Bride2b
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Mhairi - I think this is a good question! One that I have been thinking about too (so I know what to do when the time comes...and I bloody hope its soon!)
Last time I didnt want to tell anyone as I was so scared that something would happen. My OH best mate & his GF lost their baby @ 9 weeks but found out at the 12 wk scan and they have pretty much told everyone. So obviously had the hard task of then telling people after the 12 wk scan that the little one wasnt meant to be. This all happened about 4-5 weeks before we got our BFP. We waited 3 weeks to tell anyone (parents, sister) and we only told them at that point as OH dad was 88 and been ill in hospital and we didnt want to not tell him in case he wasnt around much longer. We then told close friends after our 12 week scan (I think I was 13 wks before I told my best friend). I kept thinking I should tell people but was too scared. I then told my very close work colleague when I was 17 weeks, and no body else at work knew (apart from my manager for H&S reasons). To this day people at work do not know that I was pregnant or that I have lost a baby. In some ways I am glad as I can go back to work without having to face all those people as they know no different. In another way I feel quite sick that there are people who know me who will never know about my beautiful baby, who has changed my life.
I am really torn. Part of me wants to be able scream from the roof tops next time (at 12 weeks) that we are expecting, as I want to be proud of being a mummy. But at the same time I feel I would want to keep it a secret until at least past 19 weeks when I lost Bertie (or until the 20 wk scan) or even to 24 weeks.
I guess it also depends on if it gets obvious. I am a small person & surprisingly my little bump didnt show, people didnt even notice I was pregnant & those who knew kept on saying I didnt have a bump. I could see a very small one with no clothes on but with clothes on it just wasnt obvious. I am not sure if next time I not show so soon as now my stomach muscles are a bit more stretched than they were before & not being able to exercise wont tighten them back up. So I would think if I get pregnant sooner rather than later it might be more obvious.
I have just banged on havent i???? I didnt actually give you an answer!!!!! Has someone got any suggestions???????????
Last time I didnt want to tell anyone as I was so scared that something would happen. My OH best mate & his GF lost their baby @ 9 weeks but found out at the 12 wk scan and they have pretty much told everyone. So obviously had the hard task of then telling people after the 12 wk scan that the little one wasnt meant to be. This all happened about 4-5 weeks before we got our BFP. We waited 3 weeks to tell anyone (parents, sister) and we only told them at that point as OH dad was 88 and been ill in hospital and we didnt want to not tell him in case he wasnt around much longer. We then told close friends after our 12 week scan (I think I was 13 wks before I told my best friend). I kept thinking I should tell people but was too scared. I then told my very close work colleague when I was 17 weeks, and no body else at work knew (apart from my manager for H&S reasons). To this day people at work do not know that I was pregnant or that I have lost a baby. In some ways I am glad as I can go back to work without having to face all those people as they know no different. In another way I feel quite sick that there are people who know me who will never know about my beautiful baby, who has changed my life.
I am really torn. Part of me wants to be able scream from the roof tops next time (at 12 weeks) that we are expecting, as I want to be proud of being a mummy. But at the same time I feel I would want to keep it a secret until at least past 19 weeks when I lost Bertie (or until the 20 wk scan) or even to 24 weeks.
I guess it also depends on if it gets obvious. I am a small person & surprisingly my little bump didnt show, people didnt even notice I was pregnant & those who knew kept on saying I didnt have a bump. I could see a very small one with no clothes on but with clothes on it just wasnt obvious. I am not sure if next time I not show so soon as now my stomach muscles are a bit more stretched than they were before & not being able to exercise wont tighten them back up. So I would think if I get pregnant sooner rather than later it might be more obvious.
I have just banged on havent i???? I didnt actually give you an answer!!!!! Has someone got any suggestions???????????