Stopping BCP to TTC***Updates & Progress/Noted Changes Since Stopping BCP***24BFPs***

[Turtle0630]

MrsH, that makes it even better on the photo! I really love that story, and I think it's so cute that he even left the post-it note on the back. It was a really sweet note though, I can understand why he did! I don't know how I managed to keep mine a secret for so long either, I'm terrible at keeping secrets (I just get so excited and want to tell!!!) so it was really hard for me!

Lavender, you should totally do a pinup shoot as an anniversary gift!!! They really are super fun. A lot of women I talk to say that they're too self-conscious to do one, or that they need to lose weight first, etc. I totally get that as I felt the same way, it was so nerve wracking for me! But I told myself over and over that I didn't have to be a super model or a size 0 to do this, that a) he would love it either way as he loves me for who I am already and b) I reminded myself how everyone says that they make you feel beautiful no matter what, and how worth it it is. And it really was! It made me feel so good about myself and gave me so much more self confidence, it was great! 100%, completely recommend them.

I'm sorry that you're having so many problems with your cat, Lavender! I hope you can figure out what's going on with her and that she's okay. I'm sure that's really frustrating, and really worrisome! I'm also glad to hear that you're finally starting to feel much better! Yay!

Haha, I'm also glad we make you smile, Charlie! And I second that sentiment! I love this thread and you ladies, you're all the best!

MrsH, that's funny that you made him pinky promise! That sounds like something I would do! Well, I do hope that the pains that you're feeling are O pains and not your IBS acting up!

 

[MrsHudson]

It is a cute story I just hate that we have to hide it and when we have kids we'll have to permanently hide it.

I think it's just my IBS . Since our kitchen isn't up and running we've haven't been eating the greatest and my stomach is not happy.
I make him pinky promise because he has a lot to do tonight in preparation for us officially moving on Saturday and I don't want him backing out on me. He always keeps his pinky promises lol. I'm so happy I'll have a 6 day weekend with the holiday and me taking time off to move. It'll make this a little easier.

 

[twinkie2]

I did a boudior shoot for my hubby last year for Valentines day For those thinking of doing it, just go for it. My sister and I both did it. We'd been talking about it for years and she kept saying no I want to lose weight, but she finally said screw it and did it and she was so glad she did (so was her hubby ) They do make you feel beautiful and they will pose you in flattering positions as well so no worries! Hubby's pic book of me is hidden in our closet already even though we don't have any kiddos yet to find it!

 

[LavenderLove]

MrsH I'm a bit of the opposite: no bum and lots of boobs! Haha. Of course I'll have to hide the sexy stuff once children come along, but it'll be fun to do!

That's adorable with the pinky promise! A 6-day weekend sounds fantastic.

Now I'm laughing thinking of all the funny stories I've heard of really young ones getting into things they weren't supposed to. One lady's toddler found their sexy things in a drawer and emptied a bottle of lube eeeeverywhere! Thankfully he didn't understand what he'd gotten into, but oh boy he and the room were a huge mess!

Ahhh yes, the one concern I have with a photoshoot: my weight! My body's changed in the few short years I've known him and of course I'm all self-conscious. I do need to just go for it! Heck I could even start looking around now for a photographer and fun clothes. I'd just need to keep it a massive secret from DH for a while, bahahaha.

 

[MrsHudson]

Haha about he lube! That's pretty funny. I figure I'll just handle things like my parents did and tell the truth. I was a very knowledgeable 5 year old.

Personally, I think women with some curves are far more attractive. I say go for it and like turtle said they'll position your body to look it's best.

Oh and Lavender, or anyone else, how do you tag your TTC Journal in your signature???

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Checking in on you ladies. Seeing what everyone is doing for Thanksgiving, those who celebrate.

Me...staying local. Too $$ to fly north to see my parents....they are getting 9-12" of snow anyway. That won't make travel any easier!

 

[MrsHudson]

Aww thanks MsE! Sorry you can't make it out to see your parents.

I will not be spending Thanksgiving with my family either. It's a very long personal story I went get into but I refuse to be around my step father. So we're going to DH's brothers' house and his parents, nieces, uncle and aunt and grandma should be there.

I'm not looking forward to it. I have a feeling someone will upset me by heckling me about having a baby.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

MrsHudson - UGH.....families are....difficult! It's just my brother and I, but there's about 10 of us cousins. I was the first to get married. Only to get divorced. One of the last 3 to have kids. So, it was myself and my two younger cousins (both under 21) to be left....out of the conversations or rather given that "you will someday" and meanwhile I am sitting there thinking "OMG, I've become that pity relative"

It's like family members don't understand that life doesn't come easily to all. Everytime I talk to my brother....he asks if I sold my house yet. Long story short, the court awarded it to the ex. He's not paying the mortgage. It's listed for sale, but he won't give the realtor a key. I'm about 10 states away so I can't do much. So....have I sold it. No. Well why not. The key. Why doesn't he give her a key. Well if I knew that.....UGH! Well now, there's a lien on the house. Good luck selling it now! Good luck to me buying a house ever. LOL Not going to tell him that. Wish there was support there, instead its...well anyway.....

So, smile the best you can....squeeze DH's hand when things get to you. Family sometimes don't know better.

Big hugs to you! Think of my sitting on my OH's parents couch, correcting papers and explaining how it's not weird that I don't like chocolate or eat turkey.

 

[MrsHudson]

I'm sorry. Sounds like you know exactly what I'm talking about. My family is very respectful of those things (plus there's only like 4 of us lol) but DH's family all got knocked up in the back of cars when they were not even in stable relationships nor old enough to drink, so they have no idea what TTC really means. Sorry that was me venting lol.

I hope you figure out the house situation. Sounds awful.

I'll think of you! and hopefully DH can stand up for me if it does happen.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Lol, vent away!!! Yup...I'm the weird one in my family. I have this weird idea...that I need to have a job. I know I know....it's weird. Lol

Well...I look at things like this....do what you want your kids to do. I want my kids to have a strong father...not that weak that I was with. Lol

 

[LavenderLove]

You can link your journal by using this code in the signature without the spaces between the brackets: [ url=URL goes here" ]Your text goes here[ /url ]

Ugh I'm sorry family's can be rough. Vent away! Canadian Thanksgiving was last month and we didn't do a darn thing, heh. We couldn't get the US Thanksgiving off to see my folks, so we're staying up here. We'll definitely give them a call and talk a bit.

Usually we'd do something with my MIL for the Canadian one but she really, really screwed things up with things she's said and done this year and oh boy I do not want to see her in person for a LONG time. Thankfully she knows she messed up and isn't making plans to try to coax us into things. Christmas plans especially seem to be what's best for her and not us anyway, so I'm glad this year we get to just see other in-laws.

Family rant off, hah.

MsE I agree with you! Do what you want your kids to do. I do hope my kids will fare a bit better than us TBH. That's awful about your house though, ugh! I wish there was a way around all that mess!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Thanks lavender. It's frustrating. But great evidence for all those who told me to "work it out." Lol. I don't get mad or frustrated. I expect it. Not worth my time even figuring out how to solve it. It's my problem. ..technically. ...but not mine since I did nothing wrong. I pay my bills. Lol, it's a stupid situation. So, karma right? Go ahead, ruin my credit and make me rent forever....I'm happy right where I am. Lol

 

[MrsHudson]

MsE I totally understand. I'm very liberal but have very traditional views for my own family and thus I wanted to be married before kids and DH's family acted like that the was such a big deal since we had been together 7 years before we got married.

I'm just not looking forward to tomorrow at all. I know I'm going to end up upset.

On a good note, we DTD last night and DH made me aware of how sore my boobs are. I htink this is a pretty good indicator of O. And last month, I remember them getting sore around two weeks before my AF. So that really helps me figure out that I just have longer cycles now. Here's to hoping we catch that egg!

Oh and thanks Lavender!

 

[MrsHudson]

You can link your journal by using this code in the signature without the spaces between the brackets: [ url=URL goes here" ]Your text goes here[ /url ]

So I can get it to look how it should but when I click the link it doesn't go anywhere..... I gave up.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Catch that egg!!! FX for you!

 

[LavenderLove]

Eep, I brainfarted left out a quotation mark. Sorry, that's probably why!

[ url="link goes here" ]Your text goes here[ /url ]

So now try taking out the spaces between the url and the brackets and it should work! FX!

I hope everything goes as well as it can for you tomorrow MrsH. Catch that egg!

Ugh MsE that "work it out" phrase. Karma is right! I'm sure karma will treat him as he deserves in the end just as it's treating you well!

 

[MrsHudson]

Thanks Lavender! On all fronts.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Thanks Lavender. I tell OH, I will live thru all that hell again if changing any part of it means I won't meet him. I value him more than he knows, because of all the *&$(*#U$ I dealt with. I know we all go thru crap in relationships....but man....leave me alone! LOL

I really feel like saying to the ex....get over it! move on! pay your bills. LOL

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

So ladies...I wanted to wish you all a wonderful Turkey day. I am thankful to have met you all and so thankful for your kindness and encouragement.

I wish you all the best....and am secretly stuffing your turkeys with baby dust!!!

 

[MrsHudson]

So ladies...I wanted to wish you all a wonderful Turkey day. I am thankful to have met you all and so thankful for your kindness and encouragement.

I wish you all the best....and am secretly stuffing your turkeys with baby dust!!!

Aww that's so sweet of you! Truth be known I started out on the Bump and had to leave because people are so bitter and rude over there. Then I found this lovely site and am so happy I found you ladies. I'm very thankful too! I wasn't sure you all would accept me just jumping into this thread but you did so thank you.

Happy Thanksgiving to all! And happy end of the week to the non-USA'ers.