January Jelly Beans 2014!

[lian_83]

Sincerest condolences to Radiance.

 

[shellideaks]

Congrats on team blue Lucy

 

[SBinRI]

Love and prayers for strength & peace to Radiance and her family.

 

[salamander91]

Congratulations Lucy! Love his name.

 

[wrightywales]

Congratulations Lucy

 

[hakunamatata]

Congrats Lucy!!

 

[Lucy529]

First off thanks

I need some advice I might just be hormonal but I made a comment about how I realized my hubby really wanted a boy (he would of been just as happy had it been a girl) but men always want the mini me LOL but a friend who as had many losses messagespd me saying well after her losses I should just be happy my lo is healthy which I am and I know what a blessing he is to us but is there anything wrong with being excited

I might not have had as many losses but I was given a slim to none chance of conceiving on my own. I know it's a miracle am this far but am so happy my hubby gets a little buddy (he acts like kid too LOL) I don't know I might of taken it the wrong way it just upset me

 

[hakunamatata]

It's totally normal DH wants a boy - mine wanted one too even though he loves our little girl dearly. It's sad your friend has gone through all that, but she still shouldn't be peeing on your parade and sending you judgmental messages like that IMO.

 

[Ameli]

Lucy, I agree with Hakuna. She's probably hurting and a bit jealous. Just try to keep in mind that her comments to you have more to do with her than anything you said.

 

[Lucy529]

Ameli I understand she's hurting and I tried to limit how much I shared bc I do know how hard it is she's removed me as her friend so I guess that's that. Her comment first angered me but its made me cry too

 

[Ameli]

You did nothing wrong. I'm sorry she's reacting this way and taking it out on you. It's a shame, and hopefully she'll calm down and realize how irrational and unfair it is for her to behave that way. But either way, you haven't done anything wrong here in my opinion.

 

[MommaBarry]

Awww Lucy

First off yay!!! your having a boy!!!

As for your friend, its sad she cant just be happy for you. And if she has now removed you as her friend, you can now not feel censored to share your good news.

 

[Lucy529]

Thanks ladies am going to cheer myself up and get hubby to take me to get a few things for our boy so glad I have you all

 

[hakunamatata]

Ameli I understand she's hurting and I tried to limit how much I shared bc I do know how hard it is she's removed me as her friend so I guess that's that. Her comment first angered me but its made me cry too

That's crazy!!!

If it makes you feel any better, I had one friend who was LTTC who literally stopped talking to me when I got pregnant w/ #2. She still talks to all our mutual friends except for me and it SUCKS. Funny enough, she has one kid, and the friends she is talking to all have one kid, and the only difference between me and all our other mutual friends is that I'm on my second kid. So it's like extra special punishment for me. I have been nothing but supportive of her the entire time she's been TTC, and like you, I also limited what I shared about the pregnancy but clearly it's a jealousy issue on her end. It sounds like your friend is having jealousy issues too.

Oddly enough, my other LTTC friends who don't have any kids haven't shut me out. It's just this one person. So I know I didn't do anything wrong. And neither did you!

 

[Lucy529]

Hakuna wow some people I'm glad I have you guys as support as I don't have many friends as is so thanks, am feeling better my hubby hugged me and said to ignore negative things we know we love our son and that should be enough.

I guess I should prepare myself my BIL wanted a son really bad so bad he was pissed when they told him their last was a girl, he married my cousin and she no longer can have kids so were just waiting for that reaction.

 

[vtjess423]

Congrats again on the boy, Lucy!! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that reaction from your friend. You haven't done anything wrong and even though she is hurting, it's no reason to take it out on you. Maybe when she's had time to think about things, she'll realize that she was wrong. I agree with your hubby and that you should just ignore the negative comments. You'll both love your son no matter what and that will be enough!

On a different note, I had my OB appointment yesterday and it went well. I got to hear my bean's hb and it was about 150. She found it pretty quickly but we didn't hear it for too long before he/she moved away. My doc tried to find it again, but didn't try to hard as she'd heard enough. So while I'm not feeling too much movement yet, my bean is definitely active! I got some blood work done to test for downs and a few other things and since I've been having some cramping they are going to test me for a UTI, just to make sure. My nurse said they should have the results for that by Monday. I was also given my slip to schedule my 20 week scan and she wants it done between 2-3 weeks from now. She said no sooner just to make sure they can see what they need to see. I didn't get a chance to call and make the appointment yesterday but I'm going to call on Monday. So in a few days I'll at least have a date to look forward to!

I hope everyone is having a good Saturday!

 

[Ameli]

Exciting, VTJess! Can't wait to hear about your scan!

 

[Lucy529]

Vtjess great news can't wait to hear about your scan. I have my official 20 week one in two weeks this time with a specialist I have to travel 3 hrs for, it was closer but now they're sending me to another one

 

[vtjess423]

I can't wait either!! But that kinds stinks that you have to drive 3 hours to see the specialist Lucy. I'm sure it'll be worth it though when you seen your boy on the screen! Where I go is right up the street from me so that makes it easy; they do all kinds of scans there - xrays, ultrasounds, mammograms, MRIs, etc. When I was pg with my son I had to see a specialist as well because they were worried about his growth. But that specialist is only about an hour from me so it wasn't too bad.

 

[Try Rocking]

Having to drive 3 hours is harsh, at least it's nice weather and not in the middle of winter!
Congratulations on your little boy!

I have my ultrasound in 48 hours and 12 minutes (but who's keeping track?) and I'm keeping everything crossed that Monkey does not keep anything crossed lol
I'd love another girl but as long as my baby is healthy I will be thrilled. I just can't wait to find out!