Lucky thread

[cathgibbs]

Hiya ladies,

iv had a nightmare of a weekend me and OH argued on Saturday then made up then went up the pub for a few drinks and my pregnant friend came up, shes about 8 weeks and im finding it hard, im soooo happy for them both but finding it hard to talk about baby stuff with her. OHs mothers friend came up to me so happy saying ohhhhh i hear congrats are in order so understandably i was upset as i had to tell her and because i was feeling a bit down we left. i txt pg friend yest morning at 9am to say sorry if i was a bit off xxx and she replied 12 hours later saying 'no probs' so i told her exactly how i feel and then she txt back saying 'why cant you just be happy for me!!' i just let rip on her then telling her how hard im finding it etc so its safe to say we are no longer friends but im not too concerned as shes not my friend really shes ohs friends gf. just feel real shitty today xxx oh and i fell down the stairs not good lol xxx

 

[Wiggler]

OMG how rude of your friend! I honestly think people who haven't been through a MC don't understand how truly devestating it is, I know I didn't understand at all before I had one. Huge hugs hun

Whats everyone got planned for today? I was meant to be taking my son to nursery but can't as I don't drive and my stupid pelvis is agony again. Housework day I think, and might make some homemade chicken stock. x x x

 

[cathgibbs]

she us very incensitive! they were trying for a year to get pregnant but shes only 21! when we told her i were pregnant she just carried on washing the dishes and mumbled congrats! she even had the cheek to txt me to ask if my boobs hurt when i were pregnant, if i was tired alot and when my DD was as hers is Boxing Day!!!!! Arghhhhh!!!! Excuse my french but shes an absolute bitch and im not going to lose any sleep by not being friends with her.

Rant OVER!! haha

Im stuck in work and the weather is going to be really nice today HMPH!!

o0hhhh rest up and take it easy hun! have a chill out day in the garden or something xxx

 

[Wiggler]

I hate people like that, all "me, me, me!" x x x

 

[dancareoi]

she us very incensitive! they were trying for a year to get pregnant but shes only 21! when we told her i were pregnant she just carried on washing the dishes and mumbled congrats! she even had the cheek to txt me to ask if my boobs hurt when i were pregnant, if i was tired alot and when my DD was as hers is Boxing Day!!!!! Arghhhhh!!!! Excuse my french but shes an absolute bitch and im not going to lose any sleep by not being friends with her.

Rant OVER!! haha

Im stuck in work and the weather is going to be really nice today HMPH!!

o0hhhh rest up and take it easy hun! have a chill out day in the garden or something xxx

People who have not had a MC have no idea what it feels like.

My first MMC in july 09 was at 8 weeks and no-one knew i was PG, apart from close family.

However when I lost my LO in jan i thought i was 17 weeks PG (baby died at 13-14weeks) so everyone knew. Most people were fine and just said how sorry they were.

I am very lucky to already have 3 beautiful children and the comment i received off a couple of people was, " well at least you have your other 3"

i think they are trying to be helpful, but whether you have 0 children or 100 children, the loss you experience is still the same.

 

[cathgibbs]

Exactly, the way i look at it aswell is i was sooo happy and to go from planning your life around a baby to having it snatched away within 24 hours is the most painful thing to ever go through.

Dancereoi - that must have been awul to miscarry at that stage, i think the thing i am grateful is that i miscarried at only 6 weeks so it wasnt too traumatic on myself or my body, still hurt but if i was futher gone i think it would be even more horrible.

oh and one more thing she said 'at least you got pregnant, i didnt know if i could ever get pregnant' thanks!

 

[dancareoi]

Exactly, the way i look at it aswell is i was sooo happy and to go from planning your life around a baby to having it snatched away within 24 hours is the most painful thing to ever go through.

Dancereoi - that must have been awul to miscarry at that stage, i think the thing i am grateful is that i miscarried at only 6 weeks so it wasnt too traumatic on myself or my body, still hurt but if i was futher gone i think it would be even more horrible.

oh and one more thing she said 'at least you got pregnant, i didnt know if i could ever get pregnant' thanks!

My sister was very helpful to me during my losses, she had experienced two herself the first twice she was pregnant, losing both early on.

From my point of view, the second loss was so much worse, i was still extremely upset at the first, but the second was worse in the fact that I had to give birth to this LO and baby was born sleeping 12.1.12. It is the worst thing we have ever been through, especially as we then had to have a funeral service, to which only myself and DH attended as we thought it was too upsetting for anyone else.

however, my sister made a very good point, she said it doesn`t matter how far on your were, whether it was 6 weeks or 16 weeks, to you it is the worst thing you will ever experience and can not be compared to anyone elses loss because it is your loss and your upset.

She was so right. Luckily after her first two losses, she went on to have 2 healthy girls who are now 9 and 4.

 

[cathgibbs]

Oh hun, thats terrible, i really feel for you i really do, worst thing a parent can do is bury their child. I hope you and your husband are getting a bit better xxxx

shes right, everyone handles grief differently aswell, OH wanted me to go to the Drs last week as he thinks im starting to suffer from depression again, i have mild bi-polar but i think the only thing that will truly make me happy is to be pregnant again so its just a waiting game! the only good thing is though you get to have fun will trying ;-) xxx

 

[baileybubs]

Aww ladies I am so sorry you are having to deal with such insensitive people, I guess I'm just lucky that all my family and friends have been amazing, with the exception of a few minor misgivings that I think were well intentioned. I think people just can't comprehend what it feels like, and I don't understand why people have the notion that a first trimester loss is not worth grieving over.....the nurses at EPAU were pretty much telling me that i was lucky it was first trimester, which I get in a sense as I cannot imagine how hard it was for you to lose your LO at 17 weeks dancaroi, but I don't think anyone should use the word lucky when talking to someone who has just had a miscarriage.

Loads of hugs to everyone xxxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Oh hun, thats terrible, i really feel for you i really do, worst thing a parent can do is bury their child. I hope you and your husband are getting a bit better xxxx

shes right, everyone handles grief differently aswell, OH wanted me to go to the Drs last week as he thinks im starting to suffer from depression again, i have mild bi-polar but i think the only thing that will truly make me happy is to be pregnant again so its just a waiting game! the only good thing is though you get to have fun will trying ;-) xxx

After losing my first in 2009, we waited for 1 AF then started trying again, i became PG Straight away and my little boy was born in May 2010, he will be 2 on Friday (he has a brother 10 and a sister 7)

Being PG again so soon, really helped me get over the MC, i still got upset, but being PG again helped so much.

this time has been so different as number 4 wasn`t planned as i am now 40 and DH is 42.

So when i lost it, DH was reluctant to try again. He was alos very worried about how another loss would effect our famaily, as due to the stage we lost this one, our 2 eldest knew we were having another baby, so telling them we lost it was so difficult.

my son went away with school 3 weeks ago for 2 nights. When he came back i found a piece of work they had done whilst they were away, about themselves and who and what make them happy and sad and also what was their best and worst memories. He had written that the worst thing for him was losing a sibling. this made me so sad that he thinks this way.

I was desperate to try again, but knew DH was right as well, as it is not just us. My doc refered me to a specialist, she actually specialises in recurrent MC but DH said we should see her and see what she says.

We didn`t have a PM on our LO so dont know the cause. The professor said it was very unususal to lose a baby when we did especially as we had had a healthy nuchal scan at 12 weeks.

Anyway, she was very nice and they took 7 lots of blood to teat for all sorts of things e.g thyroid and sticky blood. If any of these come back positive she said that is good as they can treat them, but only once PG.

We explained how terrible it was last time and she has promised they will look after me so well and if I were to get PG again, they would see me every 2 weeks and scan me each time. She can`t promise i won`t lose another but she has promised they will do all they can to make sure our family doesn`t have to go throught this again.

My DH and I have agreed to try again, as he knows how much i need to do this. We are actually in the TWW club now, so will have to see what happens.

After i had my first MC and then had my son, i vowed i wouldn`t put myself through all the worry and heartache again, but here i am, trying to do exactly the same.

i think it is our maternal instinct, we need to have babies!

 

[CherylC3]

Exactly, the way i look at it aswell is i was sooo happy and to go from planning your life around a baby to having it snatched away within 24 hours is the most painful thing to ever go through.

Dancereoi - that must have been awul to miscarry at that stage, i think the thing i am grateful is that i miscarried at only 6 weeks so it wasnt too traumatic on myself or my body, still hurt but if i was futher gone i think it would be even more horrible.

oh and one more thing she said 'at least you got pregnant, i didnt know if i could ever get pregnant' thanks!

I hate when people say at least u got pregnant, my friend said to me at least u can carry a baby eh I don't think so hen thts why I mc

U so called friend sounds like a bitch at least if u hav fallen out u won't nd to listen to all her baby talk..
Dancereoi I'm sorry for ur losses it must be hard when it happens further along.

I'm getting my hair done today and then I'm working 1 till half 5 so quite good wee shift. Xx

 

[cathgibbs]

I feel so much more happier that im no longer friends with her, shes the type of person that we are only friends as our boyfriends are good friends we would never be friends otherwise, not my cup of tea at all!!!

Ahhhhhh id love to have my hair done today, and then chill out in the sun contemplating booking Friday off work..... xxx

 

[CherylC3]

I'm off wed thurs it's hubbys birthday on wed so going to spoil him. Well she does my hair then I do hers so can just sit and relax getting it done lol..xx

 

[CortneyMarie]

Need hugs tonight girls. Saw my friends earlier and she is now 15 weeks along, I was due before her and its really hurting me, I am so happy for tham and I feel horrible because their baby is making me upset

I know I'm a little late but I know its hard I'm in the same boat chin up and its ok to be upset hope ur feeling better today

 

[CortneyMarie]

Well allow those hugs can go to everyone that's feeling down dangerous your sisters words made me cry she sounds like a lady id like to have around !!! I had an amazing weekend couldn't ask for much more...it reminded me of why life is soooo good despite all the bs! I'm 4/5 dpo and time is flying which is good but I just feel like it isn't going to happen..not only this cycle but ever!! Idk I have to be so hopelessly pessemistic but ive been waiting all along to lose a bit of hope and its looking like I'm at that point so my bfp will be a surprise and the bfns not so heartbreaking.

 

[cathgibbs]

My OPKs are getting darker!! not quite there yet but yesterday i could barely see the line and today its quite visable!! i think ill be OV some time this week i think! xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Fingers crossed tht goes positive soon...xx

 

[cathgibbs]

Thank you hun, i thought i might have already O even though i only had AF last weekend, tests started going negative to the point where i could barely see the lime lol! as soon as that test gets positive ill be happy xxx

 

[fletch_W]

I had my mc on march 15th had my first af on April 17th and now waiting for my second af or a Bfp but before mc I was 30 days bang on every month. I'm so confused.

I might hijack hubby appt tomorrow

This is where I am too. Dr today at 3.30. Big temp drop today but I thought O was last wk so god knows... Grrrr

Everyday I swear AF is coming by tummy pains etc

Hey hunny how did you get on at the docs? I'm there tomorrow morn ill be a week late then so will test before I go. I'll be 14dpo at the latest. I will ask for a blood test. Hopefully ill get sorted.

I'm not having and cramps so I'm a little worried.

Hope you got sorted too xx

 

[Dani Rose]

I totally broke down

They are doing bloods when I go back at 5pm. I will get results in 2 days time.

Today hasn't been a good day for me, I feel as bad as when had the MC. Feel stuck in limbo and like I can't move on.