Giving birth in a hotel room

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To me, it doesn't seem logical to use the argument that "far worse and messier things happen in a hotel room all the time", then in the next breath speak of it as being a far safer environment to expose a newborn to than a hospital? Personally, if I were able to provide examples of disgusting acts that often occur in an environment that lacks proper sanitization, I would reconsider if that were a proper location to introduce a newborn child with a weak immune system to. I don't think anyone is arguing with you about the choice to have an out-of-hospital birth, therefore the notion that we are all blind, uneducated lemmings is somewhat flawed.
 
Im.saddened by all the scaremongering posts on here :( I'd never heard of hotel births before and it did sound a little unusualbut after doing some.research it seems its becoming a growing practice among women who want out of hospital births and have no other options -even some I've read were simply because there were too many people in their house and they wanted peace and quiet.

Google took me to many other forums where similar questions had been posed and the answers were always respectful even when the poster didn't agree with birthing in a hotel.

Good grief.

Aside from a few posts, I have a good feeling many of the reactions you see are in response to the OP's attitude towards everyone.
 
It's not the hotel part that is bothering most of us, its the lying, sneaking around, and deceiving the hotel that we disagree with. If you ever have to "cover your tracks" in anything you do, you probably shouldn't do it. Just a good rule of thumb.
 
And for that reason I wouldn't do it myself (the sneaking in) but everyone who plans hotel births does the same.
 
It's not scaremongering. If you need assistance for your baby who happens to be born not breathing or something, your MW may not be able to fix the situation. They're not doctors, they're just midwives. Of course being in the hospital sucks. But I'd rather have a healthy baby than an "experience"
 
^^ I agree. We just want the baby to be safe, and we are glad you are giving birth near a hospital just in case, its just sneaking in that dosent sit right. Im just afraid if someone hears for whatever reason they will call 911 and that will cause issues.

I again (saying it again) dont have any issues with an out of hospital birth as long as you are safe. Just thinking a hotel that dosent like babies being born there is the best option. Thats all. :)
 
Midwives are extremely capable Of dealing with complications but generally advise hospital transfer at the earliest signs of things needing medical attention, and out of hospital that's usually seen a lot earlier actually. They'll be right across from hospital should any complications arise.

There are many women who, in the same situation being two hours from a hospital or midwife, would choose to have an unassisted home birth. She is making a decision that she reels is the safest one for her and her baby.

Anyway I'm unsubscribing now. Probably would have been better to post in the home birth section where this would have been a less contentious topic.

All the best Viola.
 
There is just so much I don't understand about this post. First off you say that you have to travel really far to get to the hospital and that is why you need the hotel room close to the hospital and then you say you live on a very small island?

I am not sure how you would know that you didn't need the C-section last time? This WHOLE thing is just weird.
 
I wonder if this thread should be closed. It doesn't seem to be helping anyone.
 
ive already asked that it be closed.

again, no one is arguing an out of hospital birth. Many women dont like hospitals (me being one of them)
 
My OH is a biomedical engineer and works closely with biohazardous waste. I just read him your comparison to semen or puke and he had a good laugh. Then said "that is an absolutely ridiculous comparison."

So maybe reevaluate your nonchalant attitude towards that part. ;)
 
My OH is a biomedical engineer and works closely with biohazardous waste. I just read him your comparison to semen or puke and he had a good laugh. Then said "that is an absolutely ridiculous comparison."

So maybe reevaluate your nonchalant attitude towards that part. ;)

Has he ever seen a HB? Maybe he doesn't realize they are not messy.

I'm unsubscribing now. I can see points from both sides of this argument but the thread doesn't seem to be at all constructive.
 
Some people may have had a birth where their OPINION is that it is not messy.

I planned a homebirth, and I eventually gave birth in the hospital......I'm GLAD that was not in my house. There was blood on the floor, all over the bed, sheets/towels etc all over the place, I vomited 4 times.

So birth CAN be messy - VERY messy. And I am damn sure I would not want to clean up after that!
 
sue I was the same, I actually couldnt believe how messy the room got and how on earth there was blood in places!
 
My OH is a biomedical engineer and works closely with biohazardous waste. I just read him your comparison to semen or puke and he had a good laugh. Then said "that is an absolutely ridiculous comparison."

So maybe reevaluate your nonchalant attitude towards that part. ;)

Has he ever seen a HB? Maybe he doesn't realize they are not messy.

I'm unsubscribing now. I can see points from both sides of this argument but the thread doesn't seem to be at all constructive.

Oh, sorry. I didn't realize there was no blood, mucus, amniotic fluid or placenta involved in a hotel birth.
 
Question for the OP ( if you are still active in the thread): If you require transport in the later stages of labor, is someone going to stay behind to clean up, or would the hotel staff have to step in?
 
Where im from a lot of women do this, especially women that want to VBAC and are limited due to hospitals rules/regulatitions. There is nothing wrong with this.

I would contact the hotel ahead of time, personally. You don't want to get nailed for something they don't want. Go speak with them in person, tell them ur plans how you'll keep the hotel clean, work out a damage deposit. There is NOTHING wrong with this option, ever.

But don't hide it from the hotel.
 
Per previous posts there will be professionals there.

I'm not to worried about the deception part sincere first concern is my baby, not the hotel.

It's a really swanky hotel with a one bedroom suite. These places specialize in privacy so I'm expecting decent soundproofing.

Lots of people do this! Especially in the US where people can't afford 15k for a hospital birth.

I really don't agree that hotels are that dangerous nor that a baby will automatically be in danger if he's in a hotel.

Thanks for all the replies

I agree, hospitals aren't as clean as people think they are, and they are full of sick people, and sick germs.
 
Just because you don't agree with it doesn't make it wrong. A women deservers the right to birth how she wants, and where she wants. Whether it be in a hospital or the top of a mountain.

Hospitals are not clean places, they are not the safest place in the world. Lots of children are born, and get colds after leaving the hospital.

Home births, could go in to many of the "concerns" people brought up here, our houses are not property clean either.

I think the problem with this, is people just don't know its really more common than they think. As a VBAC'er going to a hospital may not have been an option for me, because we have a lot of VBAC bans where I am. Luckly I am traveling 2 hours to a hospital that will allow it. But, a hotel birth was an option we looked in too. SHe is beside the hospital if something was to happen, if they got kicked from the hotel room, they can still go to the hospital.

As for cleaning, if they use sheets and protective covers, and trash this stuff on their own. There is nothing more than the normal sanitary stuff the hotel staff has to do. Its non different than a drunk guy shitting, and puking and shooting his semen all over a hotel. Or a drug addict shooting up in a hotel and leaving his blood splattered on the walls of the bathroom, or a fight that has broken out.There is some nasty crap that happens in hotels (beside giving birth).

IF you have a birth team who is prepared for this, they can clean as they go, they can keep things in order they can keep the mess minimized. In a hospital they aren't worried about this, and its just let the mess happen, clean later. Why? because they have a cleaning team that does this.

This is her right, and just because her midwife agrees with it, doesn't make her midwife a bad person either, or that she is doing some 'wrong'. If this is something you don't understand, or don't agree with, maybe its better you don't comment on it. A good birth team supports your choices, and is supporting off you.

Because nothing she says is going to change your views on it, and at the end of the day, this is her choice.

My guess form the comments here, and bout the placenta being 'biohazord' (Ummm people take this home all the time). the hospital may call it that, but you don't have to trash it. That the majority of people commenting have never had a out of hospital birth experience, or would even consider it.

lets talk about women that plan births in cars, in the hospital parking lot, because they don't feel comfortable in a hospital? lets talk about women who birth outside, lets talk about women who birth where ever they please. We have this right as women.
 
It's totally different from a homebirth because that takes place on your property and you've consented to it.

Unless it's okayed by the hotel and they, as well as the midwife, are prepared to do adequate clean-up to ensure that it is a safe and clean environment for the next guest, it strikes me as being pretty disrespectful.

If she talks to the hotel and they say it's fine, then no problems.

Ultimately, it's hiding the fact that she's going to be introducing a whole bunch of biohazardous waste (like it or not, that's what it is - it's picked up from hospitals and specially sterilized for a reason) into their environment that I see as the problem here.
 
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