Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[Frufru]

Thank you ladies

Our wedding, Han and Joni all happened in exactly 4 weeks OUr wedding was the last time I saw Hannah and I went into labour the day after the funeral. I have sometimes thought that I wish our wedding and Joni's birth were not so intertwined with such a sad memory. But then I think about how unbearable that time would have been without the joy and happiness from our wedding and Joni's arrival. Even before Joni was born she was a bright light shining down on my family and all our friends giving us hope and showing us the path out of the darkness

I knew that Christmas and the next few months with her birthday and such were going to be hard. Even though you try to mentally and emotionally groom yourself to expect and cope with your feelings they still manage to sneak up and catch you unawares. I don't think it helps that my mind has been playing silly tricks on me recently. I got a text at a silly time the other day and was wondering who it was from and convinced myself it must be from Hannah as she is the only person who ever texts at that time of day I have to walk home from the city past Han's old house and the other day as I passed Joni was really grumping for a feed. I was chatting away to her to try and keep her occupied and started telling her how it was ok, we were nearly at Aunty Han's and she would love to see us and would not mind if we stopped and fed her there silly me.

My sisters girls are 8 and nearly 13. They seem to be managing remarkably well all things considered. THe eldest has started being able to talk about her Mum again and have a little cry here and there. The youngest does not like to talk about or mention Han at all and gets really tense and withdrawn if she see's a picture of her Mum or if people keep trying to talk about her even after she has tried to change the subject. I have spoken to a children's grief councellor who said not to be worried by this and that she is merely refusing to talk about Han as it upsets and hurts her and this will gradually subside over time.

Sorry to have brought such a somber subject to the thread. I have just really been struggling with my feelings for the past week or two and find it difficult to open up and talk about things. My usual coping mechanism is deny deny deny!!!!!! Then last night I sat down and started to type and it all came out. THank you so much for the hugs and support, you ladies are all just fantastic. I am virtually hugging you all back right now!!!!!

I had my first rolling poop to contend with today Joni is such a little monkey sometimes

Hannah there seems to be mixed opinions as to whether loose poops are related to teething or not. Personally I do think they are connected. Joni had dreadful runs over the weekend and was teething like a fiend then both dissapeared together this is not the first time she has had loose poops when her teething has been really active.

I really should go and get dressed, JOni and I are off to meet a few Mum's and babies from our surestart postnatal group for a catch up this morning. I actually managed to get Joni down to nap a bit earlier today as the last couple of weeks she has slept through the time slot when we usually meet the others I want to try and get everything ready to go so when Joni wakes/I wake her we can suit up and nip off.

SPeak to you all later xx

 

[maybebaby3]

frufru - huge i cannot begn to imagine how you must be feeling. we lost my uncle to cancer 4 weeks before dylan was born and that christmas was very strange as h was always the life and soul of the party. it does get easier with time i guess coz you get used to that person not being there but it is hard and to lose a sister, well i cant even begin to imagine how hard that must be. you are a very strong person but remember that it is ok to cry. your sister will always be there looking down on you. i like to feel that my uncle passing away so shortly before dylan's birth means that he is lik a kind of guardian angel for him. maybe your sister is a guardian angel for joni. i know that she would want you to remember her and the good time and try and enjoy christmas with your gorgeous baby girl. if you ever feel that you need to talk and just let it all out then remember that we are all here for you

h&f - after saying that things were better with OH we had an awful evening. i dont even know why i asked himif he was angry with me but he said no. he was in a complete strop and shouted at erin coz she wanted some food from his plate so he left the food and shouted at her to have it and stropped off and locked himself away! he was really arsey with me, making snide remarks and really rude as i was watching america's next top model whilst ironing and he came in all stroppy and changed the channel without even asking i spoke to him and he completely ignored me! so i carried on with the ironing, then cleaned the kitchen and hung out a wash before going to bed. and i went to bed without saying goodnight. i can't be bothered with crying over him and his ways any more.

hannah - have you tested yet?

well there has been torrential rain and thunderstorms today and i got soaked taking the kids to school and nursery. luckily they were wearing full waterproofs and wellies so were ok and owen wasnice and tucked up in his pram

got to go as owen is demanding my attention

 

[x__Hannah__x]

Maybe - Nope I haven't tested yet, haven't had time lol, hopefully going to go out and get a test later as got estate agent coming around at 11 to talk about our tenancy

 

[maybebaby3]

hannah - good luck!

my OH is going to kill me as we have gone overdrawn this month and never do and it's all going to be my fault for getting pressies

 

[Frufru]

Maybebaby perhaps its his time of the month

Well today has been a bit of a damp squib socially speaking. I turned up at the the surestart and none of the other Mum's were there I waited for 10-15 minutes in case anyone was running late but still no one showed.

One of my other friends had texted in the morning about meeting in the city late morning-noon time so I came home and grabbed Joni's lunch stuff and headed into the city. I then got another text saying they were running late but leaving right then. So I did the couple of shopping bits I needed to do and then went to the cafe where we were meeting to give Joni lunch. Cue an hour later when I get a text saying they have just caught the bus and will hopefully be with me in half an hour By this point Joni is starting to grump for a nap so I have ended up just coming home.

To top it all off I have now had a text from the person I was seeing this afternoon to say they are having car trouble and need to go to the garage this afternoon.

It is a shame as I was really looking forward to seeing everyone today and have ended up seeing no-one

RIghto, I am off to have a snuggle with my best girl before her nap

 

[hope&faith09]

Hi all.

Frufru - Huge hugs and lots of love and kisses from Amy. When my niece was born my grandad died on the same day and so that day is always filled with mixed emotions.

Maybe - I cant believe your oh - me anddavestill arent speaking i am just praying we make some progress before christmas.

As for Christmas we are supposed to be going to my mums but the way the weather is looking I think I better go and get some food incase we get snowed in! What is everyone else upto for Christmas?

 

[x__Hannah__x]

Bought a cheapy test going to test later hope it's negative!

 

[maybebaby3]

hannah - don't leave us in suspense!!!!! test now

h&f - hope you and dave start speaking soon did it all stem from something little? sorry if i am being too nosy!

 

[x__Hannah__x]

I can't test yet, going to friends house first I will let you know when I do

 

[hope&faith09]

Maybe - it all stemed from his son being more important than Amy and me ... his words ... and a lot ofother bits he has said. But he had the nerve yesterday to ring my mother (the most nosy, interferring person) and tell her all my thoughts and feelings about the situation and now she is being completly off with me (she is literally one of my best friends but to be honest doesnt need to be involved in our personal discussions.)

I am also really angry - he said he would be home today at 11 so I could get the shopping done and do everything I need to do for christmas - guess what he isnt home yet - thats 7 hours late. He is currently locked out as I am fuming.

 

[L-C]

Frufru - you've had such a rollercoaster of a year, lots of hugs to you, I think you are amazing and are an inspiration to your little cutie xxx

H&F yay for the tooth, Will cut one on Friday and I was sure the next one was no where to be seen, but we had a night from hell last night and there is the corner of a tooth there this morning, bless him. So two bottom teeth for Christmas, really hope he and I will get a break for a bit now x Thank you for asking after him muddles Crikey 3 teeth, all the better for Christmas dinner!

So sorry you are having a shit time with your OH, hope he sorts himself out, losked out is the best place for him. I can't believe he said that to you, it's completely out of order.

Sarah so glad you are sorted for Christmas and that Oliver was a good boy when you went into work

Hannah - hope your test is negative for you!

Modo - I'm up for online weight loss, really need to sort myself out. May have to wear a uniform to go back to work, I won't even get it half way on at the moment.

I'm so rubbish I haven't been on for a few days, my brother came to stay and got stranded here in the snow. We had just over a foot and had a great time playing in it yesterday, pics on FB.

Will is still coming on in leaps and bounds, two teeth and today I found him standing at the stair gate! To top that of he is trying to crawl on his feet instead of his knees....I can't keep up. My Mum is coming on Christmas Eve and hasn't seen him in two weeks and he has changed so much.

I went to get the last of the food for Xmas today, it was heaving, people were panic buying due to the snow, so glad it's all done, I'm ready. Just have to make a toffee bannoffee and make sure that washing and ironing is up to date (it'll only last about 5 mins, not sure why I'm even attempting it) xx

 

[emera35]

Argh i've got a huge pile of presents staring at me, waiting to be wrapped Can't believe i managed to buy so much with my £100 budget

L-C - Will sounds alot like Roh, i just can't keep up with him either! He's started cruising today, which is exciting, but also terrifying, as he's very very wobbly, and i'm having to follow him round with my arms out incase he buckles, which he does regularly! I know it will be easier when he's better at it, as he won't collapse as much, but i'd only just made crawling level safe, and now i have a whole other level to think about Roh does that crawling on hands and feet thing too Although crawling was replaced with pulling up and cruising today, and also sitting himself up. Too fast!! Too fast!!

H&F - Your OH sounds really out of order Not only is it such a pain that you will have to rush about for Christmas, thats really thoughtless of him, but to get anyone involved in your personal relationship issues, regardless of who it is, and how close they are to you, is totally unacceptable in my opinion. I'd be fuming too! I really hope you can find a way to clear the air a bit before Christmas, although it sounds like he's being a complete arse, i'm guessing he's not the type to back down? Either way to you.

FruFru - Sorry your day ended up being a washout I felt a bit like that on Sunday, when my Christmas lunch with my Dad and both my brothers got cancelled, i was really looking forwards to it, i only see my Dad and youngest brother once a year or so. I guess with all this bad weather it must be happening to alot of people though Hope you had a nice snuggle with Joni

Maybe - Bleh, if you can't go overdrawn in December, then when can you Even we have put some things on the credit card, and we usually never do. Its kept for emergencies only! Guess our gifts for eachother counted as an emergency though! Hope your OH doesn't give you a hard time about it, I'm sure you can replace the money in the new year


I really want the snow to stop, i'm worried my Mum won't be able to make it here for Christmas Its not so bad here, wev'e only had about 6 inches in total over the last few days, and alot melted away, as it warmed up for an hour or two this afternoon and sleeted for a while. They have had around a foot or so where she is though. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Worst thing is, she's bringing the turkey!! Ah well i have some Chicken legs and bacon in the freezer, i imagine we can make do, worst comes to worst

Right, must get on, these presents won't wrap themselves!

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - we are arguing over crap these days. it seems he just uses any excuse to start an argument. before he went off in a strop coz i gave my cousin my laptop to give to his friend to fix instead of taking it to the shop

LC - well done will! he's really coming on! wow! i think he is way advanced for his age!!!

emera - hope your mum gets there!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Evening!

H&F Gosh your OH is SO out of order! How could he say that about you and Amy? I hope you get things sorted at least for Christmas, though if he keeps this up I'd be tempted to keep that door locked. Has something happened to stir all this up? for you and for him.

Emera & LC wow your boys are really coming on! Oliver is still not properly crawling, I'm making the most of it I keep thinking 'I won't be able to do that when he's crawling' . . . scarey!!

Emera I hope you enjoy your pressie wrapping! Your post reminded me that I could do with doing some of that too. I hope your mum can get to you for Christmas, when is she coming to you?

LC Toffee Banoffii??!?! Mmmmm that sounds gorgeous!!!!

FruFru I'm sorry your day didn't work out as you planned, days like that are rubbish. So frustrating! I hope tomorrow is much better. Some more for you, you know you can talk to us any time you like. If you ever just want to talk about Hannah or anything like that, you know you can PM me here or on Facebook if you want to be less 'public'. Bless your little nieces, I can't imagine what you are all going through learning to live without Hannah.

Maybe I agree with the others, if you can't go overdrawn in December, when can you

I feel like I haven't stopped today!! This morning I went for coffee to one of the mums from baby massage which was really nice. Then I came home and Oliver and I had lunch, he ate soooo much! It was a lot of fun and took ages - we had a good giggle and Oliver topped it off my grabbing his sippy cup and banging it so hard on the table that the lid flew off and water went everywhere - he was soaked! He looked suprised for a minute and then laughed and laughed, bless him! By that time it was 3pm, we had a snuggle on the sofa for a bit and then played for ages. Oliver was tucked up in bed for half six and has only woken once so far, so I've been trying to get some things done. I've finally got on top of the ironing so I just need to put that all away in the morning, and I've done lots of annoying jobs like cleaning out the fish tank and cleaning all the filters on the tumble dryer. I am so tired though! I haven't been sleeping great and I think its catching up with me. Steve made the mistake of saying today that he had a head ache because his sleep has been disturbed, and because he only got a few hours the other day. I had to walk away before I pointed out that I haven't had a full nights sleep in eight months I think he realised though as he shut up pretty quickly.

Still no snow here although its still bloomin cold! I need to walk into town tomorrow too, so Oliver and I will have to get wrapped up.

I should wrap some more pressies up but I'm tempted to just go to bed. I'm shattered! I think I'll do that, and then I'm sure I'll get more done tomorrow if I'm not so tired. I have done quite a lot tonight - so I'll reward myself with some sleep

xx

 

[x__Hannah__x]

So... I tested and....

got a :BFN: I don't know what's wrong with me, I'm 15 days late tomorrow

 

[Sarahwoo]

Hannah it will just be your body getting back to normal, don't worry!!

 

[maybebaby3]

yeah hannah i agree with sarah!

sarah - hope you have a good night's sleep. owen went down at 8.30 and has woken 5 times already ask oliver to have a word with him please!!!

 

[A3my]

Hi everyone :wave:

going to try to catch up - I'm sorry if i miss anything!

To all the ladies who have lost someone special huge huge i know its so hard to remember loved ones, but its so important to isnt it. My Nanny died 9 years ago but it still hurts so much that when we talk about her we all cry but we cry with a smile

Hannah - I hope the test is the result you want. I had a scare last month and worried myself silly. I put off testing for 2 weeks and drove everyone nuts on here flapping but it was a BFN. I still havent had a period! I got mine back at 6 wks pp and they were regular as clockwork, every 28 days and then they just stopped again! My daughters are 17 months apart, i found out I was pregnant with Holly when Emily was 6 months, it was hard but it all worked out fine and they are so close now

frufru - I'm sorry your day didnt go as planned

maybe - I am petrified about kerry finding out how overdrawn our joint account is!

sarah - I've had a busy day too catching up with ironing and sorting washing. My dining room looks like a laundrette

muddles -Alex's 3rd tooth looks like it will also make an appearance immenantly and we've had 3 unsettled nights now. I hope its soon for both our boys

H&F - men just know the most insensitive thing to say dont they! I cant believe he stooped so low. I really hope he apologises and makes things up to you both. he is a lucky man to have you and Amy!

LC - wow Will is so clever! I love your avatar

modo - i'm up for online weight loss too!. i will also struggle at going back to work as I look like a slob and have no chance of fitting in my work clothes

emera - fingers crossed your mum makes it for Christmas I really should get on with wrapping too!

insomnimama - lovely to hear from you, hows things?

well the girls are off school so life has been manic! we've had more snow and i also got cabin fever and took them all out to town in -6 degrees. It took soooo long to park and I forgot everything i needed so that was pointless and pretty stressful. I had dinner at my mums today which was nice though. I cant believe its christmas in 4 days!!!!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe Oliver has been going to sleep quite well and sleeping okay until about 2am when he will only sleep if he's in my arms. I have no idea why, but as soon as I put him down he starts really, really sobbing and only stops when I pick him up. So I've been sleeping mostly propped up in bed with him in my arms - my neck and shoulder are all stiff and painful all the time

I really am going to bed now

 

[A3my]

took me too long to write that!

Hannah - great news.