Lovely Ladies TTC

[Starlight2012]

Hope - so sorry that this wasn't the one xxxooo

Minnie - we have been TTC for about 18 months and DH and I were tested after about one year, but some people can go for testing as early as 6 months depending on your doctor

 

[carlywarly]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

Awh Hope I am so so sorry hun....FX for next cycle...but please take time to grieve if you need to xx

 

[AngelNoelle]

Yep, and coz friends and family know we're trying, I find people trying to discreetly glance at my belly and I feel like yelling "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat!" lol.

Ugh that is the worst! A year and half after we got married, we went back to my hometown to visit friends and family.
My hormonal problems had caused me to gain weight - mostly around the waist - since the last time we'd seen them and from the first they saw me my mom and gramma were stealing glances at my belly.
Then they took me aside and asked. They had NO idea how incredibly painful that was. I desperately wanted a baby and had no success, and then to be asked that...
I cried and cried later.

So sad I wish people would realize that if we're actually pregnant we would like to announce it on our on, at the time we feel it's safe to do so, like maybe at the start of the 2nd trimester.

I've been asked when I was due while wearing an empire waisted top. At the time I weighed 150lbs and carried it very well so I didn't even have a belly poking out. That was the last time I wore that top, and I really loved it Luckily I wasn't TTC then or I'd have been crushed (even more, lol).

 

[AngelNoelle]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

On no I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[Smiler82]

Oh no, Hope I am so sorry to hear this As carlywarly says, take some time to grieve if you need to. A loss is a hard thing to deal with xx

 

[Smiler82]

Yep, and coz friends and family know we're trying, I find people trying to discreetly glance at my belly and I feel like yelling "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat!" lol.

Ugh that is the worst! A year and half after we got married, we went back to my hometown to visit friends and family.
My hormonal problems had caused me to gain weight - mostly around the waist - since the last time we'd seen them and from the first they saw me my mom and gramma were stealing glances at my belly.
Then they took me aside and asked. They had NO idea how incredibly painful that was. I desperately wanted a baby and had no success, and then to be asked that...
I cried and cried later.

So sad I wish people would realize that if we're actually pregnant we would like to announce it on our on, at the time we feel it's safe to do so, like maybe at the start of the 2nd trimester.

I've been asked when I was due while wearing an empire waisted top. At the time I weighed 150lbs and carried it very well so I didn't even have a belly poking out. That was the last time I wore that top, and I really loved it Luckily I wasn't TTC then or I'd have been crushed (even more, lol).

I just can't believe people think it is ok to ask!! Pregnant ladies should absolutely be left to announce it in their own time and on their own terms. Personally I know for my next pregnancy I'm not saying a peep til 13-14 weeks for close family, then hopefully as late as 20 weeks for friends. I'm sorry some of you ladies were put in such an awkward position. I get quite paranoid at times - if I'd never had my miscarriages, then no one would know we wanted a family. So now everyone knows by default, I really do feel like there's an air of expectation for an announcement any time we visit. So I feel duty-bound to have a glass of wine just to answer their question

 

[AuCa]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

I'm so sorry to hear that Hope! Lots of hugs!

 

[MinnieMcMoose]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

So sorry to hear your sad news

 

[MinnieMcMoose]

Hope - so sorry that this wasn't the one xxxooo

Minnie - we have been TTC for about 18 months and DH and I were tested after about one year, but some people can go for testing as early as 6 months depending on your doctor

We're in the UK, so everything is NHS, so not sure how long they'll make us wait before testing. Suppose I could tell my doctor that we've been trying for a year already, but on the other hand I suppose I don't really want anyone poking at me until it's really necessary.

 

[MinnieMcMoose]

Yep, and coz friends and family know we're trying, I find people trying to discreetly glance at my belly and I feel like yelling "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat!" lol.

Ugh that is the worst! A year and half after we got married, we went back to my hometown to visit friends and family.
My hormonal problems had caused me to gain weight - mostly around the waist - since the last time we'd seen them and from the first they saw me my mom and gramma were stealing glances at my belly.
Then they took me aside and asked. They had NO idea how incredibly painful that was. I desperately wanted a baby and had no success, and then to be asked that...
I cried and cried later.

So sad I wish people would realize that if we're actually pregnant we would like to announce it on our on, at the time we feel it's safe to do so, like maybe at the start of the 2nd trimester.

I've been asked when I was due while wearing an empire waisted top. At the time I weighed 150lbs and carried it very well so I didn't even have a belly poking out. That was the last time I wore that top, and I really loved it Luckily I wasn't TTC then or I'd have been crushed (even more, lol).

I didn't even get to tell my friends with my first pregnancy. We told close family and one of them (his family, I might add) told a random cousin. Who bumped into one of our friends and told him, who then told ALL of our friends, because he 'didn't realise it was a secret'. Idiot! I can't explain how furious I was.

 

[Nadhoo]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

Oh no .. Feel so sad **hugs**

 

[MajorBee]

Oh sorry Hope, thats such sad news. I hope you're doing okay. I don't know if you're looking for it, but I found some really helpful information and great support on the Miscarriage Support section here on BnB. And, of course, there's us Really feeling for you honey, its a tough tough time but you will get to the other side, in your own time. Take care sweetie.

Minnie - you've been waiting ages! Love that you're finally about to get onto ttc#2 now though Fingers crossed it won't be much longer for you.

Carly - I'm so so glad I've only lost the one, and I'm sure if I was unlucky enough to lose a later pregnancy it might put my early mc into a different perspective. But it has been a very real loss for me. In fact, my OH hasn't felt it like I did & I've struggled a little with that. We only knew for a day before we lost her (I think of her as a "her"!), so he really hadn't even gotten his head around it before it was no more. Anyway - Hope I'm aware you might be reading this - and want you to know that my early mc was mid-Sept and I felt awful for a few days (I had a couple of days off work, which was the right thing for me to do - emotionally), and have had a couple of random sad & teary moments. But I was actually pleased when AF turned up as it meant body was back on track and we're now busy trying to fall pregnant again.

Oooo I've rambled. Sorry ladies!

Hope everyone else is well & happy x

 

[carlywarly]

Oh sorry Hope, thats such sad news. I hope you're doing okay. I don't know if you're looking for it, but I found some really helpful information and great support on the Miscarriage Support section here on BnB. And, of course, there's us Really feeling for you honey, its a tough tough time but you will get to the other side, in your own time. Take care sweetie.

Minnie - you've been waiting ages! Love that you're finally about to get onto ttc#2 now though Fingers crossed it won't be much longer for you.

Carly - I'm so so glad I've only lost the one, and I'm sure if I was unlucky enough to lose a later pregnancy it might put my early mc into a different perspective. But it has been a very real loss for me. In fact, my OH hasn't felt it like I did & I've struggled a little with that. We only knew for a day before we lost her (I think of her as a "her"!), so he really hadn't even gotten his head around it before it was no more. Anyway - Hope I'm aware you might be reading this - and want you to know that my early mc was mid-Sept and I felt awful for a few days (I had a couple of days off work, which was the right thing for me to do - emotionally), and have had a couple of random sad & teary moments. But I was actually pleased when AF turned up as it meant body was back on track and we're now busy trying to fall pregnant again.

Oooo I've rambled. Sorry ladies!

Hope everyone else is well & happy x

You haven't rambled hun - thank you for sharing

A loss is still a loss...no matter how early or late...I just meant that it wasn't as bad for me...not generally...everyone feels things on different levels. I wasn't making light of your situation...and I hope you didn't take it that way hun

Good luck on your baby journey...I hope you get a and a sticky bean real soon!! xx

 

[MajorBee]

Oh sorry Hope, thats such sad news. I hope you're doing okay. I don't know if you're looking for it, but I found some really helpful information and great support on the Miscarriage Support section here on BnB. And, of course, there's us Really feeling for you honey, its a tough tough time but you will get to the other side, in your own time. Take care sweetie.

Minnie - you've been waiting ages! Love that you're finally about to get onto ttc#2 now though Fingers crossed it won't be much longer for you.

Carly - I'm so so glad I've only lost the one, and I'm sure if I was unlucky enough to lose a later pregnancy it might put my early mc into a different perspective. But it has been a very real loss for me. In fact, my OH hasn't felt it like I did & I've struggled a little with that. We only knew for a day before we lost her (I think of her as a "her"!), so he really hadn't even gotten his head around it before it was no more. Anyway - Hope I'm aware you might be reading this - and want you to know that my early mc was mid-Sept and I felt awful for a few days (I had a couple of days off work, which was the right thing for me to do - emotionally), and have had a couple of random sad & teary moments. But I was actually pleased when AF turned up as it meant body was back on track and we're now busy trying to fall pregnant again.

Oooo I've rambled. Sorry ladies!

Hope everyone else is well & happy x

You haven't rambled hun - thank you for sharing

A loss is still a loss...no matter how early or late...I just meant that it wasn't as bad for me...not generally...everyone feels things on different levels. I wasn't making light of your situation...and I hope you didn't take it that way hun

Good luck on your baby journey...I hope you get a and a sticky bean real soon!! xx

Oh no hon, I didn't take your post that way - sorry if mine came across funny. I'm honestly glad it was so early, I shudder to think how I'd feel losing a later pregnancy. I really feel for anyone who goes through any loss like this.

No, we're all good Carly - onwards and upwards to those fabulous BFPs!

How are you doing Hope?

 

[PurpleIvy44]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

I'm very sorry for your loss Hope. I hope you're doing ok.

Thanks ladies so happy i found this site,you've all been so great I'm at the point now were i believe whatevers meant to be will be i will keep you all updated x

I couldn't agree more. I think this is a great group of women to go through this journey with.

 

[minuet]

Hi ladies so i said id keep you updated sadly it wasn't a sticky bean this time was devastated this mornin but I've realized it wasn't meant to be this month maybe next xx

So sorry to hear that honey.

 

[minuet]

So sad I wish people would realize that if we're actually pregnant we would like to announce it on our on, at the time we feel it's safe to do so, like maybe at the start of the 2nd trimester.

I've been asked when I was due while wearing an empire waisted top. At the time I weighed 150lbs and carried it very well so I didn't even have a belly poking out. That was the last time I wore that top, and I really loved it Luckily I wasn't TTC then or I'd have been crushed (even more, lol).

Wow that must have been upsetting! I LOVE empire waist tops too, but have always been paranoid of wearing them for that exact reason.
I guess people always are curious and want to ask because it's exciting to think of welcoming another baby. When I was young and single I was always looking for signs of it in married ladies I knew, just because I loved babies.
But asking or making comments - that's really not appropriate for sure!

 

[AngelNoelle]

So sad I wish people would realize that if we're actually pregnant we would like to announce it on our on, at the time we feel it's safe to do so, like maybe at the start of the 2nd trimester.

I've been asked when I was due while wearing an empire waisted top. At the time I weighed 150lbs and carried it very well so I didn't even have a belly poking out. That was the last time I wore that top, and I really loved it Luckily I wasn't TTC then or I'd have been crushed (even more, lol).

Wow that must have been upsetting! I LOVE empire waist tops too, but have always been paranoid of wearing them for that exact reason.
I guess people always are curious and want to ask because it's exciting to think of welcoming another baby. When I was young and single I was always looking for signs of it in married ladies I knew, just because I loved babies.
But asking or making comments - that's really not appropriate for sure!

Lol, the only other time I had a top that fit snug around the chest and loose around the tummy I had gotten it from my SIL and DH told me (after I'd worn it a few times) that he thought it was one of her old maternity tops. Clearly these kind of tops don't look right on me!!! But hey, if I ever need a maternity top again (fingers crossed) I will be all set, ha ha!!

 

[AngelNoelle]

Hope, I've been thinking about you all day lovey and I hope you're okay. I had a m/c last year in September. We were ntnp and once I fell pg we realized how much we wanted it, not just us but our families too. I was so angry at why we'd be given a gift that we were not even really trying to have, and once we realized how much that gift meant to us it was ripped away.

After the m/c it seemed like my life was divided into two parts, everything that happened before the m/c when life was full of possibility and hope, and then everything that happened after when I knew what it felt like to lose a baby. I only knew I was pg for about a week, I never made it to my first doctor's appointment before the m/c. They ultra sounded me to make sure everything had passed, and there on the screen was my empty uterus.

It's okay to be angry, to be devastated or depressed, to lash out, to cry in a parking lot during your lunch break, and to take as much time as you need to heal. It's also okay to jump right back and try again as soon as you're ready even if it's next month

One thing I can tell you about the women that ttc again after suffering a loss is that they are strong and courageous and not afraid to try again even knowing what the cost may be because the reward is worth it.

We are all right here with you sweetie anytime you need an ear or a shoulder

 

[Nadhoo]

Hey lovely ladies.. This is that time of the month again where my DH gets really lucky .. I am entering my fertile period again .. Will do my best to try to catch the eggie .. Planning to keep scanning to make sure when I ovulate .. DH's SA sample is in the lab .. Will know the results today .. Wish me luck!!!!!

Baby dust to you all .. Hope the girls who got their BFP have a happy and healthy pregnancy n delivery ..