Hi Andrea, glad it went well and he gave you the green light honey. I can understand your worries about next time, though you know the odds of having the same problem are ridiculously small. I know statistics are cold comfor though for us.
Do they do the Nuchal Translucency Test along with bloods there? (think it might be called the triple screen, but check that) I'm sure they would. It's a combination of a measurement of the nuchal fold at the back of the baby's neck done by scan at 12 weeks and bloods done by 12 or 13 weeks, I think. Together they give a risk factor analysis for chromosomal abnormalities. It is not a diagnostic tool, so doesn't give solid answers, but what it does give is a strong indication of risk, so further diagnostic testing can either be reccommended (such as amnio or CVS), or if the risk is low (as most times it is), then the need for amnio or CVS is ruled out. The best thing is it's completely non-invasive to the baby, just a scan and blood test for you. It may be worth an ask, or a google about it. I'm sure it will be done in the states if it's done here. There are also many clues picked up on U/S, such as femur length and a bone in the nose but I'm not sure if these are able to be picked up on the 12 week scan or only the 20. Sorry I'm no help there, does anyone else know?
I think, hard as it is, Andrea you may have to just find the faith that it will all be OK. I have no guarantees that my waters won't break again, I just have to trust that that happened because it was twins - there are a few things the doctors can do to watch out for changes but ultimately it is a gamble. It's so hard I know but anything could happen to anyone at any time and I can't allow my life to be crippled by all those what-if's to the extent that I don't live, same goes for trying again for me. I know I'll be singing a different tune if I do get pregnant! I know it will be terrifying and I know I haven't really given myself enough time to heal but I feel that I will just have to deal with it as I go along because I don't have time to spare. The age gap with my only DD worries me more than my physical age, to be honest, I never wanted her to be on her own this long. (Though my Mum just admitted to me that she hit menopause early at about 45 - 48 ish so that scared the cr*p outa me! She started her periods early too and so did I, eek!) Obviously you have to do what's right for you. What I'm prepared to do may be completely different to what you are and so on, I'm not saying I'm doing blah so you have to as well! You will know where your own boundaries are, the point I'm making is that if we allowed ourselves to think about every single thing that could go wrong in life we'd never leave the house, or let our children out! We can't live like that. We've had a taste of the nastiness that can happen in pregnancy though so we focus on that, it's natural. I hope you can get past the fear and allow yourself some hope hon. Right, now to fully convince myself the same, hehe!
I hope you do find the strength to try again honey and I hope you get your rainbow soon. I wish you all the love and luck in the world. xxx