery and we've had some tears but expected this.

I'm so so sorry CM. I know no words can help with the emotions. Just be there for each other during this time. Thinking of you both.

 

[CanadianMaple]

Just an update. They got 18 eggs today. 7 from my right side and 11 from my left. Our donor's sperm is amazing, high counts and 98% motility so they didn't even need to do ICSI. There is some natural selection happening right now. We get our fert report tomorrow morning.

 

[Guenhwyvar]

Mkwalsh - Welcome! I think it's great we can cheer one another on. Big

CM - I am so, so sorry hun. I wish there was something I could say or due.
It sounds like your ER went well at least, 18 eggs is fantastic! How are you both doing?

Redhead, SunUp & MrsC - Thanks so much for your thoughts. I know that all of my worries and panic will go away (only to be placed with new ones) once I get that specially little guy or gal. I'm feeling better today about the whole thing so again, thanks so much for sharing.

Redhead - I cannot believe I was so rude to not congratulate you on your new job! I'm so ashamed. Huge Congrats!
That is so horrible about your co-workers wife. Cancer if an awful thing. I'll make sure to keep her in my thoughts.
I believe I secured our donor. I let him know what dates we were looking at now and he said it sounded good so. What a relief!

AFM - Today's cd4, kinda boring really. Things are moving very slowly atm so I can only imagine for slow the TTW is going to be.
Hope the sun finds everyone today.

 

[raelynn]

Congrats CM! That is great! Hope you have great fertilization!

 

[CanadianMaple]

My husband just died suddenly. We have 13 perfect little embryos right now. I am in total shock. He collapsed in the middle of the night two nights ago.