Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[modo]

Amy: thank you for your reassurance, it has made me feel a lot better. Sorry about K being this way I agree you should do what makes bedtime better so good luck with that I am sorry you are having to go through this

Sarah: I agree with Amy, shed time! Considering that you are in charge of bedtimes and naps, I would think you would get more of a say on the topic! Esp as Steve doesn't help you with them!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Yep it was shed time I expect that when I start sorting the room out etc he might have a change of heart and help out. I just don't know what to do about a toddler bed. His cot is a cot bed, and is lovely, but obviously he's still in there. I really need to keep that in our room for now. We do have a spare mattress (well two actually lol) so I did wonder if I could put a mattress on the floor for now, if it was just for naps and playing to get used to the whole 'Oliver Bed' idea? I could buy a bed, but then I'd need another mattress too because the spare one isn't cotbed / toddler bed size. Maybe that would be okay? I don't want to seem like a cheap skate but if I can avoid spending a hundred and fifty quid on a toddler bed and mattress I'd quite like to

Amy have you got a plan for getting Alex used to getting to sleep on his own? I try to put Oliver down when he's a little bit awake but it doesn't always work. When feeding doesn't work he's pretty good at just laying there until he falls asleep. But only when he's in the mood Most nights if I try it he just talks and shouts and climbs on me . Little monkey

 

[hope&faith09]

Hi all - sorry for being rubbish am struggling to function at the moment ... I seem to have the actual sickness under control but I still feel rough for a lot of the day and by about 3 I am so shattered I need a nap - so feeling like a bad mummy but hoping it will pass over the next few weeks. I have my booking in appointment on Saturday and then I will hopefully get my date for the 12 week scan!

Hope everyone is ok. Love and hugs to everyone. x xx

 

[emera35]

H&F - It does pass!! Hang in there, you're not a bad mummy, you are creating a sibling for Amy, that's a big deal, and hard work. She'll appreciate it all once she has a little brother or sister about to play with and boss about!

Sarah - If you have a decent single mattress then why not just get a cheap low single bed frame from Ikea or something like this one for example Single bed frame and then fit a guard rail to the side? Also, do you really need to keep the cotbed in your room? You could just go for it and make the changeover? Use one of the spare mattresses for yourself in Olivers room if he needs you there? Just a thought

Well we are taking the plunge tomorrow and moving Roh's bed in! I was planning to put the bed and cot both in his room, but i can't as OH got all stroppy about the price i was selling my chaise longue for, as i wanted a quick sale, so was going to sell it to an antique dealer. He's not happy with that so now i have to muck about trying to ebay it or something. I hate that sort of thing, i just want it gone to be honest, as much as i love it there is no place for it here Anyway its taking up loads of space in the nursery, so i can only fit the bed or the cot in, not both Means i'm going to have to really commit to the bed thing, with no back up option

Grr, think i'd mind less about the whole thing if either the chaise longue belonged to OH and he ahd any right to tell me what to do with it in reality, or if he was actually likely to help me at all with the transition from cot to bed. He'll move the furniture, but that will be about it.

I'm a bit pissed off with OH to be honest, he couldn't find something this morning whilst i was out with Roh at playgroup and apparently spent 2 hours looking for some cable. So i got a call when i was on my way home and he was on his way to work, hurling abuse at me, accusing me of throwing all his belongings away ?!? I was like "what are you on about, its probably in the boxes in the livingroom that i told you about" But apparently i hadn't told him about anything and i'm a cow for ruining his stuff and the house isn't even his home anymore, thanks for screwing his day up, etc etc.. Gaah, hardly my fault if he doesn't listen to me! And why the hell he didn't call me 2 hours earlier and ask me i don't know, i was at playgroup, not on the moon, i have a bloody mobile?! Honestly, all so over dramatic. Anyway, due to hormones i got quite upset about it, when usually i'd just facepalm and ignore it, so sent him a text saying he was being unfair. After that i've spent half the day having a txt argument with him like we are flipping 15 years old or something. Sodding hormones. As usual i ended up apologizing, just because i hate disagreements. Anyway, he'd be in the shed in chains, except he sent me a sheepish txt about an hour ago saying he'd made me a jacket potato at work, and did i want it with beef chilli and cheese and sour cream. Thats his idea of an apology, and i'm inclined to accept, because, yummy yum yum, love chilli jackets!!

Bleh, sorry, just needed to get it off my chest, its all so irritating! No idea what i'm going to do about it not feeling like his home, because its just tough, i'm sooo sick of living in student digs style with bloody boxes of stuff everywhere. I'd just like to spend the last year we will be in this flat (we've been here 8 years and still he's not unpacked his stuff fully, apparently that's homely??) without boxes involved!!! He's just going to have to get over it!

 

[Sarahwoo]

for you emera! That sounds exactly like an argument Steve and I would have! It will start because he can't find something or because he's got a bit of cat fluff on his trousers or something. Before you know it he can never have anything nice, I treat his stuff like shit, the house drives him crazy, he hates the house, etc etc - you know the stuff. Then what ever he's looking for will be in the first place I look for it, and a sticky roller thing will easily take care of the cat fluff. It really, really pisses me off when he does this - for example I had a box of DVD's in Olivers room that I'd taken out of the TV unit downstairs to make another toy drawer Well Steve thought they were in the way (they were a bit but not hugely) so since he was already been pissy about something he threw them into the room. Before I knew what he'd done he'd text me from work saying he's tidy them when he got home from work. I ended up doing it but if it had been the other way aroud he'd have been saying that I had no respect for his stuff, where as he's always chucking my stuff about. They were all my magic dvd's too so some of them are worth a fair bit. He never actually says sorry either - he'll do something like your OH did but he will NEVER say sorry

Bloody men

Good idea re the bed. The problem is that the spare mattress is a cot mattress, so a little bit smaller than the cot bed one. I thought it might be best to start slowly and use it for naps / playing before I make the leap and move the cotbed and tackle the night times. Steve got grumpy about the whole thing because we used to have a single bed in the spare room which we got rid off when we originally put the cot etc in there. I got the whole 'well you got rid of a perfectly good bed and there was no point' etc etc. But I had no idea we'd end up cosleeping, most of the things I imagined I'd do when I was pregnant worked out different when Oliver actually arrived Plus it was a 'normal' high bed so Oliver would have been all over the place falling out of it

Bloody men

On a happier note my car should finally be ready tomorrow. I'm not looking forward to the bill though

 

[emera35]

Sarah, yay for the car, and boo for the bill!

Haha, might be a bit uncomfortable for you to camp out on a cot mattress
In that situation, i'd probably do what i plan to do, and just bite the bullet and go for it. Move the cotbed, no going back now, yeeehaww!

Bloody stroppy men eh? They are hopeless! Thing is, everything would be easy if they just stopped being so melodramatic about things. Also would help if they stopped thinking about their clever answers and actually bothered to listen to us in a conversation eh? Then they'd know what was going on! Fortunately my OH is alot better than he used to be, we've been together a long time now, so i've trained him a bit That and i'm just used to what a drama queen he is and tend to just roll my eyes and get on with actual important stuff and wait for him to get over himself Its only because i'm hormonal it got to me and i took it a bit personally. I suppose its because i've been putting so much effort into sorting the house out, and its like he just turned round and said "i hate that you are making the house livable in, i liked it when it was a shithole, stop ruining everything!" I swear men are actually waaaay more emotional than we are, they have no clue what to do about it though!

Anyway, the txt offering bribes of food did come with actual "i'm sorry" words, so i'l let him off, its a rare thing for him to apologise in actual words, even if they are typed from a distance.

 

[Sarahwoo]

Hahaha! They sound so alike! Steve is also better than he used to be - I ignore him when he's been stupid so he tends to just get over it pretty quick. Maybe because getting no reaction actually makes him see that he's been a drama queen

 

[L-C]

Hello ladies, well my OH has narrowly escaped the shed this week, partly hormones and partly him taking me for granted. There have been a few tears this and I'm hoping it's hormonal and not me turning into some sort of lunatic! Do you sometimes feel like you have all the responsibility and just an hour break would be nice, not from Will but just deciding everything??

We ordered some bedroom furniture for the nursery this weekend just gone, which is making it feel so much more real.....and that my bump has suddenly gotten huge!!

I've had an awaful Mummy day today. I took Will his first swimming lesson today and it was great apart from I had to dunk him, he hated it and I felt horrible. I've always swum myself to a pretty high level and am more confident in the water than on land but that didn't feel right, like a betrayal of his trust. Don't think I'll be doing that again, the rest of the lesson was great so we are signed up for 10 more yipeee.

Then I walked into town this afternoon with my Mum, it was a gorgeous day and Will was wild in a nice way, just emptying shelves in Sainsbury's as fast as me and my Mum could put stuff back. Then on the way home he was being so cute, I think he's a bit of a forrest gump, he just runs and runs, he ran towards me and fell straight onto his face and hit his nose and forehead, he has a nasty graze, I felt terrible!! I was awful, he's plastered in arnica tonight so hopefully it'll go down instead of come up over night.

Hope you've all had a lovely day and the shed dwellers are behaving xxxx

 

[Sarahwoo]

Awww L-C I'm sorry your day was a bit up and down! Poor Will falling over, its awful isn't it - esp when you can see it happening but can't catch them. Hope you're feeling better soon re the crying

Well Steve hasn't avoided the shed today - in fact he might as well just move in. He can just be so nasty to me sometimes, he isn't like it with anyone else so why be nasty to me? Everything was fine tonight and then he was taking out the rubbish and I went to pass him the bag when he'd opened the door - I thought it was a nice helpful thing to do but he snapped that he couldn't take it from me so to put it down. Fine, but he really snapped, and I was only trying to help Then I was looking for something for my tea, I asked him if he wanted anything and he said no. I looked for a while and then decided to have one of those part baked roll things - they are in a pack of two so I asked if he wanted the other one - he snapped that he's already said no, why was I asking again? I asked because while he might not have wanted a cooked tea, he might have liked a sandwich. Then - and this has really upset me - I said oh I'm not that hungry I'll just have a muffin (as in a breakfast muffin). He looked at me like I was something on his shoe and said 'My god you are going to end up so big'. I said 'Pardon me?' and he said 'You eat so much crap, you're going to be huge' Okay so I don't eat a super healthy diet but its not bad, I don't eat stuff like crisps and what not and when I have chocolate its not a lot. I've put on a few pounds over Christmas - but who hasn't? I'm a size 10 - apart from when I was pregnant and for six months after Oliver was born, I've always been a size 8 or a size 10. Even when Oliver was born I was only on the border line of 10/12

 

[emera35]

Gaah, Sarah i can't believe Steve said that to you, what a grumpy git!! I'd go nuts at OH if he dared to comment on my weight in anything but a positive way. Its none of his flipping business what you eat or what weight you gain!!! Argh, how could anyone be so shallow to care about someone gaining a few pounds? Chain him in the shed and don't let him out until he stops being so moody i say! Poor you, you don't deserve someone being grumpy at you honey

L-C - Roh runs everywhere too, but i'll never let him run about outside really, mostly as the few times i have he just runs off and doesn't stop. He's fast enough now that i have to properly run to catch up with him, and i'm too paranoid that one day i won't be able to keep up and he'll run in the road or something! I let him run about in the park though, he's always scraping himself falling over there

Well, night one in a toddler bed is going well so far! I left his cot up for his nap, so he had a good nap, and whilst he was asleep i put the bed in the sitting room. He spent the afternoon playing in it, getting in and out, crawling under it, etc. He bounced off it once onto his head, oops! Anyway, moved it into his room whilst he was having dinner and set it up with lots of teddies and all his favourite toys. I've put blankets on the floor all round the bed incase he falls out, so it should be pretty soft
I put him to bed as normal at 6.50pm and he didn't bat an eye. It was actually really nice being able to give him a proper cuddle instead of bending into the cot. Anyway he just snuggled in and went off to sleep, bless him Its the time coming up i'm worried about though as he often wakes up at 9-10pm and mucks about for a while. We'll see how it goes!

 

[Sarahwoo]

I think he knows he's overstepped the mark. He's offered to cook me something and he's been all sweet and affectionate (even more than normal ). I feel awful though, I just got weighed and I am about half a stone heavier than my 'ideal' - but I was fully clothed. I think I need to join the rest of the nation on a new year health kick / diet. I feel huge and utterly unattractive

 

[A3my]

Oh Sarah - you're so beautiful - inside and out! Dont let Steve'm mean words get to you x x x I'm glad he knows he's been a bugger and has been sweet to you today!

emera - your Oh is another bugger! Hope you are ok now

Just a quickie from me, I'm not feeling too good! I think I'm coming down with Alex's snots.

Love to you all x

 

[emera35]

Sarah - From someone who has spent the last 21 months 5 stone over their ideal (yes, yes so i've been pregnant for some of it, but still, i was 5 stone up pre-pregnancy this time compared to last time) i know how it feels to not feel great about yourself At least 1/2 stone will be easy enough to shift if you spend maybe a month consciously eating extra healthy, then you can go back to eating whatever the hell you like and not worrying about it again! Just make sure you are doing it because it will make you happy and not because Steve has been undermining your self-confidence! (intentionally or otherwise!)

On the bright side here, Roh is still asleep happily, just checked on him, he looks soooo cute!! Also, broke my own rule and stepped on the scales yesterday out of curiosity I was pleasantly suprised. I've gained 9lb from my pre-pregnancy weight, and thats with Christmas in the mix! I'm happy with that. Hoping i'll be lighter after the birth than when i started out

 

[emera35]

Hope you feel better soon Amy

 

[maybebaby3]

Amy - hope you're better soon!

Sarah - what a mean thing for Steve to say I agree with emera only diet if it's what you want, not coz of him!

Emera - hope operation toddler bed was a success!

LC - will sounds adorable

Well have been up since 6am with Owen on my boob and am soooo tired! Went to bed past midnight so have had about 5hrs sleep. Getting out of my warm bed with Owen snuggled up beside me is not an appealing prospect but I have some clearing to do before work as I went to bed without sorting the kitchen last night

It's currently day 4 of my diet and I'm craving sweet stuff! Doesn't help that I'm on my period

 

[emera35]

Well think it's safe to say that Roh likes his bed. OH is just about to get him up, he's managed 14 hours solid sleep without falling out or getting out, I'm stunned! I doubt every night will be this good, but what a little star!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Emera that's fantastic! Well done Roh! I bet he looks sooooooo cute

I have my car back!!!!! Bloomin expensive thing But its nice to have it back, and fixed I want to give it a good clean now, might stick Oliver in his car seat with the radio on and tidying it out later. I'm not washing it though - I can't reach the roof

Not much going on here today. Oliver and I popped to my SIL"s earlier, they only live just up the street but we hardly see them which is a shame. It was nice to have a cuppa and a chat.

Oh, and Steve is still grovelling rightly so though. I kept waking up upset all night last night. I got weighed again this morning (minus all the clothes ) and I'm 8 stone 11 which isn't so bad?!?! I'd like to be about 8 6/7. So I think I'll try to have a healthy eating kick and see how it goes. I get a bit obsessive about my weight if I'm not careful so I have to be careful not to just not eat, which is what I seem to 'want' to do. At least though I know I have to eat for breastfeeding, so that should stop me been silly.

Hope you are all having a good day!

Xx

 

[hope&faith09]

Hello all!

Sarah - I can't believe he commented on your weight like that! I would literally lock Dave out of the house if he did. Please don't worry about your weight - I was heavily over weight before Amy and was a size 24 - I worked really hard to get the weight off but I am still a 14/16 and weigh 12 1/2 stone so your tiny compared to me!

Emera - thats good going only putting on that much weight! I am going up and down at the moment but trying not to put too much on until after my booking in appointment and I am still a bit obsessed after with weigh from weight watchers! I am so glad he slept well in his toddler bed - we need to redecorate and get a new window in what will be Amys room and then she will move into a toddler bed!

Amy - hope your ok x x x x

Maybe - hope your diet goes well! I really enjoyed weight watchers when I was having a good week!

As for me I actually feel human today! I have taken Amy swimming and been to McDonalds which I really couldnt have stomached a week ago so thats progress! But now she is supposed to be napping and instead she is shouting down the monitor 'more chippys mummy' and then singing row row row your boat. hmmm - i doubt she is going to nap!

Hope everyone is ok x x x x x x

 

[emera35]

Hah, H&F - Doesn't sound like Roh will nap either at this point. We took him to the zoo this morning and let him really run about, he had a lovely time He insisted on taking a book to bed with him for nap time, and so far i think he's just sat there reading it (playing with the flaps) i can hear him banging about a bit, but as he's being generally quiet, and seems to be staying in bed i'm just leaving him to it. My thinking is i don't care if he actually naps or not as long as he has some quiet time and doesn't either wreck his room, or try to charge about the house

 

[maybebaby3]

Emera - that's great success with the bed!

Sarah - please don't get obsessed with your weight! You're tiny compared to me! My goal is 8st 10 so I have a whole stone to go!!!

H&F - glad you're feeling better!

I'm exhausted what with Owen sleeping badly and then work any my housework and the kids! I have a Moroccan boy starting in my English class tomorrow who doesn't speak any English or Spanish or French so that's going to be interesting