Life after Loss Support Group........All Welcome :)

[yazoo]

Mhairi- I'm so happy your scan went well. I bet it was so nice seeing little bubba's heartbeat.

Imalia & Kiki I'm so sorry AF got you. You can join the rest of us in our Dec BFP club-fingers X'd.

Kelly- sorry your feeling so crap. I like Nikki's idea. Dose yourself up with drugs and go for it. And the fanny comment made me lol too. I know it has a completely different meaning but it sounded funny.

Ok so I have an appointment in the hospital on Thursday. I had to ring today to make sure all test results were back (blood & placenta). The nurse called me back to say they had them all back apart from one but it should be back by thursday. She said that the consultant wanted to do another blood test on me and for me to come before my appt time so I can go first before the clinic fills up. Why would she say that unless there was an issue? She said I have been waiting too long for the results but still. I am scared out of my wits. She didn't know what the blood test was for and just said the consultant will explain all on thursday. I am thinking the worst and honestly feel sick at the thoughts of it. Thursday cannot come quick enough. Another day of worrying.

 

[mhazzab]

Mhairi- I'm so happy your scan went well. I bet it was so nice seeing little bubba's heartbeat.

Imalia & Kiki I'm so sorry AF got you. You can join the rest of us in our Dec BFP club-fingers X'd.

Kelly- sorry your feeling so crap. I like Nikki's idea. Dose yourself up with drugs and go for it. And the fanny comment made me lol too. I know it has a completely different meaning but it sounded funny.

Ok so I have an appointment in the hospital on Thursday. I had to ring today to make sure all test results were back (blood & placenta). The nurse called me back to say they had them all back apart from one but it should be back by thursday. She said that the consultant wanted to do another blood test on me and for me to come before my appt time so I can go first before the clinic fills up. Why would she say that unless there was an issue? She said I have been waiting too long for the results but still. I am scared out of my wits. She didn't know what the blood test was for and just said the consultant will explain all on thursday. I am thinking the worst and honestly feel sick at the thoughts of it. Thursday cannot come quick enough. Another day of worrying.

just heading to bed, but just wanted to say...
I was given an extra blood test weeks after the first ones, for sticky blood (sounds weird!) apparently the test isn't effective soon after birth and has to be done a wee bit after, hope this helps xxx

 

[yazoo]

Oh thanks Mhairi. I hope it is something as simple as that and I am worrying myself needlessly. Nite nite love.

 

[ericacaca]

Mhairi- I'm so happy your scan went well. I bet it was so nice seeing little bubba's heartbeat.

Imalia & Kiki I'm so sorry AF got you. You can join the rest of us in our Dec BFP club-fingers X'd.

Kelly- sorry your feeling so crap. I like Nikki's idea. Dose yourself up with drugs and go for it. And the fanny comment made me lol too. I know it has a completely different meaning but it sounded funny.

Ok so I have an appointment in the hospital on Thursday. I had to ring today to make sure all test results were back (blood & placenta). The nurse called me back to say they had them all back apart from one but it should be back by thursday. She said that the consultant wanted to do another blood test on me and for me to come before my appt time so I can go first before the clinic fills up. Why would she say that unless there was an issue? She said I have been waiting too long for the results but still. I am scared out of my wits. She didn't know what the blood test was for and just said the consultant will explain all on thursday. I am thinking the worst and honestly feel sick at the thoughts of it. Thursday cannot come quick enough. Another day of worrying.

Aw honey, I'm sure everything is fine. Just keep thinking positively Maybe there was a test they missed off their list or something. I remember my bloods came back once and there were like loads of white cells which really wasnt right, I know I wasn't feeling too well the week before but it was crazy - so I was called in to do a re-test.

To the ladies who have been visited by AF. I'm really sorry. All I can say really about that. Praying for a successful month for you this cycle. Just keep at it!

Kam - I remember trying to fit in time to make babies with my hubby! And trying to do it when recovering from a slipped disc was sometimes not the greatest idea in the world! Hoping you get lots of space and time to

I have been so so so so sick! Its always after brushing my teeth! And the great idea I had of not eating anything before I brushed in the morning has backfired twice now.... yuk!

One of my heads (I work across two schools) was asking how I was today as she noticed I was a little under the weather at the start of the week. And I told her that I was 10 weeks pregnant.... I can't believe I told her! But its done now. She was genuinely excited. I did explain to her that I didnt want it to be official workwise until January when we hit the 18 week mark, just to be on the safe side and she completely understood. Its probably for the best that my bosses know anyway now just so I'm looked after a bit more at work - so now they can understand why I'm avoiding the ball courts when on playground duty! haha! Plus if the worst happened at least they'll know why I'm taking the time off.

I realised in the car today that we lost Baby on the 7th March and my cycle with this baby started on the 7th September. 6 months exactly. So I had a little cry earlier on. But shhhhhhhhh... thats our little secret.

Hope you lovely ladies are all ok - sorry again for missing people out of this message. I will be in touch

Erica xxx

 

[yazoo]

Hi Erica, oh I'm not pregnant. This is another follow up appt. I had a follow up appt 9 weeks after my son was born but the results of the placenta were not back and I got blood taken then also to check for blood clotting disorders, antibodies, autoimmune something or other and I don't know what else. This is another follow up to discuss them results and hopefully the placenta results if they are back. Its been 13 weeks now, they really should be. I am just concerned that I have a blood clotting disorder or something wrong that will effect future pregnancies. I also have this irrational thought that she will say we can't have anymore babies because of .... but I know I am being irrational and thinking the worst.

I'm sorry you have been sick but as everyone says its a good sign. I think its better that you tell your boss also. They might lessen the workload and will understand if you are sick etc. Its normal to have a little cry hun- we won't say anything though.

 

[MummyStobe]

Hi everyone, really quick drop in from me today as my pillow is calling.

Wanted to send big to everyone and let you all know I'm thinking about you all.

Also wanted to quickly share my irrational fears of the day... ...blighted ovums and chemical pregnancy.... ....I really must stay away from Google!!!

Spoken to the Screening Midwife today, she's told me to see my GP and get an appointment with the Community Midwife and that she'll arrange an early scan for me at 7 weeks and that once I'm booked in that'll trigger my referral to the consultant. Popped into GP surgery on my way home and have managed to get an appointment with one of the nicer doctors on Thurs morn but all the midwife appointments have gone for this week. Going to ring her direct in the morning and see if I can skip the first appointment, which has always been a waste of time in the past as it is an appointment to make an appointment (if that makes sense) and see if I can just make an appointment with her for booking in.

It is beginning to feel real now I'm starting to get the ball rolling. We still haven't told anyone yet, not even our parents, I quite like it being our little secret.

I'll reply to everyone properly next time I'm about.

Love to you all xxx

 

[Andypanda6570]

AF got me again this month, so I've been hiding and feeling sorry for myself, panicking that I only have one cycle left before the holidays and I just know it's going to be another year when I don't have anything to celebrate. Congratulations to all you ladies who have gotten your BFP, I'm thrilled for you all, but also I hate you (j/k)

LOL.. Sorry the witch caught you this month ..Don't worry i feel your BFP is coming,,XOOX

Well I'm out.. AF got me last night

Don't worry yours mine kellys and all of us are going to be ok and get out BFP soon,, I know it..
All My Love XOXOXOX

 

[kiki04]

Absolutely! I see these BFP's starting to roll in and I know we will all get our rainbows together! I have never had a group I was so excited to be pg with before I am just as excited for all of yours as I am mine, and I truely mean that This has to be the BEST TTC group in all of the internet, even though we were brought together under the most unfortunate circumstances

 

[dnlfinker]

Thank you! I couldnt agree more and would like to congratulate all of us on this . Maybe one day we all get to meet and create one giant rainbow
with our little miracles! I was always afraid of public speaking, but you guys are like a family now. I wake up in the morning and i come here to check on you guys. Then at night i am eager to log in again, just to see one more BFP or inspiring story. You are truely the BEST!

 

[Nikki_d72]

Thank you! I couldnt agree more and would like to congratulate all of us on this . Maybe one day we all get to meet and create one giant rainbow
with our little miracles! I was always afraid of public speaking, but you guys are like a family now. I wake up in the morning and i come here to check on you guys. Then at night i am eager to log in again, just to see one more BFP or inspiring story. You are truely the BEST!

Hear, here!

 

[Andypanda6570]

Absolutely! I see these BFP's starting to roll in and I know we will all get our rainbows together! I have never had a group I was so excited to be pg with before I am just as excited for all of yours as I am mine, and I truely mean that This has to be the BEST TTC group in all of the internet, even though we were brought together under the most unfortunate circumstances

I totally agree and I love love you and all of you..XOXOOOX

Thank you! I couldnt agree more and would like to congratulate all of us on this . Maybe one day we all get to meet and create one giant rainbow
with our little miracles! I was always afraid of public speaking, but you guys are like a family now. I wake up in the morning and i come here to check on you guys. Then at night i am eager to log in again, just to see one more BFP or inspiring story. You are truely the BEST!

Nat,
You are the best and remember we only live a couple of miles apart and if you ever want to meet or just to talk or go to lunch I am here. And make sure you call me again I love talking to my new buddy...XOXOXOXO

 

[collie_crazy]

Mhairi YAYAYAYAY for the good scan I am still waiting for my appointment to come through! If I've not heard by Monday I am going to phone them because she said she would scan at 6 weeks and I am 5+4 now so getting impatient LOL.

I think you are probably so overwhelmed with everything - your girls, this pregnancy, your dad that your body is trying to protect itself. I wouldnt be surprised if it all hits you in a few weeks once your mind has processed it all. But that doesnt mean you aren't missing him or love him any less I dont think you should feel guilty

Sorry AF got you Imalia and Kiki Onwards and upwards to next cycle

Sorry your still feeling sick Kelly Maybe put a peg on your nose next time to stop the sneezes LOL!

Tanya I'm sure it will be nothing. Maybe one of the tests didnt come back or the lab messed up or something?

PS this really is the best TTC group - you girls have just had me in tears! Love you all so much

Well I am doing OK - just needing to pee constantly! Was up twice during the night last night. Not really feeling sick yet but I am sure that will come. Still fretting over everything

 

[Andypanda6570]

Mhairi YAYAYAYAY for the good scan I am still waiting for my appointment to come through! If I've not heard by Monday I am going to phone them because she said she would scan at 6 weeks and I am 5+4 now so getting impatient LOL.

I think you are probably so overwhelmed with everything - your girls, this pregnancy, your dad that your body is trying to protect itself. I wouldnt be surprised if it all hits you in a few weeks once your mind has processed it all. But that doesnt mean you aren't missing him or love him any less I dont think you should feel guilty

Sorry AF got you Imalia and Kiki Onwards and upwards to next cycle

Sorry your still feeling sick Kelly Maybe put a peg on your nose next time to stop the sneezes LOL!

Tanya I'm sure it will be nothing. Maybe one of the tests didnt come back or the lab messed up or something?

PS this really is the best TTC group - you girls have just had me in tears! Love you all so much

Well I am doing OK - just needing to pee constantly! Was up twice during the night last night. Not really feeling sick yet but I am sure that will come. Still fretting over everything

I peed constantly when I was pregnant I mean like every 1/2 hour
Thinking of you and sending SOoooooo much love..XOXOoooXOXOX

 

[KamIAm]

Good Morning Ladies!! (HA! I don't even drink coffee or tea!) haha.. This would need a glass of ice with a nice cold pepsi

It's 8:30 in the morning, just sent my kiddo's off to school and OH off to work so I waved them off and RAN to my computer to check in with everyone!!!

I completely agree! This is THE BEST ttc forum I've ever visited!! I haven't even encountered such an amazing group of wonderful women, ever! Thank you for always being my friend and listening to my odd ramblings

Glad to hear all is well in our lil world... All our rainbows are growing beautifully

AFM... I got to sneek another "love juice" meeting in last night... Poor OH thought I lost my ever-loving mind Hahaha! I only had to stop once to blow my nose! Woot Woot!! He even said at one point, "we don't have to do this honey if you don't feel up to it.".... HA! I asked him "Are you crazy?!?" ... Haha .. We made it though and I really got some strange looks from him when I just laid there with my legs up in there air!! HAhahaha Told him "I GOTTA KEEP IT ALL IN!!!" I didn't do that but a second but I really did just lay there for like 30 minutes afterwards, praying and hoping, and visualizing the lil men traveling onward! Haha, Usually afterwards, I'm up immediately headed to the shower ... haha Yes, I'm officially going crazy!



I am really hoping I do better during that 2WW... Think maybe I will since it's right about Thanksgiving here and I'll be super busy with family... Lord, I hope! (probably not, since I'm already counting down to testing mornings!) LOL!

FX'd for all us Rainbow Chasers ... and also to all our Rainbow Bakers' ..

 

[jojo23]

hope everyone is well ladies, thinking of you all every day xxxxxxxxx

 

[ericacaca]

Hi Erica, oh I'm not pregnant. This is another follow up appt. I had a follow up appt 9 weeks after my son was born but the results of the placenta were not back and I got blood taken then also to check for blood clotting disorders, antibodies, autoimmune something or other and I don't know what else. This is another follow up to discuss them results and hopefully the placenta results if they are back. Its been 13 weeks now, they really should be. I am just concerned that I have a blood clotting disorder or something wrong that will effect future pregnancies. I also have this irrational thought that she will say we can't have anymore babies because of .... but I know I am being irrational and thinking the worst.

I'm sorry you have been sick but as everyone says its a good sign. I think its better that you tell your boss also. They might lessen the workload and will understand if you are sick etc. Its normal to have a little cry hun- we won't say anything though.

Really sorry, I realised that after I posted - so then edited! :doh: I'm so dense sometimes!

My other head found out today. He was delighted too. Probably the benefit of working in a Catholic school when babies are fairly predictably on the cards if you're a newly wed couple! And yeah, now I get a risk assessment done and things will be in place to make things a little bit easier for me! Which is really nice. I love my job so much though that I'm trying to do all the ante-natal stuff when I'm free or after school time.

Any test is there to ensure that you are as safe as possible next time and now. It could be that baby had a condition that they're trying to confirm. It could just be that the labs are just ridiculously slow at getting results back! I was only told last week that I had a post-partum hemorhage when Baby was delivered. I had no idea - hubby and midwives were so calm about it. It wasnt good at all. So I'm on the consultants list about that and then there is the chance that I might have to have a c section to avoid it happen again.

And thanks for not telling anyone! Although - I got teary with hubby last night with how nervous I'm feeling about all of this. I REALLY want this one to stick!

xxx

 

[Nikki_d72]

Good to hear from you all this morning - Kelly, I do exactly the same, soon as Dd is off to school I'm here! I think you are all fab ladies and I am so glad I met you, even though the circumstances are so bad. It's just a shame that by the time I get here most of you are snoring coz it's night time for you!

Erica - I was told at delivery so early there is a much increased chance of PPH, they gave me the syntromin injection even after the placenta passed and I asked why as I didn't see the point (it's usually used to ensure fast delivery of the placenta). The Ob told me the risks of heavy bleeding at an early gestation are much much higher with such an early delivery. So you may not need to have a section to avoid it if you don't want one. That's why I can't believe that originally the hospital were just going to leave me here to miscarry (4hrs from main hospital) with a risk like that involved. Until it was discovered it was twins they weren't going to do anything at all - it was the radiologist who arranged transfer for us. Can you remember if you got an injection in your thigh just after delivery? If you didn't then that may be your reason. It will be in your notes, you can ask if you had a managed third stage or not when you see your specialist.

AFM: Not much to report, except I'm turning into a mad symptom-spotter already, I'm only about 5DPO. I had a strange hot flush in my face yesterday afternoon, but only on one side of my face, it was sooo strange. I could touch one half and it was roasting, and the other side cold (it was not a hot day and the house was quite cold). The rest of me was cold. It happened all of a sudden and took quite a while to go away. Other than that I feel achy and bloated but that's nothing too new the week or so before AF. I have a stuffy nose too but not sneezing (sneezes seem to be an indicator of progesterone rise in me - I get it every month around O time and always when I'm preggers). It's gonna be a looong 10days!! I said I wouldn't do this again as well, it's impossible to avoid the madness.

Hope you are all well! xxx

 

[collie_crazy]

for baby making Kelly! Dont worry we will be here to help you through the crazy TWW and will symptom spot along with you!

After last month of having a good few BFPs we need to do even better this month I just know there will be more rainbows arriving soon

Nikki I got the stuffy / itchy nose thing in my TWW too! Not sure which DPO it started at right enough I still get it occasionally now too. Its annoying when it wakes me up in the morning and I want to claw my nose off my face

Well I got my scan letter through. Its been booked for the 29th Nov. Which I am quite unhappy about. The consultant told me that it would be at 6 weeks but I will be 7+3 by that point. I'm trying to look at the positive side of things that we will be more likely to see the heartbeat etc by then but really all I'm thinking is its 10 more days to wait

Oh and I won a christmas competition that Carlymarie was running (the lady from Western Australia that does the name in the sand pics) and I just got my photo through earlier today

its my avatar now

 

[KamIAm]

Ooo! Amanda, I sooo love your new picture!! I'd love to have one made for Emma.. super cool!

Full steam ahead... Choo choo! Symptom spotting with Nikki and then with the rest of us shortly after!!

I am feeling a lil better tonight, trying not to run me away from here, it was my fault... So, I knew what I was getting into, the risks of sharing, announcing soooo oh well.... I love you girls!

 

[mhazzab]

Amanda, sorry you are having to wait a bit longer for the scan but it will be so worth it. Mine was at 7+4,the view was amazing, it looked like a little baby and had a lovely beating heart well, once they went internally, apparently the toast I ate for breakfast was blocking a good belly scan

AND, I think you have just helped me find my Xmas decorations I was after! The sand trees would be lovely framed and by my fireplace! Thanks for sharing )) xxx