Aw, Kelly it must be so hard to be babysitting, I'm so proud of you for being able to do it. I know it can be soothiong though and nothing wrong with having a wee cry at times.
I babysat my neighbour's 2YO girl a few times quite soon after losing the boys and it brought me joy most of the time but I did have a complete meltdown when I took her for a walk in the buggy, I just couldn't stop myself from thinking it shouldn't be her I was pushing around. Lucky I live in the country and could safely wail and bawl around the tracks without anyone seeing me! I don't think I could have dealt with a really young baby though and a boy would be harder.
My other neighbours have a wee boy who's just started walking and my DD goes in to play with him sometimes and loves walking him around - I find it really hard to even look at without breaking down. Crazy, eh.
Anyway, I'm rambling but wanted to say good on you for babysitting in the first place, you are very strong, mama.
Tanya, I'm with you on the Christmas thing completely. I'm dreading it. I really wanted to go away and dissapear for it but OH's brother and family are coming from Australia to see us and we haven't seen them for 8 years so need to be here. It will be busy so I suppose that will be good. I hope it's as gentle on you as possible. And all of us.
Hayley - that line is super-clear! Your angel has brought you your rainbow, so lovely.
Nat, hope you didn't miss your surge hon and caught that egg!
Andrea, how are you doing? Passing the time till next month OK?
Mhairi - Hope you are OK hon. Thinking of you. Hope you are physically well and growing your rainbow.
Amanda, Erica - hope you are both well and growing those bubbas. Loving the sweets before bed advice so you can chuck up nice stuff! Ha, too funny!
Jojo, how are you, girl? Not heard from you in a while. Hope all is well.
babesx3 - how are you doing?
Hope I've not missed anyone, if I have please forgive, I get a bit mixed up with user names/ Real names!
AFM, not much to report, am hoping to get down to some serious
soon but having to work tonight which will probably be a late one being Friday night and DH is doing stupid hours at work, chucking stone around all day so will probably be asleep by the time I get home - boo! Poor guy flaked out last night at about 9pm, I was tempted to wake him but thought that would be a bit rotten. I know most guys wouldn't object to being woken for a bit of action but he is seriously exhausted - I'm quite worried about him, he's losing weight as well and was skinny to begin with. Not eating enough, working to hard and a bit depressed I think. Unfortunately, I'm the opposite and eat more when I'm down so it looks like I've been eating all his dinners, haha! We look like Jack Sprat and his Wife.
I've not had any EWCM yet anyway and am tempted to try to leave it as late as I can to try to swing for a boy, but then I feel I should leave it to chance and if I'm meant for a boy then I'll get one. I can't really afford to be fussy at my age and would be happy with whatever I get, a girl would be easier in some ways as I still have all my DD's stuff but saw how much DH's face lit up when it was boys before, he really wanted a wee boy to balance things up, he said. Haha, so me and DD can't gang up on him.
While I'm in the mood for confessing my many madnesses, I also have a ridiculous notion that my boys' spirits could come back to me in new bodies, separately. So another reason to try for a boy but like I said - if that's meant to happen then it would without my interference. I know it's insane and not really fair to any new baby to be thinking it could possibly be Hayden or Ethan in spirit, instead of a new child, totally separate and individual in it's own right and really bordering on insane to be thinking that but it's popped into my head and now I can't get rid of it. Sorry if this offends anyone, I know it's nutty but can't deny it's in my head. I actually really worry about having another baby and constantly comparing him or her to the boys, wondering if it could be one of them or not. Maybe a girl would be best, to stop me thinking like that. I think I need my head examined, sorry. Just wondered if anyone else has wierd thoughts like this or do I need help? is things like this a normal part of the madness after losses like ours?
Hope you are all well
xxx