Life after Loss Support Group........All Welcome :)

[iloveblue]

Oh Marie - that must be tough.
I havn't had to experience that thankfully.
If you're still thinking of what to put in the card - I would just keep it brief if it was me.
If she is a good friend then she will understand that you must be hurting xx

 

[babesx3]

agree with iloveblue..keep it short and sweet.. i'd perhaps just say congratulations love from ..... and leave it at that .. massive

 

[Imalia]

Oh it's hard isn't it. I was kind of in the same situation, but it wasn't a friend of mine, and it was an awful situation just the week after I lost my angel. I just ignored it, wouldn't acknowledge it at all, but I wouldn't do that if it was a friend.

 

[TButterfly]

Thanks for all your suggestion. I am going to keep it short and sweet. I have just put congratulations and wishing you all the best of luck, love ....

She will know that it was difficult for me to write, but hopefully at the sametime she will appreciate the small gesture of love and good wishes.

 

[sflowers]

Hi, i am Sara, and i lost my little girl at 21 weeks on the 31st January 2011, we are still awaiting the PM results, buit it all happened really quickly, we had a scan on the friday and found out it was a girl then on the monday i gave birth in the toilets of the hospital alone in the early hours of the morning after being told by numerous doctors that there was nothing wrong!!!

But have decided to start TTC, i got my first period last week, so now feel like we can really start trying.

I do have PCOS and a blood clotting disorder but i am told that should not have caused the prem birth, but it did not help in TTC the first time round it took nearly 2 years to fall

If anyone has any useful tips on PCOS and concieving that would be great, i am so scared of it taking another 2 years to fall again

 

[iloveblue]

Hi Sara
I'm so sorry you lost your precious daughter and in such horrible circumstances too.
I have no experience of PCOS so can't help on that score but just wanted to say hello and welcome and hope you get a BFP very soon xx

 

[babesx3]

hi Sarah.. sorry to hear of your loss
i've not had pcos, but i do know a friend who did.. i think she was put on clomid to help with conception... is that something u have been offered?



My husband felt baby kick last night for the first time.... was really emotion, kinda made us having a baby mor e real , i've been quite cautious about bonding too much with the baby incase i lost it , which makes me feel guilty.. esp now as i'm further on than when i lost charlie....
really starting to think/hope that i really will get to keep this little baby....FX XXXX

 

[sflowers]

Hi Thanks for your welcome, i was put on Metformin for about 6 months before may last pregnancy, and now my Doctor has told me to start taking it to concieve this time?

x

 

[Semanthia]

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[iloveblue]

Hi Semanthia
I'm so sorry you lost your daughter - she was beautiful.
I see you are in the US - I think it all works differently there to here in the UK, so I can't help you but just wanted to say hello.
I'm sure someone else will be able to help you out. x

 

[BabyBoyle]

Hi ladies, firstly want to say sorry for all your losses also

I just wanted to pop in as am TTC after a loss 6 weeks ago. Am not charting or using ovulation kits or anything, as didnt use last time and my body wasnt regular at all!

Stopped bleeding about 2 weeks ago, and i know it wasnt a period as it was continued from the birth of Madison..

Have you ever heard of anyone falling before AF or usually after?

Im not impatient (well, ok i am with this!) But just curious and wondering if it will take a long time.

Had a posterior uterus, which "apparantly" my Dr said would have made it a bit more difficult to get pregnant, as it took a good 8 months TTC before BFP. But also "apparantly" the uterus will correct itself during pregnancy, and i heard its easier to fall that way.

Wishing you all the best of luck on your journeys.. xxxxx

Sorry for the muddled up post, head is all over the place with excitement Xxx

 

[SassyLou]

Hi Babyboyle, noticed you'd posted how exciting for you.

I have really irregular cycles and a retroverted uterus. As far as I'm aware your uterus always goes back to being retroverted after the birth, just ends up in a normal position as it grows during pregnancy. Mines always gone back to being retroverted.

After my MMC at 8 wks last August we tried straight away but got pregnant after first AF. After we lost Archie we NTNP straight away, I got my first AF almost 2 weeks ago (5 weeks after losing Archie).

My cycles are pretty irregular, with the cycle where I got pregnant with Archie I charted, used ovulation sticks and took soy iso! I just think when your cycles are irregular you either all the time, or you try and work out when you're ovulating so you don't have to

Anything I can help you with PM me or contact me through facebook.

love Sarah xxx

 

[BabyBoyle]

Sarah,

Thanks for your message sweetheart! Hope all is looking up for you..?

Are you TTC at the moment again, and are you charting etc?

We are DTD quite regularly so not going to bother with charting etc.. Haven't had a period yet, but thought the bleeding was stopping then had a postpartnum haemmorhage thingy about 3 weeks ago, and stopped bleeding shortly after that. So kind of praying that im stupidly lucky (not gonna happen!!!) that I will fall before i get another AF..

Just trying to find ladies who have been that lucky on here and read some success stories!!

xxx

 

[SassyLou]

Hi Donna,

Yes we're TTC again, I've taken soy iso this cycle and am charting and POAS! I can recommend the soy, my cycle was anything between 7 and 9 weeks, after using it my cycle was 5 weeks! I find with charting and having irregular cycles I'm not permanently thinking I might be pregnant as I can work out when AF is due. Luckily its the first part of my cycle that's rubbish (AF to ovulation) I always get AF two weeks after ovulating.

Glad you're DTD regular . Obviously we're a fair bit older than you, don't do it quite as much as we used to We're always knackered from running round after the boys!

Good luck, keep me updated xxx

 

[BabyBoyle]

Hmmm im intrigued about this soy thing? I've seen people talk about it but im clueless as to what it is or what it does?!

LOL Im sure you are still very active The other half is 11 years older than me but im making sure he stays fit haha.

It's good to know where you are in your cycle!!

I've never known, was on implanon for 6 years and never had periods apart from the 8 months i TTC (only spotted for about 3 months though!) xx

 

[babesx3]

I hope I am not intruding but I thought this would be a good thread for me to ask my question.
I lost my baby 4 weeks ago tomorrow from IC. I found a list of top doctors in my area. I had made the decision to find a specialist I like first and get a list of OB's they work with so I can find an OB I like. We decided to start trying for another one after our wedding at the end of April. So today I was wanting to set up appointments with specialist in May so we could interview them before we started. I was told that I could have a consultation with a specialist without being referred by an OB who thinks I might be high risk. I explained that I had a less than pleasant experience with my current OB and the specialist who referred me and I wanted to make sure I find one I like before we try to conceive. I have been crying hysterically about it and I don't know why. I guess I feel like I have lost control again.
Is it normal for you to not be allowed to have a consultation with a doctor? I was too up set to continue through my list and I don't want to continue if none of the specialist are willing to see me.

i'm so sorry for your loss...
It does sound like it works differently over your way to uk.. sorry
Must be very upsetting not being able to control who u see..
will u be getting a stitch put in for the iC when you concieve? sorry i don't know much abou IC...
massive hugs hope u manage to find someone that can help u XX

 

[babesx3]

sassylou and babyboyle, nice to see u here!!

Babyboyle i have heard of women getting pg before AF so its definatley possible.. i know JOX did ... i'm pretty sure i didn't ovulate before AF, and from what i read thats quite common, but anythings possible....
FX u won't be trying too long .. my DH is 11.5 yrs older than me too have to say hes fitter than me too!!!

Sassylou how are u ? good to see the soy is helping u..FX u will get a BFP sson!!!.. i'm older and more tired too with other kids.. its hard TTC when all u really want to do when u go to bed is sleep.... i'm 37 by the way.. but feel about 50!!!


how is everyone else...
how are u Maeves mummy ?? hows the bump?

iloveblue how are u and imalia going with TTC?

I know things are going well with Suze as i popped by her journal

sorry if i missed anyone ...

 

[BabyBoyle]

Hi sweetheart

How long did you concieve after Charlie went to sleep? You are getting on amazingly xxx

 

[Jox]

Hmmm im intrigued about this soy thing? I've seen people talk about it but im clueless as to what it is or what it does?!

LOL Im sure you are still very active The other half is 11 years older than me but im making sure he stays fit haha.

It's good to know where you are in your cycle!!

I've never known, was on implanon for 6 years and never had periods apart from the 8 months i TTC (only spotted for about 3 months though!) xx

:wave: Hi, im so sorry for the loss of your little Girl, i love your avatar, very precious

just wanted to say i conceived my Rainbow without AF. Kasper was born sleeping 2nd Jan 2010, i bled for about 2 weeks, DTD 3 times in 10 days between day 18 and 28 (after birth) and got BFP when i was 4+3 and was 6+2 after Kaspers birth. No idea how it happened and never expected it altho i did hope.

I too had the implanon for 6 years prior to TTC and pretty much had no afs. had it removed and conceived Kasper on our 3rd cycle of TTC. I hope your BFP comes very quickly.

Hope your all ok.

Good luck TTC hope this thread is full of BFPs soon.

Babesx3 - how are you? hows baby doing? are you getting extra scans etc do you know babys flavour or are you going for a surprise?

Sending for your Angels xxx

 

[Imalia]

Well, we managed to convince our dr that things needed a little push to get going and are in our first cycle of clomid, which hasn't been too bad so far, I was expecting the side effects to be worse, but since I do O on my own it's only a low dose (50mg) Despite that I'm not feeling too hopeful this month as DH was in a minor car accident and we only managed to dtd twice during the fertile window. Always something