I would say if its full on AF count it as day one. My af showed in the afternoon, so I counted that as CD1 as had to put it into FF.
Its horrible having your first one as I felt like the pregnancy was truely over....I'm not sure that makes sense, I also felt a sense of relief that I was one step closer to trying again!
How is everyone?
Lisa - how'd things go with your OH?
Britney - hows smep going? what CD are you on?
Nikki? How many dpo are you now?
Krissy - are you still lingering? How things going?
Andrea - are you ok? have you decided to ttc again?
Hope all our rainbow ladies are well, Sally, Helen, Jo, Mhairi, Amanda.
Sorry if I missed anyone xx
I'm counting today as cd1 since it started so late last night. It's light flow but more then spotting. Did anyone else have a light first period? I'm wondering if it's light cause I only stopped pp bleeding about two weeks ago? Normally it would get heavier for me but it's about the same.
Bride I understand what you mean and that's how I feel.
I think at least he hasnt said no. Do you chart ovulation/temps? Maybe its an idea if you do to let him know when your fertile time is about to happen. Say something like, "I've been keeping track of my body & it looks like I will OV in 3 days, I want to TTC, do you feel ready?" ..... or something like that. The chances of it happening again are so slim. I guess he is just scared. I would probably take control and be very open about when your most fertile so it puts it in the forefront of his mind.
You are going to have really really crap days, I've had so many of them. Some days it just felt like nothing else matters, and all I wanted to do was cry, then you feel sos shattered and more emotional because you are tired. Its such a vicious cycle. Its shitty but its just going to be like this for a while, fighting the grief doesnt help in the long run.
I'm ok, just trying to 'relax' and allow the reflexology I have been having to work. I just want to get my mind, body & emotions into balance so I can ttc. I know I wont fall pregnant with out this. I am on CD11 and I know OV wont happen for at least a week. So I kind of feel like I am getting stressed about not being able to destress. I want to get pregnant so much this month I dont think I will cope if I get AF. I am going to have reflexology weekly for the next few sessions to see if it helps.
I really struggle with knowing I'm not pregnant anymore. Today I should be 31 weeks, its so hard knowing that in a few weeks I should be finishing work to have my baby, instead I am off work as I cant cope with the fact that I have already have him and that he didnt make it. I think I need chocolate!!!! x
Kelly questioning your faith is a very common part of grief, as if you have religious beliefs you find it hard to work out why it has happened & why prayers were not listened to.
My OH is a born again Christian, although doesnt go to church much anymore (hes a lifeboat crewman and they have training on a Sunday - I know you can go to church on other days but hes a full time teacher), anyway we are getting married in a church in July, and he started to question his faith when we lost Bertie. I asked if we were going to go to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve & he replied by saying he didnt think so as he wasnt sure what he believed in anymore and cant understand why god would take his dad & son away from him within 2 months of each other. He wasnt sure a church wedding was something he wanted. He has come round now, and we did go to midnight mass in the end. We have a 'Marriage preparation day' at the church in 2 weeks. I'm not being funny but I think all the shit we have been through these last few months and the fact that we are still strong has proved that no marriage preparation seminar could even come close to what we have experienced.
I think as Jo says for now I think hope is a good word, we can all have hope if nothing else. I hope you get your FET next month hun, at least you know that it should happen in the next few months & fingers crossed it'll be a successful one!
Britney - I remember you saying about 'chillin' this month with the whole ttc obsession! Good plan batman! I have everything crossed for you! xxx
I missed a smep night last night as OH went out & by the time he got home I was sound asleep. I think it was because my reflexologist stimulated the gland that controls sleep! Buggered the SMEP right up! I dont think I'll OV for a week though. I am thinking I might get a high on my CBFM tomorrow as the first month I used one I got highs CD12. Once I do get highs I'll tell OH we have to BD regularly (I wont say every other day to him - that just adds undue pressure I think) & hopefully by the time I get a peak we would have covered ourselves!
Phew long post!!!!!![]()
My DH is out tonight with his mates,he hasn`t seen them since all this happened, so i think it will do him good to go out and have a drink or two or three or.....
I have already eaten all the chocolate in the house, so I am currently drinking the largest glass of baileys and ice you have ever seen!
My OH went out with his mates a few weeks after & I did the same, except I drank a whole bottle of red wine & was plastered!! I NEVER drink ever so this was very usual for me! But it felt good at the time as it took the pain away.
I dont think I've eaten so much chocolate in ages! I certainly didnt eat hardly any when I was pregnant, so I think I'm making up for it now!x
My DH is out tonight with his mates,he hasn`t seen them since all this happened, so i think it will do him good to go out and have a drink or two or three or.....
I have already eaten all the chocolate in the house, so I am currently drinking the largest glass of baileys and ice you have ever seen!
My OH went out with his mates a few weeks after & I did the same, except I drank a whole bottle of red wine & was plastered!! I NEVER drink ever so this was very usual for me! But it felt good at the time as it took the pain away.
I dont think I've eaten so much chocolate in ages! I certainly didnt eat hardly any when I was pregnant, so I think I'm making up for it now!x
I`m not a drinker, I never go out. i have 3 kids who are usually awake at 6, so late nights don`t agree with me! i have the odd baileys,like now!
I have eaten 2 large bars of diary milk over the last few days, slightly soft, melt in the mouth. My favourite.
Thanks for the chat, I`m feeling a little better now.![]()