Going for it - I can really relate to your post! My DH also isn’t coping with the sleep deprivation even though he actually doesn’t help with Aubrey at all during the night! He helps with the older two, but they slept through the night 4 nights in a row and he still needed a 4-hour nap the one day and a 2-hour nap the next.
It’s
honestly quite frustrating, but at least he has been letting me sleep in each day which makes a huge difference to me so I am trying not to complain.
How has it gone with your husband returning to work this week? I hope you have been coping okay. The cluster feeding til 2:30 am sounds Exhausting! Aubrey did the same thing the first few nights but now she seems to settle by midnight, which is definitely more manageable! You poor thing.
I’m sorry your toddler is having a difficult adjustment period. I remember when I first had dd2, my dd1 had a horribly hard time with it. She acted out big time and made herself really hard work. I realize she was misbehaving to get attention, but it was still so difficult. I also felt like we had lost our special one-on-one bond and I cried a lot and felt terribly guilty about it. It is really hard! So you are not alone. I hope your toddler adjusts soon.
I am sorry you have an infection but I hope the antibiotics clear it up very quickly!
Serenyx - sorry you’ve been experiencing the same pain with initial latching. Have you found it has gotten any better? My pain has thankfully subsided, although sometimes it still pinches a little. For me, I found that using lanolin cream at night and nursing in the side-lying position at night seemed to help give them the rest they needed. After a couple days, the pain subsided. If you’re still having a lot of pain, I would definitely ask a nurse or LC about it.
We are the exact same here with having to cosleep out of necessity. Aubrey simply won’t settle at night in the bassinet. At first, she would never settle in the bassinet, but now I am able to get her to nap there during the day, but as soon as 10 pm hits, she refuses to settle in there. I need sleep so am just going with it. I, too, co-slept with my other 2 but would prefer not to have to co-sleep with her SO young. It makes me nervous. However, I really cannot stay up all night so this is how it has to be. I am going to continue to encourage naps in the bassinet during the day and hope that it eventually helps at night.
That is very cautious of you and your DH to take turns staying awake and watch her. Must be exhausting. When does your DH return to work?
Ashley - I am so sorry that correcting the tongue tie has resulted in so much pain and difficulty latching for her! That is terrible that no one warned you. You had no way of knowing, so try not to feel guilty about it. You were doing what you thought was best! Hopefully she is in a lot less pain soon. I’m sure the first few days would be the worst? Hang in there, mama! You’re doing an awesome job!
AFM - sorry I haven’t updated in a few days. I have been reading and loved all the updates but have been too overwhelmed and busy to reply. The days are just passing by in a blur and I can’t believe how quickly time is passing. Last night I had a little cry that she doesn’t look the same anymore and wishing I could re-live her first 24 hours again. I am having a very emotional time with the “baby blues” and am really hoping they subside soon.
My DH has been working from home way too much during his “holidays” and it has been very disappointing to me. He will now take an extra couple days off next week to “make up” for the extra time he worked, but it honestly doesn’t begin to cover for him being busy constantly during his supposed time off. I am feeling frustrated, but trying to be grateful for him at least being home.
The girls are adjusting pretty nicely and love having a baby sister so much. However, there have definitely been some meltdowns. They also want to hold Aubrey a bit too much and I tend to feel smothered trying to fit all 3 on my lap at once, but I’m glad they’re pretty happy at least.
I hope the pain subsides quickly and she latches on again soon.
