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aob1013
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I completely agree too Rocky's Mama
In my case Evie wasn't planned, but I do know a girl at college who's daughter was. She's 18, in a stable relationship, and was thrilled to pieces when she found out she was pregnant because, as she told everyone, the only job that had ever appealed to her was being a mum.
It's odd when you think about it, if a girl of 16/17 said she wanted to be a doctor or a teacher everyone would give her all the support she needed to succeed, but if a girl of the same age said she wanted to be a mother she's instantly frowned upon, since when did motherhood not count as a valid life choice?!
As some have said, a couple of generations ago, women getting married and having babies in their late teens was the norm. Realistically it's the time nature intended us to get pregnant, hence why it's easier for us to conceive and the rates of gestational complications in young mothers are significantly less that those in older mothers, it's modern society that's decided an 18 year old will instantly be a worse mother than a 30 year old, something that just isn't true.
Because at 16/17 many young Mums can't provide for their baby's without assistance from government/parents, can't sign contracts, can't do many things.
I don't support under 18's TTC, but if you are over 18, can financially and emotionally support a baby, then go for it!
But if you have to depend on people in any way, then i think it's totally inapproprtiate - obviously my view on accidental pregnancy's are different, as you don't plan the situation.