Bride2b
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Hi Kelly9, I'm sorry you have joined us in such awful circumstances. Be sure to know that we are here to help you along the journey, this has been my life line when everything else in the world made no sense! You will have loads of emotions, thoughts and feelings...the worse probably guilt & emptiness. The way to fill this void will most likely be for you to want to be pregnant again. This will probably cause you to feel more guilt. I believe the feeling of trying again is actually a mixture of still wanting to be pregnant with the baby you have lost but wanting to be pregnant again to not have to think about not being pregnant....not sure that makes sense.
Sorry that you have not many chances due to IVF, the doctors will take care of when physically you are ready....thats their job. If its like me after my 6 week consultants appointment where I got all the results back they said there is no reason why we could try again straight away, but to make sure you have grieved & make sure you are ready emotionally. So I'd wait for them to give the all clear, and it will take a few weeks for bleeding to stop and AF to return.
We are here to help, I know how important it is to ask questions and be supported by people who know how you feel as people around you will not really have any idea of what you are feeling.
Nikki - yes theres not many of us left!!! I'm glad that some of our ladies are getting to a place where they do not need to be reassured everyday and come here....that is great! Are you in the tww? I've forgotten!
Krissy - where are you? Its something like CD 1001 isnt it? bloody hope you did ov the other day!
Sally, Andrea, Amanda, Fiona, Kelly, Britney, Tia, Mhairi I know some of you are around.
AFM - 7 weeks today I've got my first real counselling appointment (2nd time seeing her though as the first was like a quick session). Not really sure what I want to say to her today....feel ok today, not 'normal' but ok if that makes sense! I just miss him
I know that in a few days I will commence the poas madness as I work out when OV will happen.....purely for research so I can catch the egg next month. I am so tempted to say fuck it though...I just want to be pregnant and so be it if the damn wedding dress doesnt fit! My heart is saying just try, but my head is saying NO! I'd be 30 weeks pregnant when I get married...it'll be hot (hopefully), I'll be uncomfortable, wont be able to reach past my belly for the first dance! Thats is if I reach 30 weeks - just convinced the next one will come early at about 30 weeks for some reason!
Sorry that you have not many chances due to IVF, the doctors will take care of when physically you are ready....thats their job. If its like me after my 6 week consultants appointment where I got all the results back they said there is no reason why we could try again straight away, but to make sure you have grieved & make sure you are ready emotionally. So I'd wait for them to give the all clear, and it will take a few weeks for bleeding to stop and AF to return.
We are here to help, I know how important it is to ask questions and be supported by people who know how you feel as people around you will not really have any idea of what you are feeling.
Nikki - yes theres not many of us left!!! I'm glad that some of our ladies are getting to a place where they do not need to be reassured everyday and come here....that is great! Are you in the tww? I've forgotten!
Krissy - where are you? Its something like CD 1001 isnt it? bloody hope you did ov the other day!
Sally, Andrea, Amanda, Fiona, Kelly, Britney, Tia, Mhairi I know some of you are around.
AFM - 7 weeks today I've got my first real counselling appointment (2nd time seeing her though as the first was like a quick session). Not really sure what I want to say to her today....feel ok today, not 'normal' but ok if that makes sense! I just miss him
I know that in a few days I will commence the poas madness as I work out when OV will happen.....purely for research so I can catch the egg next month. I am so tempted to say fuck it though...I just want to be pregnant and so be it if the damn wedding dress doesnt fit! My heart is saying just try, but my head is saying NO! I'd be 30 weeks pregnant when I get married...it'll be hot (hopefully), I'll be uncomfortable, wont be able to reach past my belly for the first dance! Thats is if I reach 30 weeks - just convinced the next one will come early at about 30 weeks for some reason!