Hellylou
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Nikki, yes this was the friend whose house we went to on NYE and who invited the other people...we've been friends since we were 12 - been through thick and thin together. I think she has a different angle on grief, she just believes in shutting it all away in a box never to be opened again. That can work for some people, but certainly not me, and I don't think it's particularly healthy to be honest. Still, I would never tell her what to do or not to do regarding her grief (she lost her dad a few years ago) so it's a bit unfair to advise me on mine. She is my dearest friend, though, and she can always say anything to me and I always forgive it. I'm kind of used to it.
I have been so proud of the progress I've made too, in this time. I would never have thought, 3 months ago, that I would ever even smile again, let alone find joy or happiness again in anything, but little by little it's getting easier. But I still cry, and I still struggle in social situations, and I still think about what might have been, and I have lost a lot of my spark. I would like it if people I knew recognized that and encouraged me, and although I might not want to talk about what happened, it would be so nice if they at least acknowledged it and asked how I was doing. But instead of being encouraged for having done so well, I am made to feel bad for not being completely over it already, and I feel like I ruined their party. How rude of me!
Agh, that just turned into a rant!
Nikki, yes this was the friend whose house we went to on NYE and who invited the other people...we've been friends since we were 12 - been through thick and thin together. I think she has a different angle on grief, she just believes in shutting it all away in a box never to be opened again. That can work for some people, but certainly not me, and I don't think it's particularly healthy to be honest. Still, I would never tell her what to do or not to do regarding her grief (she lost her dad a few years ago) so it's a bit unfair to advise me on mine. She is my dearest friend, though, and she can always say anything to me and I always forgive it. I'm kind of used to it.
I have been so proud of the progress I've made too, in this time. I would never have thought, 3 months ago, that I would ever even smile again, let alone find joy or happiness again in anything, but little by little it's getting easier. But I still cry, and I still struggle in social situations, and I still think about what might have been, and I have lost a lot of my spark. I would like it if people I knew recognized that and encouraged me, and although I might not want to talk about what happened, it would be so nice if they at least acknowledged it and asked how I was doing. But instead of being encouraged for having done so well, I am made to feel bad for not being completely over it already, and I feel like I ruined their party. How rude of me!
Agh, that just turned into a rant!