October Sticky Beans!

[Angel5000]

I've actually considered pressing charges for a variety of things, but it just seems like too much to go through.

Heather - that is adorable! Your boy is SO CUTE.

Krissie - yay! Looks like you've got your bases covered!

Shan - so exciting that you're going for it! Funny how quickly we can change from praying AF doesn't show to hoping she's on her way.

 

[todmommy4568]

Right?! I was going to take my temp this morning and hope for a further temp drop but when the hubs woke me up at 9:00 my thermometer was laying underneath me...apparently I fell asleep while taking my temp

 

[todmommy4568]

Okay so I just need a proud mommy/wife moment so I am going to post this pic and then get on my computer and finish my vent session because typing is easier haha

 

[todmommy4568]

Okay so vent was probably the wrong word.

Sooo this is a picture I took of me and Asher this morning after I realized that he had gone through yet another growth spurt. I knew it was happening because he is eating nonstop but here we are all the sudden. He now stands with his head at the top of my ta-ta's. It is such a sad moment when your baby is one foot away from being as tall as you.....at 5 years old He shall stop growing now! Cherish those babies ladies, they grow too fast and in the blink of an eye!!

Okay so on to my next thing. Me and Kevin listened to the five love languages (if you haven't I suggest it) and life has gotten so much better! We were fighting constantly because he didn't understand me and I didn't understand him, in terms of how we feel loved anyways. He feels loved when I give him positive affirmations and I feel loved when he does things for me. So since discussing IUI he has been working non stop and when I said something about it last night he said that he is just trying to make more money for this IUI since that is what I want So this morning he woke me up to let me know that he was leaving for work and when I got up he had done the dishes and cleaned up the living room and in return I thanked him profusely and it has been the most amazing day! We are actually trying to find a sitter so we can go out dancing and it has been a long time since I actually had enough determination to find a sitter so I could spend a night with him. We have been resenting each other so much because I don't thank him enough and I don't feel like he helps me enough. Okay so this was a long totally random story but I am just so happy today!

 

[Blackrain90]

I'm glad you guys were able to understand each other better, communication makes such a difference.

 

[krissie328]

Shan- your son is to adorable! Are you pretty short then?

We did the love languages as part of our marriage counseling. We learned a lot and it it had helped.

 

[todmommy4568]

Yea I am pretty short, his dad is too so not sure how he is so tall. My brother is 6'1 so there has to be a tall gene somewhere on my side of the family AF showed up this morning with a vengeance! So we will have ultrasound on the 28th and IUI on the 29th

 

[krissie328]

Glad to hear you have a plan. I'm sorry about af though.

My son got a short gene. He's 6the percentile in height. His dad's family are a bunch of trees. Mine is shorter though so I suspect he's gonna be about 5'8" like my dad.

 

[Blackrain90]

6 months without sex + horny husband + clingy baby = husband holding sleeping baby while we had sex. So awkward but he slept through it hahah..

Edit- baby slept through it, not Jon hahaha

 

[todmommy4568]

6 months without sex + horny husband + clingy baby = husband holding sleeping baby while we had sex. So awkward but he slept through it hahah..

Edit- baby slept through it, not Jon hahaha

 

[cupcake.]

 

[krissie328]

Oh Heather! That's desperation!

 

[Angel5000]

Never heard of love languages.. but that might be something I pick up. We had a bit of a blow up last night. bad enough that even though he was out of town he drove the 3 hours, at midnight, back to our house because he was concerned for the relationship...and now is going back down there this morning because he has to get the rest of his stuff, finish up the work he was doing, and bring our friend back who he left down there when he impulsively decided to come home at midnight. I think we need something. We have only been married 2 years, but we've been together for 4, and we've known each other for 15 (we dated in high school for 2 years before life took us different ways). We both know that communication is not our strong suit, so maybe this can help.

6 months without sex + horny husband + clingy baby = husband holding sleeping baby while we had sex. So awkward but he slept through it hahah..

Edit- baby slept through it, not Jon hahaha

OMG. Wow. Well I guess you do what you gotta do. lol




EDIT: is anyone else no longer getting email notifications? All my email notifications for BnB have stopped. I was wondering why the threads were all so quiet until I went and looked for them and realized they aren't silent, I just am no longer getting my notices.

 

[krissie328]

Jess- I think it would definitely help. Communication is definitely super important. And to be real honest adding a baby will be so so hard so try to be in the best spot possible.

Dh and I were together 10 years before ds came along and we ended up in marriage counseling when ds was 9 months. It was so so stressful.

 

[Angel5000]

He's agreed to go through the book with me so hopefully that helps.

I'm having a little bit of a panic attack. I have been able to find the baby heartbeat just fine with my Doppler for weeks now. So well that I have stopped checking daily and am now just checking every few days. It's been almkst a week I think since I last checked. After last nights fight I was a mess, emotionally distraught (over the top, to the point where my adrenaline was so high I was shaking and couldn't stop). I cried for hours. I got maybe 1-2 hours sleep. . . Just now I tried to look for baby hb and I cannot find it at all. 30 minutes of looking and I'm lost. And freaked out. Could a really bad emotional upset do anything serious (like miscarriage?!?!) I'm better today but not even close to 100%.

 

[krissie328]

Jess- so sorry you are going through that! Just try to relax. Could your doctor see you for a reassurance scan next week?

 

[Angel5000]

I think I was able to find the heartbeat a few minutes ago. I kept hearing it for a few seconds and then it moved away, so I'm pretty sure it was the baby. Feeling a little better. I may message my doctor just to ask if I can get a scan. We'll see how I'm feeling, and if i can still find HB, over the next day or two.

 

[cupcake.]

I'm sorry jess how scary
I'm sure baby is doing just fine

And i agree, communication is the most important thing. I feel very fortunate in the sense that TTC seems to have brought OH and I even closer so i hope we'll be able to cope well when baby is here and not have it put a strain on the relationship.

 

[Blackrain90]

Sorry about your scare Jess. I'm sure your little bean is just hiding in there!

Yes having a baby is definitely a huge stressor. One thing DH and I have figured out in our 6 years of marriage/9 years together- neither of us do well with a lack of sleep or food. If one of us is grumpy the first thing we do is feed them or send them for a nap. We have good communication and I agree that is very important when you are at your wits end with a screaming baby.

 

[krissie328]

Ladies- what do you think of my chart? I'm so confused by it. My darkest opk was cd 8 when I had my temp spike. Today's was very light. My temps make me wonder if I ovulated that early?

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My Ovulation Chart