Sorry guys gonna have a rant and rave to get it out of my system...
The other night I told hubby that my sister had put in an offer for a house near to where we live. His reply was "oh" but in a completely disinterested way. So I said he could be a bit more interested then the tirade came out he doesn't give a fuck about my family what they do or don't do he couldn't give a shit.
As you expect the tears came out as he said it with such hatred which hurt even more.
Basically it is such double standards with him, I supposed to listen to all the troubles and trials his brother causes without ever backing his side or seeing where his brother is comin from without being accused of being as stupid as they are etc...
Today it's bank holiday here so we were both off. We were driving out when he asked what are the plans an I said that soon we'll have to start to think about redecorating the room for the baby. Which then started it all off that he said the room is fine (it's a bright pale blue with scratches, scuffes and marks over the walls) and I said that its blue and I wanted a more nutural colour so either sex. Blue is apparently fine for either sex and he said "there are two of us in this relationship" meaning that what he says goes.... he said loads more but just cannot be bothered to write it all down again.
Is it wrong for me to want to get the nursery nice, it feels as though sometimes every time I try to get excited about this baby he knocks the excitement out of me.
So now I feels as though I just have to keep silent about my family now, my job (which in th past he moaned that I came back home one day and didn't atop talking about it) this baby. Basically anything that doesn't directly involve him as the number one priority or who it is all about.
Since this morning we have not spoken I've just avoided him as he'll say something horrible or text something horrible, learnt to just ignore him completely.
all I want is someone who just asks how I'm doing, feeling or takes what I'm going through into consideration. All those men out there that don't let their partners lift a finger or just looks after them whilst pregnant .... mine is complete opposite. Doesn't help out I cooked a meal for his mother and stepfather yesterday, not even a thank you or let me help you...
Feel so alone at times. Doesn't help with all the hormones either, feeling especially emotional at the moment.
Rant over....
Oh dear, I'm sorry you have to go through this. Is he having stress at work? Would you be able to have a conversation with him about the way he is making you feel?
You have every right to do the nursery. That's what moms do. There is no reason not to. I went out and bought expensive zero VOCC paint in the color I wanted and my mom came over and helped paint. DH ended up doing the edges. A reasonable compromise would be to paint it neutral. Blue is not acceptable (to me) for a girl. It just doesn't make sense to me??
Just so you don't feel alone... My DH does not baby me. He doesn't hold me and touch my belly, he doesn't ask me how I'm feeling. It aggravates me and hurts and sometimes I say hurtful things to him like OMG, do you not love these babies? And I'm sure I've said other things.
but he's been great in other areas... Like working to get things done. I dunno DH and I don't communicate well and that leads to loads of problems. But most of the time ill RE approach him in a gentle way and the problem will get resolved. Maybe you can do the same?
I read a great article about stress and stuff while pregnant:
I don't have the link but I copy and pasted the two points that resonates with me as I was mad as hell with DH at the time.
Here :
5. Consider the long-term effects of your emotional life. One of the most controversial areas of prenatal research is the study of correlations between a mother's emotional life while pregnant and the later personality of her child. Is an anxious mother more likely to produce an anxious baby? Studies relating maternal attitudes to the emotional development of the offspring do indeed reveal a tendency for anxious mothers to produce anxious babies. They also show that mothers who resented being pregnant and felt no attachment to their babies were more likely to have children who had emotional problems. Mothers with less anxious pregnancies, whose babies were wanted and loved, tended to have emotionally healthy children. While studies suggest that the short-term emotional upsets and quickly resolved anxieties that occur in all pregnancies do not harm the baby emotionally, major emotional disturbances and unresolved stresses throughout the pregnancy, may lead to emotionally troubled children. Extreme maternal distress even poses a risk of hurting baby physically, as it has been linked with increased risk of prematurity and low birth weight.
6. Understand the stress-hormone link. What could cause this fascinating correlation between maternal thoughts and fetal personality development? Certainly, mother's emotions don't cross the placenta, but her hormones do. Researchers believe that a stressed mother produces an abundance of stress hormones called catecholamines, which have been shown to, in turn, affect emotions. When catecholamines are taken from frightened animals and injected into other animals, the recipients act frightened as well. Scientists theorize that these chemical stressors cross the placenta and "frighten" the developing nervous system. If it happens often enough, the fetus actually gets used to feeling chronically stressed. His system is prepared to overreact to stimuli. Babies who are born with an already overcharged and possibly disturbed nervous system show more emotional disturbances and gastrointestinal upsets, which will earn this baby the label "colicky."
my hematoma is still there, but the nurse said it's not near the placenta so shouldn't be a threat to the baby... 
Ughhhh!!
