January Jellybeans 2013!...

[brieri1]

I got some really bad news last night that has saddened and stressed us out. My husband has a cyst in his back and needs back surgery. Not only will it probably take him 6-9 months to fully recover once he has it, but we're probably going to be med held until he does. I am so upset. My husband is 25, he shouldn't be facing things like back surgery. On top of that, we're having a baby in a couple months, I need his help and I don't want to have this baby here. This is a horrible place. I want to go home and have it where our family is and start our lives after the Marine Corps. It seems like things just keep coming up to stop us. I feel very disheartened.

 

[Nikkilewis14]

I got some really bad news last night that has saddened and stressed us out. My husband has a cyst in his back and needs back surgery. Not only will it probably take him 6-9 months to fully recover once he has it, but we're probably going to be med held until he does. I am so upset. My husband is 25, he shouldn't be facing things like back surgery. On top of that, we're having a baby in a couple months, I need his help and I don't want to have this baby here. This is a horrible place. I want to go home and have it where our family is and start our lives after the Marine Corps. It seems like things just keep coming up to stop us. I feel very disheartened.

awe so sorry you are both going through this.. but I have total faith that you two will be just fine! Try to take care of each other as much as you can, I am sure people and friends will be around if you need some help or some time.. You do want this baby here, and although it may not be at the best time, you will have that baby and wonder why you were so upset about everything before.. Good luck and I know everything will work itself out!

 

[Little J]

Brier- Im sorry to hear that hun, hopefully things will all work out well


La Mere- Hope to see you pop back in soon!

 

[gingermango]

Off to the docs tonight ... quite nervous about it as Im asking her to sign me off work but hopefully she will be sympathetic.

Also my ds is three today its gone sooo quickly. This day three years ago I posted on a bnb thread called Sptembryos 09 to say he was on his way

 

[DittyByrd]

Oh man, did i have a break down the other night with hubby. I was watching some DVD's we got from our insurance company and Similac (from a kit we got for free) and it was VERY informational! I was watching it, and hubby came home from an errand and noticed it and commented on it, but then went to his "man cave" and started watching football. I wa to the BRIM of me being the one putting forth the effort to learn about our new baby etc. and so i flipped out and started cryin sayding how i feel like somtimes i chose the wrong partner to marry and have a baby (hormones.... i know). So basically after i guilt tripped him he came and watched them with me, but it wasnt the same. I just wish he would do things on his own, it would make me feel like he cares more (even tho i know hes excited to be a dad, but i dont think he realizes it takes ALOT of work and its not always the fun stuff) I told him being a dad starts before the baby is born and hes been super sucky at it. If i could give him a grade, hed get a C!

All he tells me is "you didnt ask". and i snapped by "no one asks me to watch those DVDs or wash the babies clothes yadda yadda, but I STILL DO IT BC I WANT THE BEST FOR OUR BABY!"

sorry for the rant... just had to get it off my chest! Hopefully that gets his butt in gear now bc im really tired of having to feel like pulling teeth to get some help

Men simply don't get it. I feel the same way sometimes when DH isn't as excited about a kick or an outfit as I am. Remember, he has a hard time feeling connected now but will as soon as baby arrives!

 

[DittyByrd]

My little man was so quiet yesterday... First time I was really worried but woke up this morning to him practicing his karate by my ribs so feel relieved!!

I have been tired too but the last two days I've had crazy nesting! Sunday I was on my hands and knees scrubbing the bathroom like a maniac- I think I may have actually scared dh a little! Haha! And then yesterday I came home and made a huge dinner, baked muffins for breakfast, and brownies to take to work. Then cleaned up everything even though dh kept offering to do do. I'm just trying to enjoy the energy bursts while they're here because I know it won't last!!

Anyone else starting to feel a little nervous? It's like since V day I've realized that my body could actually have this baby early and at any time. I really hope he stays in there for awhile still but it's starting to feel very real and I have so much to do still. Called our attorney yesterday to work on getting a will and trying to put some things in place but feel overwhelmed by my house and all that I need to get done!

I get nervous when I'm not doing something to get ready. DH jokes that I cannot stay still and it's true. I feel overwhelmed with baby preparation and the idea I will be a mom in less than 4 months. There is so much I want to get done. AHHHHH!!!!!

 

[ARuppe716]

Just found out what the group b strep test consists of and I'm kind of freaking out. Any mommies care to calm me down by telling me it was over really quick and wasn't that bad?

 

[BlossomJ]

Brieri - I'm sorry to hear about DH. It's awful that you're both having to go through this, especially right now of all times. You will both get through it though & I'm sure as difficult as it might be, when baby arrives you'll both be happy - it will take DH's mind of his back & the time will go really quick. Fingers crossed for you both that the surgery goes really well & his recovery time is quicker than expected

 

[mammaspath]

here is my 22 weeks bump!

brier - sorry about the news.......;prayers for aspeedy recovery!

hi to the newbie!

lillian - you are so tiny!

and yay for all the ladies 100 days or less!

 

[JCh]

Just found out what the group b strep test consists of and I'm kind of freaking out. Any mommies care to calm me down by telling me it was over really quick and wasn't that bad?

I just got to talk about this yesterday with my cousin.
She said they do them both really quickly and although it's odd since we don't usually get that kind of swab, she said it didn't hurt - was just weird to have done....

 

[mellywelly]

any UK people that want Tommee teepee (sp?) bottles, just seen them half price at Argos!

 

[Poppy84]

Gave my maternity leave date into work today. 9 weeks and 3 days to go!!!! Yay! Although I wish it was sooner

 

[sassy_mom]

Brieri sorry you are going through this! I know it must be a struggle but try and keep your head up. If you do have to stay where you are and not near family, think of it as just temporary. Once your DH gets through surgery and recovers, perhaps then moving will be an option. I do hope that his surgery is successful and he heals quickly. Hang in there. I know it is cliche but remember it is always darkest before the dawn.

 

[Little J]

mammaspath- cute little bump! I also like your bathroom decor!

 

[Kaiecee]

I hate my mom .... I know hate is a strong word but since I broke up with my ex cuz he cheated etc after 12 years and 2 kids she hasn't stopped being against me saying it was my fault cuz I had gained weight keep in mind so did he but then when my ex stole my kids for 2 month and me freaking out my mom knew the whole time where they were and didn't tell me now its been almost a year I don't talk to her but found out she talks to him all the time but refuses to talk to me how us this My fault he cheated he broke up the family but my fault I hate her so much ur mom is not suppose to to do this sorry about the rant just saddens me that she can do this to me

 

[La Mere]

La Mere - Sorry there is tension. We will miss you chatting regularly. Will definitely be watching for your updates!

Thanks, Sassy.

Hi ladies

Been thread stalking and wanted to say hello!

Hi there and welcome!

La Mere - Hope the tension eases. I'm not on here that much I guess, but can understand where your DH is coming from as I get a bit frustrated sometimes that DH is constantly emailing for work during the evenings & wkends (except I know he needs to). It's lovely that you're putting him first.

MissMummy - Good luck! I hope the home loan works out. We have just been renting this last year while deciding where to move to & I am ready to have my own home again. I would have dug up half the garden here & changed it were it our house... plus there are lots of little things that drive me mad about the house, but we can't change them (Or at least it's not worth the expenditure).

Sonia - Yey for 99 days! It's count down time!

Still seems like forever until I break the 100 day mark as I'm pretty much last!

Will update on the house situation later. I'm not feeling too hopeful this morning

Thanks, blossom. I do try cuz I asked the same of him. To keep offline so much. So if I want him to do it for me I have to do it for him

Brier- Im sorry to hear that hun, hopefully things will all work out


La Mere- Hope to see you pop back in soon!

Pop! LOL, just real quick.

I got some really bad news last night that has saddened and stressed us out. My husband has a cyst in his back and needs back surgery. Not only will it probably take him 6-9 months to fully recover once he has it, but we're probably going to be med held until he does. I am so upset. My husband is 25, he shouldn't be facing things like back surgery. On top of that, we're having a baby in a couple months, I need his help and I don't want to have this baby here. This is a horrible place. I want to go home and have it where our family is and start our lives after the Marine Corps. It seems like things just keep coming up to stop us. I feel very disheartened.

I am so sorry to hear about your husband's surgery. Sending lots of thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery!

Mammaspath- adorable bump, hun!!



Here's some bump pics to tide you girls over! A few from yesterday at 24+3 and a couple from this morning at 24+4!
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-24160809_zps2a064251.jpg
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-24133156_zpsa7c8774f.jpg
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-24160742_zpsa98a8bf1.jpg

This morning.
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-25094729_zps7c2063bd.jpg
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-25114429_zpseebe7bb4.jpg
https://i1141.photobucket.com/albums/n588/Rayvens_Mama/2012-09-25114448_zps703ab64d.jpg

Talk to you lovely ladies in a few days!

 

[sassy_mom]

Kaicee sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is sad when your own family turns against you. I know it really hurts and from what it sounds like, it is a very messed up situation but keep thinking that having that negativity out of your life is what is best for everyone.

 

[DeedeeBeester]

I hate my mom .... I know hate is a strong word but since I broke up with my ex cuz he cheated etc after 12 years and 2 kids she hasn't stopped being against me saying it was my fault cuz I had gained weight keep in mind so did he but then when my ex stole my kids for 2 month and me freaking out my mom knew the whole time where they were and didn't tell me now its been almost a year I don't talk to her but found out she talks to him all the time but refuses to talk to me how us this My fault he cheated he broke up the family but my fault I hate her so much ur mom is not suppose to to do this sorry about the rant just saddens me that she can do this to me

I'm so sorry Kaiecee, I can only imagine how sucky that must feel. Be glad, though, that you were able to find a man that won't take you for granted. and that you're not stuck with the same BS as with your ex.

 

[Kaiecee]

Sassy & deedee
Thanks so much and ur right about everything at least I have a man that is here for me

 

[Lilahbear]

I got some really bad news last night that has saddened and stressed us out. My husband has a cyst in his back and needs back surgery. Not only will it probably take him 6-9 months to fully recover once he has it, but we're probably going to be med held until he does. I am so upset. My husband is 25, he shouldn't be facing things like back surgery. On top of that, we're having a baby in a couple months, I need his help and I don't want to have this baby here. This is a horrible place. I want to go home and have it where our family is and start our lives after the Marine Corps. It seems like things just keep coming up to stop us. I feel very disheartened.

Sorry to hear your news. I hope your husband makes a quick recovery.