Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[maybebaby3]

hi all i thought we'd had a good christmas but OH has got slaughtered today and said how horrid christmas day was with my family. he is paranoid that everything anyone says is a dig at him& if i try to point out it wasn't he goes off on one saying i am trying to defend them but if i say nothing he has a go at me for saying nothing. he's drunk 2 bottles of wine&more than half a bottle of port. he told me to f off and threw owen's pram across the room and kicked the bag with the kids pressies. sorry to damper christmas spirits but needed to let it out and you girls are the only ones i can tell! am in my bedroom. dont want to go out. tried to speak to him but just got told to f off so i did.

 

[Sarahwoo]

Stay where you are Maybe, let him drink himself silly on his own. If you and the children had a good Christmas day (and I bet you did!) then sod him - tbh he deserves to have everyone talking about him even if they weren't. What a nasty piece of work he can be - just stay away when he's throwing and kicking thing hun. I hope the pram and the pressies are okay. What kind of a man kicks their own kids stuff? Seriously, he just gets worse and worse!! I hope you are okay, just try to ignore him until he's sober and don't let his nasty poison spoil your Christmas - its you and the kids and the day they had that matters

 

[hope&faith09]

Evening All.

Our christmas was lovely - spome photos on facebook. Had a second christmas at OH's parents today with his niece and nephew which was lovely but we only got home about 30 mins ago and I have lost my phone. On the way home we stopped in a lay by and I think it may have dropped out my pocket there ... so OH has gone back out.

I will update properly in the morning ... I really need to go to sleep am shattered and Amy has an awful cough I have a feeling she may be up during the night.

Am off to next sale first thing tomorrow to see if there is anything worth having for Amy in big sizes ... that is if I can drag myself out of bed!

Night all. x

 

[maybebaby3]

well absolutely nothing changes here i havent seen OH ye. he is asleep as usual. Dylan stayed at MIL last night so thanks goodness he didnt witness the pram throwing and f off's and present kicking. unfortunately erin and owen did He also had a go at me about giving the laptop to my cousin for his friend to fix. he said i didnt have the guts to say no to him and take it to the shop and now he has to put himself out getting a new hard drive from the shop and taking it to this guy to fix! he moan all the time about money and when we have a chance to save some by getting someone to fix it instead of paying the computer repair shop'sextortionately big bill he has a go at me. he says now he owes my cousin a favour. oh and he said that he was not going to call my cousin to arrange anything for the laptop, or go for the hard drive and sod the computer. if i'd known this would've happened i would've taken it to the shop but i thought that he'd be pleased. i feel so dead. i look at the kid and i want to cry. erin is getting so used to him going off on one and throwing things around that she is going tothink that that is the normal way for a man to treat you i am sat here crying onto the laptop as i am just so sad that just a simple question i asked him ('will you go to my cousin's surprise 21st party on wednesday') has sparked off this nightmare! it seems that he's just gagging for any excuse to have a massive go i am scared to say anything to him and then i just get it in the neck for not saying anything to him. it's lose lose. sorry i am probably not mking any sense. i am sorry for going on but this is my only outlet. i cant talk to anyone here about this. i am just so sad and keep thinking the kids are going to grow up and not need me any more and then what will i have?

 

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe can you talk to your mum? Does she know what he's like? Its awful that he did that in front of the children. Like you say, you don't want Erin thinking that's how men treat women - you don't want Owen and Dylan thinking that either. Its abuse at the end of the day, and he sounds like a really, really nasty piece of work.

I guess the question is do you think he will ever change? And if you don't, are you prepared to live like this?

I wish I could do more than just listen to you on here. If you think you could talk to your mum then I urge you to. You shouldn't have to keep it all bottled in. You need support.



He really doesn't deserve you and your beautiful children.

 

[maybebaby3]

thanks sarah. i dont think i could talk to my mum about this. i just feel so sad and hopeless. i have accepted that this is the way it's going to be. the thing is it's so hard as one minute things are fine and then the next they are not if he was horrid all the time it would be easier but he can be nice and caring and understanding when he wants but these explosions just come out when he ha been drinking (which he pretty much does every day though not the enormous amount he did yesterday) i'm just so sad. if he wakes up and i mention anything i'm sure to spark it off again but if i dont then i'll get accused of brushing what he feels under the carpet.

on a brighter note owen has just clapped his hands for the 1st time he's sat in the highchair watching erin dance to the wheels on the bus.

once again i am so sorry for moaning to all

 

[modo]

Maybe Sarah is giving you some great advice. You should think about talking to your mom. Your kids should not think this is normal behaviour

Glad Owen clapped his hand

 

[emera35]

Maybe - I'm so sorry your OH is being such a fool. Never worry about "moaning" as you put it, you are having a hard time, and we are all here for you, even if all we can do is listen Sorry i can't offer much advice, but Sarah is right i think talk to someone about it if you can

Phew,well, i'll try and come back later to post!

A belated MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! to all of you!

Our Christmas was lovely, but very very tiring for me! I was meant to work today but took the day off I ended up going to Bath for the day

Anyway, i have to put Roh to bed now, as it sounds like OH nearly has him dressed after his (very late) bath, we only got home at 7pm

 

[modo]

Emera: Hope you had a great time in Bath! I went there about 10 years ago with when I was doing my study abroad and had a great time! Can I ask what cloth diapers do you use?

H&F: Hope you and Amy feel better hon

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Bobby figured out how to drink from his free flow cup and drank loads of water. He made a delightful second poo that contained his dinner. Upon examination of the crime scene the only victims that were discernible were the carrots I have never seen so much food in his poo!

I am actually very pleased because this means he is eating a good amount now. Do you girls know when the food in the poo stage stops and the poo turns more solid?

Boo has been getting up on all fours and moving for a few seconds. It seems to frustrate him though He has also been making some really cute grunting sounds

 

[emera35]

Modo - I use a mix of nappies, Fuzzibunz one size, totsbots bamboozles with motherease wraps, some cotton totsbots ones, not sure what they are they were hand-me-downs and well used so the labels were washed out. I've also just got a few handmade ones,which are stuffable pocket ones.

As for the poo, it goes more solid when they start actually chewing food properly, so the parts they swallow get really small then. Roh does fully solid poos, as he's still having mostly mashed, and part-pureed food, with some finger foods. Its really different if we have a more fingerfoody day! Liked the vid of Bobby drinking!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a good day, Maybe I hope you are okay

I'm having an early night, I'm so tired!!

Xx

 

[maybebaby3]

sarah - i see you as supermum! running your buisnesses and looking after oliver and your house! i am sure they were nit meaning any harm, men just have no tact! i thought your website was fab when i looked at it!

emera - i love bath. i was there for 3years when i did my music degree

modo - glad bobby is enjoying his food/drink!

OH has been ok today. he hasnt mentioned anything about yesterday. he went and ordered a new hard drive for the laptop. i am wary that things could go sour again but am just grateful that i have come to bed without feeling like shit! owen is really suffering with a runny nose and is really snuffly so am not envisaging a good night! then again i never het a good night as he still wakes more than once an hour at least hope that improves before i go back to work!!!

 

[Sarahwoo]

I just edited my post and took my little rant out, I was just been sily. I woke up and felt bad for posting it, I really don't have anything to be complaining about. I'm just tired

 

[maybebaby3]

morning all! i am soooooooooo tired! would give anything for a lie in! we're supposed to go to spain food shopping today as there's no food in the fridge! lol!!!

 

[modo]

Maybe: to you because you totally desreve it! Thank you for your nice comment.

Emera: Thanks for that! I am using one flip diaper/nappy for now. Have ordered other flips and a few diapers of different brands to eventually start using at night. I just want to finish the disposable diapers I have then aim to switch to cloth completely. Do you use wet wipes or the reusable ones?

Sarah: I didn't catch your original post but I think your FB store is great!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Anyone else find that a bit wierd?^^^^^

 

[modo]

Yeah!!! I don't like it at all I put some personal info here!

 

[maybebaby3]

what information? i have some highly personal stuff here! not sure whether to report that post!

 

[maybebaby3]

i reported it

 

[maybebaby3]

he has some sort of website called great dad. he had better not use things we have said here on there. am slightly freaked out!!!