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[CrazyCharlie2]

Thank you for the hugs!! Not until Friday we are broke until then. And then I have to go to my DH Christmas party, but the good part is we are staying at a nice hotel and I plan on spoiling myself while we are there. I just feel so blah. Im in my jammies already and its not even 6pm here.... Ugh.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Ooohhhh...hotel tub!!!!

 

[MrsHudson]

I'm sorry Charlie! It will be alright. Hugs.

Turtle sounds like you had a good holiday.

Lavender I'm glad to hear that. Fx for you!

AFM all my little symptoms stopped. I'm a day away from a week until AF is due. I don't plan to test until I'm late so I figure the 12th.
DH and I have gotten a lot done in the house and plan to host Xmas. I wanted to do an announcement if this is our month for the parents gifts but I don't know. DH wants to wait until the 3 month mark to tell anyone and he may be right.

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

Thanks ladies!! I'm feeling better today.

MrsH we will tell our families fairly soon after we find out just because they get suspicious lol. And as for work, that would depend on how soon I start to show lol. But that's IF we get a BFP.

AFM: I'm not nearly as emotional as I was yesterday and my nupples don't hurt anymore but are still a little sensitive, which I think means my progesterone levels are dropping which would make AF show up. Boo. I'm not looking forward to her coming.

 

[MrsHudson]

Same with us Charlie. Since were hosting Xmas they'll notice if I'm not drinking at least a glass of wine. I just know my MIL will tell everyone. Just like she showed everyone my wedding dress...... We'll see how it goes. Need a BFP first.

Glad you're feeling better.

 

[cdex67]

I just wanna see a BFP WAHHH!!!

Baby dust to you ladies!!

 

[LavenderLove]

I'm glad you're feeling better today Charlie, and woohoo for being spoiled on Friday!

I talked with DH about if we get a BFP this month as well. The only person we'll tell for Christmas is my FIL. Everyone else will get told around 12 weeks. I want to tell my parents on Christmas, but I know they'd be absolutely gutted if something happened since my grandmother just passed in October. I could always give them purely good news on Valentine's Day!

 

[MrsHudson]

That's a good idea lavender. I would tell my mom wether DH wanted me to or not. Is that bad? She's my best friend and I know I'll freak out and be terrified so I need her lol. We did agree though that only he will be in the delivery room. I just told him he can't look down there cause I just don't want him to see my lady bits like that lol. I'm sure when the time comes I won't even be thinking about it though.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

LOL...mrshudson.

like you, my mom is my best friend as well....for better or worse, I need her by my side....well...the miles apart don't help but you get what I mean. if something goes wrong, i'll need my mommie.

ah yeah...OH/DH eye's should stay at a certain level. LOL. at my first appt, OH's visitor chair was right at the end of the table. he had quite the view of my pap. no need for him to see that. no need.

FX for you ladies....still....come on santa...make some deliveries!

 

[MrsHudson]

Haha! Glad you know what I mean. I don't care what age I am ill always need my mommy. She's already been really supportive of my journey so far. DH is happy not seeing anything so that's good lol. He's seen me at my worst on many occasion but that's a little much.

Ok now I'm getting a weird feeling on my left side.... I'm almost positive I Od on the right though

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

these symptoms sound promising! no offense...but lets keep the pain going.

yeah, my brother and SIL didn't tell my parents, or anyone, until after month 3 or 4. I understand it's personal choice...but it broke my mom's heart to not feel that...I trust you for better or worse part....I kid with my mom by saying i'm not telling my brother till month 8. I actually found out when his kids were born via mass email. nice right?

 

[MrsHudson]

Haha well I got some more dull aches in my uterus. But I'm thinking too hard about it now so could be in my head.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

so ladies, I know I mentioned it before....and TOTALLY off topic....but curious on thoughts....

so in the divorce, judge gave ex the house...but he couldn't qualify to refinance so the house was to go on the market. after 3 years, I finally him to list it. its rented...but he lost his job 8 months ago and is using the rent money to live off of. so....mortgage isn't being paid. there's a lien on the house...my credit is tanked.

so.....if we get an offer...legally he has to pay for the selling costs (about $15K). I know he doesn't have it. so, in my mind, i'm stuck. I don't have it! I paid for the down payment. LOL only other option is to short sell it. I know that tanks my credit. but since he's not paying the mortgage, it's tanking each month anyway. in my mind, I want it done and over with so I can begin to recover. this month to month never knowing what he's doing...getting lawyer threats and liens is killing me. I know nothing about short sale. the realtor agreed it was prob the best option. anyone have any thoughts?

 

[LavenderLove]

Hey no worries on being off-topic. We're here for ya!

I unfortunately know nothing of short sales. If credit's not an issue and the realtor is saying a short-sale would be the best course of action, I'd lean towards that if it's your best shot at taking care of this and putting it behind you.

It sucks that you're in this mess to begin with! Men, I swear!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

thanks. I mean, yeah I need my credit! but, I can't get a new mortgage while i'm stuck in that one....so it's got to go. he's a loser soooooo.......

i'm so in the purging mode...so good bye and i'll fix my credit somehow. lol

just want to be smart about this.

 

[MrsHudson]

I know nothing of short sales either other than they take longer to buy than traditional sales. is your husbands credit good? If so I say go for it. Better to be rid of it I say. My DHs was bad but inproving so we always have to rely on mine. We're working on it though.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Mine is better. Lol. Women are better spenders. Lol

 

[MrsHudson]

Yeah my DH went crazy when he was 19 and broke up with his ex.... He also didn't pay his school loans for several years and I just now got him to get a handle on that.

I don't know if you want it to be over just do it.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

I feel like I'm carrying my ex around....knowing he won't pay the mortgage. Ok, so I left you. Deal. Lol

 

[MrsHudson]

I say go for it then. It'll be worth getting rid of the headache.