Just letting you know there will be a change to this section (On hold for feedback)

[JK1978]

long term is 12+ months but this section is also for (and will be made available to) those who have known fertility problems.

Sam's mum stated the reasons why it's being closed very well. And in answer to your question I believe that in Wobbs post she said that the section will still be viewable to everyone

Thanks

 

[DaisyDuke]

OMG he is adorable what a lovely bum, u should put that pic on his 18th bday party invited

 

[sam's mum]

long term is 12+ months but this section is also for (and will be made available to) those who have known fertility problems.

Sam's mum stated the reasons why it's being closed very well. And in answer to your question I believe that in Wobbs post she said that the section will still be viewable to everyone

Yeah 12month+ or assisted conception or fertility probs e.t.c.

Nicky personally i think u more than qualify for this section

Sams mum i think we will all be able to see the threads just not be able to post is that right?

That's what I was hoping. And clearly I didn't read the original post very well, sorry Sounds good - thanks everyone x

 

[JK1978]

Thanks Yes it is...I have so much to embarrass the poor boy with when he grows up! x

I LOVE IT!!! hahaha Poor fella

 

[FsMummy]

i think its a good idea. its a shame though because i like to post in here every now and again to offer support but i dont think im in here enough to warrant joining the section. i think this will be best for all the ltttcers though and pos save some heartache. good idea wobbles x

 

[Koobie1982]

I think this is a great idea

 

[Wobbles]

I have a few ideas how to go about it but it also allows us to control the posts more and voice some guidelines before posting - People who have had success from ltttc, assisted conception etc will be able to request usergroup permissions (like you sams mum, Helen, AG etc...) because they can offer some sound advice but we want to take control of insensitivity.

Still to be figured out but we will try to make this as easy as possible because we know some of you have TTC buddies using this section.

Please voice any suggestions - they are more than welcome. We will actually hold off from setting this up to gain some more feedback if ok

 

[Farie]

Sounds good Wobbles

Can I be included pretty please ... otherwise I'll not be able to write in my journal not that I ever write anything interesting!

 

[miel]

i feel to be honest it's more about the new members that do not know very well the Lttc section and the common sens /rules that suppose to be applying here etcthat most of the insensitive threads are coming from...most of the long timer members of the forum knows well this section and we do not have really any "problem subject thread " coming from them...i love to have AG have a active member of the lttc section still it's a great support to me to know that if she did it so can i etc...

 

[Farie]

Ohh I had an idea ... (ok only a small one and its probably useless .. but I was excited )

May be the LTTTC journal could be outside the restrictions .. so our non LTTTC buddies can write in them?

And may be as well as making it permissive, you just need over xxx posts to be able to reply/post a topic?
That way newbies who don't know our LTTTC sensitivities wont be able to wander in with less than helpful comments? Anyone new who wanted to join LTTTC could just ask?
Also less admin for you guys as most of us LTTTCers have a rather large number of posts so will automatically qualify?

Also, Wobbs .. thank you for working so hard to make this section a happy helpful place for us all

 

[DaisyDuke]

Ohh I had an idea ... (ok only a small one and its probably useless .. but I was excited )

May be the LTTTC journal could be outside the restrictions .. so our non LTTTC buddies can write in them?

And may be as well as making it permissive, you just need over xxx posts to be able to reply/post a topic?
That way newbies who don't know our LTTTC sensitivities wont be able to wander in with less than helpful comments? Anyone new who wanted to join LTTTC could just ask?
Also less admin for you guys as most of us LTTTCers have a rather large number of posts so will automatically qualify?

Also, Wobbs .. thank you for working so hard to make this section a happy helpful place for us all

Genious idea about the amount of threads, and saving admin time

 

[Wobbles]

Good ideas Farie

I was actually thinking maybe we could set some strict guideline in I backed off from doing this before because many were getting uncomfortable but once they are up all questions are answered.

I'm now thinking what is the most annoying things to see in this section?

Pregnancy related tickers
Scan avatars
People who general just don't relate
Peoples success stories yet have never been an active member of this secion "hi Im new Im pregnant"
What about for inactive members who want to share a previous success can post in ONE single sticky leaving the choice with you girls if to read - rather than creating a thread? Doesn't apply to members who have used and gained 'buddys' on this forum but only for those who were not apart of through their past times and success ...does that make sense?

 

[MissAma]

For me personally it's these two:

"People who general just don't relate
Peoples success stories yet have never been an active member of this secion "hi Im new Im pregnant"

But what Faerie says, the number of posts, would eliminate some of the not-so-old-members but treatment havers, wouldn't it? Although making sure non-LTTTCers as well as successful exLTTTCers can post in diaries is, I think, crucial.

Often tímes, the most support comes from people who are not sniffing or DRing at the same time... (e.g. dan-o and coffee in my case but I am sure others have other examples) so if there's a way we make sure they can still send us the occasional that would be bril.

 

[Lazy Leo]

hmm, I've been on a bit of a ttc break over Christmas and new year with different things and have only been popping in occasionally. It sounds as though some people have been upset by what's been said. I presume it's the old story of a minority of people causing issues for the majority. I'm not sure what the best way is to make an area inclusive / exclusive. I know I was pretty nervous at first asking for permissions to the girls club and over 18's area! Silly but true. I think I'd be even more nervous about asking to join this section. TBH I never came in here in my first 9 or 10 months on the site because I felt I 'didn't belong' but now most of my friends are in here although I can't quite bring myself to accept that after 19 months I probably do count as LTTC. I'm still in denial lol.

Could you do it with an automatic number of posts, or possibly length of time you've been a member of the site? Then if you have a new joiner or someone who doesn't meet the auto criteria they could apply directly? I don't know how to remove a ticker - although I know it can be done - so I would be worried about forgetting to remove tickers etc if I had the luck to be pregnant. Is there any way a message can pop up automatically to remind you to remove them when you hit 'submit'. I know sometimes things that sound easy are incredibly difficult to code in web pages so maybe what I'm saying is impossible in practice.

I'm sure between the mods and the users an agreement will be found that suits everyone. Hopefully I'll get my new permission when you get it up and running!

 

[FJL]

I personally like the idea of members not being able to post unless they are or have been a LTTTC'er/used AC. Perhaps journals can be an exception because I know a lot of girls have support from members who got preg easily or a Mums from normal TTC.

What annoys me about anyone being able to post is pretty much everything you mentioned Wobs. Preg tickers, scan/baby avatars, success stories from members who have never posted in this section before and people who just don't relate.

What I think you meant about the sticky thread was a place that anyone could post, questions from regular TTC'ers etc and we choose whether or not to read it and I like that idea.

I really appreciate all you guys (admin + mods) trying to make this place the most comfortable place as possible for us girls going through this IF crap!

 

[Nathyrra]

Generally get discouraged when it's success stories from people that have never been part of this section. It's great for them, but there's something that cuts deep for me.

Success stories from people who have been trying for years/assisted conception who knows all the heartache of the months/years of your body letting you down are very much wonderful to hear. I love to hear a success story from ladies on this section. I can't relate when it is not someone active here.

People not being able to relate is hard also, I do think alot of girls who wander into here have the best of intentions and don't realise how frayed our nerves are at the best of times.

The worst, is when someone with a lack of empathy replies to threads. We're all so sensitive and god knows alot of us have pills flying around our system making us moreso.

Tickers dun bother me tbh, neither do scan piccys or piccys of lil ones.

I think this idea is great. Would be lovely if all you needed was to set some rules for this section, hoping that the insensitive ones read them. x

 

[rachelle1975]

I think this is a really nice idea and very thoughtful. Hurrah! I am all for it

Tickers and scan pics don't bother me - its nice that people are so happy and so blessed (ask me again in 12 months though! :rofl)

I think it would be good for 'anyone' to be able to post in the LTTTC diary bit - that way our friends can pop in and give us words of encouragement.

I do think it's a good idea that only people associated with the LTTTC board be able to post though - that way there won't be any posts about rubbing a fertility god to fall bloody pregnant........

 

[Jan34]

I'm all for it too - great idea.

 

[wantababybump]

Good idea As long as I can stay xx

 

[Tory123]

Firstly I would like to say I can see the reason behind it as mentioned above.

The down side is I have found support in the TTC section when I am trying to forget about the difficultes I am having. Does this mean that we should show them the same respect and not post in this section. I do feel this could limit the interaction between all sections and I personally I like reading the TTC section as this has more users and threads are updated regularly. I have found the admin team very quick and professonal if any problems arises so do not see the reason for the change. However your the experts.