*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

im not complaining smiler i dont feel too bad but im glad for it cos its a good sign, i just think its funny how we wish to feel queasy to know alls ok hows ur weekend ? x

 

[Smiler82]

Oh yeah I totally get what you mean. Next time I hope I feel bad too

Having a nice weekend thanks, quite chilled Spent some time with my mum yesterday which was really nice. We don't live near each other so was good to catch up and do a bit of shopping How about you?

 

[lilesMom]

thats nice must be hard not living close, i moved back near to home nearly 3 yrs ago and im glad i did im havin a nice weekend too, had a friends bday party fri nt so i went but was in bed by 12.30 sat i called to my parents and my niece house and then spent time with OH. today i been lazy and cooking nice weekend though , im gettin optimistic again

 

[Smiler82]

Oh yay glad you are feeling optimistic

12:30 is very impressive! Well done! I used to be in bed by about 9:30 when I was pregnant

It's ok not living close as I love it when we get together, it's more of an occasion But yeah I always thought once we had kids we would move closer, but we've been priced out of the area!! It's lovely where we live though, lots of countryside

 

[lilesMom]

yeah thats true it means more quality time rather than quantity
house prices went scary didnt they, im lucky my parents live in countryside so houses r cheaper, we were priced out of city houses i had lived in the city for 11 yrs and my OH is city born and breed ha ha but he has settled into the country very well we like it here

 

[Smiler82]

We can't really seem to win either way! My parents are fairly close to London so country and towns round there are v. expensive. Here, the town is cheaper, but going up all the time, and the lovely country villages are really pricey! We would like to save for a place of our own but renting is just so expensive Hoping for DH to get a pay rise soon haha

 

[lilesMom]

`have house prices not started coming down much then? they r down a lot in places here but some places arent down much if at all
we bought an old cottage in middle of no where
we paid 112500 for it nearly 3 yrs ago but we had to put 40000+ into it and we r not done yet we r paying back loans and stuff now, big parts r done but lots o little things left to do. its comfy and warm as is, so thats main stuff done my house wouldnt be for everyone but i dont like huge houses anyway, i d feel like i was rattling around in it and v hard to clean and heat. i am happy in my cottage i like that it looks cutesy

 

[lilesMom]

and fx on the payrise

 

[Smiler82]

Oh that sounds gorgeous!!! I said to DH the other day I want to move out of this house and go and live in a cottage It sounds exactly what I'd like, I love to be warm and cosy too No, house prices don't seem to have fallen all that much...I think they are on the way down but the trouble is there are a lot of rich people living in the countryside round here so it hasn't had much effect. Here, 112500 would only get you a 1 bed flat. We're hoping to pay off our credit card soon then try to save what I earn and live on what DH earns. He had an argument with his boss so not holding our breaths on the pay rise haha But he def deserves one!

 

[lilesMom]

yeah its hard to get started, we were lucky we borrowed deposit off my parents and OH dad went gaurantore for out mortgage. they refused us even though we both have perm full time jobs!! i had checked out few yrs before in boom time how much we could get on our wages and they told us 425000, and then refused us 3 yrs later for 1/4 of that. crazy but least we got it in the end. saving is hard but is doable and worth it lets hope his boss forgets argument fast and gives the payrise on merit x

 

[lilesMom]

i know im gettin ahead of myself
but i have a car that has only 2 doors, im looking up car seats and is it safe to put um in front seats. some sites say back way safer , others say front is just as safe and some say front is safer, what ye think, it means il prob have to change my car if it is back seat only. cos i have put in chicld seats in my back seat and it is so difficult, i couldnt do it every single day and def couldnt do it if sore after giving birth
i have read loads and startin to think front is fine if rear facing and airbag turned off, i dont think i have front passenger airbag anyway but will obvs get it checked.
my car could do with a few aparts soon, (my mechanic is my bro in law so i know its true ) , and if i need to change car il leave it but if not il just get it all done, thats why im thinking about it now. any thoughts xx

 

[Smiler82]

Ah yeah a few years ago the banks were crazy, hence the probs we're all having now!! I think it will be tough for us since I work for myself and they don't like freelancers

Hmm re car if money were no object I would prob exchange for a 4 door since would be easier not just for having a baby in the back but also easier to fit in/get out all the crap you have to go along with a baby Might be worth asking on one of the boards where ppl already have babies?

 

[lilesMom]

yeah true , money is most def an object if it wasnt id change in a heartbeat
yeah i was kinda just thinkin aloud anyway, il get it sorted , thanks xx

 

[Hopeful335]

Hey ladies. Any news yet Smiler? I'm crossing my fingers for you and thinking about you! Well after loads of PMA I totally lost it today. On my way home from work I started feeling cramps on left side. I am now a nervous wreck constantly running to toilet checking loo roll (sorry tmi). Dh says he's not worried as with first two mc I had no cramping so maybe in fact this is a good sign-I can wish!


I just pray for a normal pregnancy. Just been watching this drama I sky plussed about great train robber and his wife and he casually gets this girl pregnant and bam she has a baby! Why is it so easy and chilled for some ppl? My friend who announced 3 weeks after my first mc in June is now 26 weeks with a girl. I am so jealous and I don't know how go stop being?? Any ideas? I'm so scared and no one know yet but Dh. every day feels like an eternity at the minute!!

House prices here dropped a little but not as much as other places-will try to think about other things! X x

 

[lilesMom]

i know hon its totally unfair, we will get super brainy beautifull LOs to make up for it xxx im gettin dif symptoms this time and am thinking its good too. we can do feck all except hope and keep our fx for each other xxx
i lit a candle the other day for us all at our local grotto, i often do, heres hoping they listen xxxxxxxx
i have been trying to visit people everyday and get out of the house , keeping myself occupied works best but not easy either xxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh Hopeful I am thinking about you also. I know there's not really much I can say to stop you from worrying. It's so difficult since cramping is totally a normal pregnancy symptom but for those of us who have had losses it is the worst symptom ever.

It's okay to be jealous, don't beat yourself up for feeling that way. I have spent a lot of time being angry and jealous at other people and it can be hard to get past it. Over time it gets better but you're allowed to think/feel however you want to! Maybe it would be an idea to stay away from your friend for a little while? I don't mean to lose touch entirely but you need to focus on yourself now, and especially since you're not sharing the news just yet it might do you good to just be selfish for the next few weeks and not put yourself in any social situations that make you uncomfortable or nervous. Like Lilesmom says keeping occupied is a good idea

Any time you want to let off steam we are here for you!!

Lilesmom thank you for lighting the candles that is so lovely

No news from me, still not sure when ovulation was so it's hard. I tested the other day at what was either 8 or 11 dpo and it was bfn. A tad early in either case I know, but I recently learnt that clomid can give you symptoms after ovulation, I thought you only got them before. So I'm just telling myself the cramping I had was from the drugs and not from a baby I really don't feel pg, I would fall off the loo if I got a bfp this cycle!

Take care ladies xx

 

[lilesMom]

lets hope u fall off the loo then ha ha but dont hurt urself when u do xxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Hahaha thank you

 

[lilesMom]

im a moanie minnie this eve , i just got scared again for no reason hope its hormones

 

[Hopeful335]

I'm totally a moaning Minnie. I feel like that's all I do! Thank you for being there for me!

Smiler I hope you fall off the loo too!!!! x x