/shakes head
I honestly don't know what to say to some of you.
I feel as though I need to reply to this, mainly because yes, I was 19 when I got pregnant, and we tried, and well 19 is considered a teen. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I know trying while you are a teen is looked down on, and as hypicritical as it sounds, I totally agree. That being said, I can say for myself that I did not live as a teen while ttc (if that makes any sense) I moved out on my own at 17, by choice, and my friends thought I was crazy, BUT I paid all my bills ON time, dealt with life worked my butt off and lived responsibly. I know a lot of people go and say, "yeah but I am mature for my age" and all that, well I am not just saying that, I can guarantee all my friends can back me up on this, that I am one of the most mature and responsible people my age... I know i just can't expect anyone to take that as meaning much, since I only know one other person on this forum in person, but I can promise it is true. When Michael and I decided we wanted a child we went to his Father and Step-mother and told them. They sat down and discussed it with the two of us and agreed that Yeah, we were both responsible enough to have a child. Without their blessings, I know Michael and I would have waited to try. So with the blessings of his parents we started ttc... (I was a foster kid my whole life so it didn't really matter what my biological parents said, as they would go along with anything without caring). Now I know besides maturity and responsibility, most planned pregnancies under the age of 25 is typically frowned upon because apparently you should "live your life and have fun" etc etc etc. Well I understand all this, but had I waited, I would still be living my same old life, where the most fun I have is when I go out shopping or whatever-which I can take Alexa out with me anyway... I figure why wait for another five years to have fun, when
that is not who I am ? I am not like that at all... My older sister is 23 with two kids, and I am sure she will agree that I am more responsible than her, and I am 20 years old (21 Jan 1st) Do I regret having Alexa young? Not at All! She adds joy into my life, and honestly, I am doing something more useful by raising her, than what I would be doing if I didn't have her...
I am sorry this is soo long, I don't know why I felt I needed to defend myself, since really all that matters is that I know what I did is okay, but I guess I felt as though I needed to explain... I have never considered myself a young Mom-I know anyone older would chuckle at that, but gee if you saw how I live my life you would see how true it is! If you read this whole thing, then thanks, if not, I do not blame you, just getting it all out has made me feel better...
Edit: I also wanted to add that I am not saying that I am the only responsible 20 y/o mother out there, everyone has their story, and their reasons for wanting to ttc. I just hfelt I had to post, because I feel uncomfortable reading this thread and feeling like people over the age of 25 are looking down on me...