Dh and I always wanted a big family. I grew up as a lonely only and I hate it now and feel like I really missed out by not having more siblings ESP since I had health issues and was bullied for it bad and never had any long term friends growing up. Dh has a big 4 child family and enjoyed it so much that he wanted the same.
However, I have gotten really badly sick during each postpartum...alopecia, thyroid issues, vitamin deficiency, ECT and I have to really evaluate if it is wise for me to have any more.