Stopping BCP to TTC***Updates & Progress/Noted Changes Since Stopping BCP***24BFPs***

[patienceiav]

Hurrah cdex !

Elizabeth i don't know, this might just be general practice here to check for every possible thing before resorting to drugs so i'm using all the natural methods i know of ! My friend is going through the exact same tests as me so i¨m hoping i'll hear from her what the next step is then push my Dr to speed things up !

 

[Charmed86]

That's wonderful cdex! Such a nice chart as well!

Danna - I think it would be ok? I remember when I wasn't ovulating or having periods, my Dr gave me tablets to induce a period, saying that they wanted to do a CD21 blood test after to see if I O'd, I guess it must reset your system somehow? F

Haha, MsE, I don't think I could do the pillow thing! My DH would think I'm mad If it works then who cares, right?!

Argh, DH & I have just had a big argument. He's really starting to get on my nerves now.. It's like BDing is the last thing on his mind, totally not his priority now. He'd much rather be doing something else. I'm so annoyed at him! He just blew up at me because I kissed him! I wish he could see how irrational he's being lately. I'm sure he'll come & apologise, but I don't want it. I'd rather he didn't have these little tantrums in the first place!!

 

[patienceiav]

I gave up with the pillow thing, it was too humiliating having hubby lift my bum up to put it under now I just lay there and hope they go the right way !

Charmed are you BD'ing more than normal now ? I know me and mine are a 1-2 a week kinda people normally, hence why TTC has been hellish for me, i hate being the one making the move all the time but some guys are just suddenly turned off during BD time ! Mine would rather go without a kid than ruin our sex life trying to get one, I understand where he's coming from after all these months but it's also strange logic, surely if he wants a baby more than anything then it's not a chore to BD ? But like I said, we don't do it so often so he's really not fired up for it and tbh neither am I, I just know it has to be done

 

[patienceiav]

On a slightly fun note: has anyone done any baby related hoarding yet ? I have a ton of nappies down in my basement that were on offer I keep browsing things and saving links for later, but i'm trying to find stuff that's on offer now so that when we finally get preggers it won't be that financial shock of having to buy everything !

Feel free to link fun things or useful things here, pretty sure most of us don't know where to start !

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Patience. ...I'm so afraid of cursing myself if I do......but I can't help but go down baby aisles to peek!!

Yeah...OH is very much a...let it happen sort of guy....well hun...doesn't hurt to prop myself up! At night sometimes he wants. ..sometimes he doesn't bur the next morning. ..he wants. Shrig. Men!

Yeah cdex!!!

I'm just here...cleaning....redoing the layout to occupy myself and not think about cross hairs. Lol

 

[patienceiav]

I feel just like you ! It feels silly to buy things but at the same time I think it's gonna help me at the moment when I can't control anything to do with TTC, doesn't matter how much we BD, if my lining doesn't get thicker that egg is gonna keep slipping away...

I think there must be a checklist online somewhere with all the necessaries for new baby, I could at the very least bookmark things online to buy later, I know we will get pregnant since i've had 4 chemicals but before them I was like you thinking i've never seen a BFP, what if I never do ? TTC is the worst ! People who've never had to try are all like "yeah, loads of sex, who's complaining!" if only they knew ... !

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Yeah....just cause it was "easy" for some....never helps when they tell you it will happen. Uh huh.....not to be negative...but everyone is different. It's like grades, some have to study....some dont.

But just don't tell me it will happen. I know it will...but it doesn't help being told that. I like the truth. Tell me it will take a year. Ok, then I know to expect nothing for a while. But when I'm told...it took me two months....then come month 3...I'm upset.

So, since i just started, I cant say much. But...a shopping list would be nice!!

 

[patienceiav]

https://www.todaysparent.com/checklists/newborn-checklist/ this was quite a nice list of things gives me something to google to find nice/cheap ones of the things we all need !

Yeah it frustrated the crap out of me when friends were telling me it'd happen easily, now here i am month 15 bordering on depression because of the whole bloody nightmare !

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Aw ww patience....no depression! More time to save money to buy things! And hang out with me!

I know no words can help....just trying to make you smile

 

[Wnt2beAMom]

DH and I are definitely worried about the financial stuff but the way we see it, if we wait until we're better off, we will never have children. If we have a baby now, we will figure it out and make it work no matter what.

That's kinda where we are too. We wanted to buy a house before baby gets here, and we have the down payment, but the more we look at what I'll get on mat leave...the more we realize we won't be able to afford all our bills with the reduced income

We are happy renting though, and can afford it on mat leave.

Canada has a "good" mat leave....for people who don't make a lot. It's 55% of your salary for a year, but if you make more than $45,000/year you get a Max of $514/week. It works out that I'll only be getting about 40% of my salary booo

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Oh man....I want the down payment! Lol.

My divorce sucked up anything and then some of any cash i had. Wouldn't change it for the world to be where I'm at now! Lol

So a recap....no house, no downpAyment, no maternity leave, no daycare, no supplies.....yup! Soooo ready for a kid! Hahahhha

I crack myself up!

 

[DannaD]

I go baby window shopping all the time. It calms me down somehow. I don't buy anything though, I'm afraid if I have trouble conceiving that it would be though to have all this unused baby stuff in my house :/
That and I'm not that impressed with gender neutral stuff, haha

 

[cdex67]

I do a lot of looking but don't buy anything. Although I did buy two onesies. One is a boy one and one is a girl one. This is how I plan to tell dh when I am pregnant. I want to tell him I chose two outfits and would like him to tell me which he likes better. I hope I get to use them soon

 

[LavenderLove]

Thanks for the welcome! The NTNP didn't last long, only this past month as that's when I stopped my BC. Still waiting for AF, but the BFNs I got lead me to believe my body's just working on getting back to its natural cycles. We'll be guessing on things a bit as all I have to go on is CM until I find a good BBT.

I've actually got a very small collection of onesies and sleepers that I've picked up. I pop in to my local thrift shop occasionally to pick up jars and bottles for a hobby and always check in on clothes. I can't help myself now. I'm saving that newborn list though, thanks patience!

Oh housing. We're renting currently, but looking for a new place. This one's owned by my MIL and it's been a nightmare. Watch as we move and I get a BFP then! Wouldn't surprise me as it's pretty stressful here as much as I try not to worry.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

So cute cdex! I expect I'll tell mine when he hears me screaming from the bathroom

 

[cdex67]

I hide my testing because I so want to surprise him, and he wants to be surprised

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Finally! !! Crosshairs!!!!

 

[patienceiav]

Great stuff!

 

[cdex67]

Yay mselizabeth!! You're 3 dpo and I'm 4, we can share our two week wait!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Yes cdex!!! Come on little swimmers!

How weird...lived my whole life thinking one time missing a bcp...I could get pregnant. Now I want to...and I'm off bcp...and nothing. Lol