Hatethewait85 - Luckily, the phone call didn't go as dramatically as I was afraid it would. I spoke to one of her office staff and asked to cancel the extra time booked after my post-op, and they didn't seem to care. Then I had the dreaded task of telling my doctor (I thought as a courtesy, I had to, rather than letting her find out from her staff, though I'm sure people do this all the time). I opted for texting her instead (one of the good things about her is that she is accessible via cell phone) and told her about our decision very briefly. Also told her that I had already cancelled the extra time. Luckily, she didn't call me as I was afraid she would. She responded to my text almost immediately though, and said that she'd love to know what caused my decision if I wanted to discuss it with her when I went in for my post-op. I texted her back to say it was down to money, health considerations and emotional readiness and it's not like I'd be going with another doctor (which is true, actually). Left out my complaints. No point in burning bridges and she hasn't been all bad, just a bit too pushy for my liking lately. She texted back to say she understands and thanks for letting her know, and that was the end of it. Phew

My post-op is on June 9. After that, I shouldn't have to go into the clinic again
As for Julia Indichova's tele-conference, my understanding is that it is like a mini group therapy divided into 3 sessions with only the same people participating in each session for a more personal approach, and providing a more in-depth intro to her 'Fertile Heart Ovum' Practice, which I think is a holistic approach of health, mind, body, diet, imagery exercises, dream interpretation etc. But each person has to adjust it to their own needs, preferences, circumstances and it's not set in stone - just some guidelines to go from. Some of it is discussed briefly in her Fertile Female book. Yes, the sessions are paid. It was $226 for the whole thing (3 sessions of 1,5 hour each over 3 consecutive weeks - though she has a disclaimer that, due to the personal nature of the sessions, they may run a bit over time and to plan for up to an extra 1/2 hour each time). I am intrigued too. To put it simply, I like how this woman thinks. I like how she considers infertility a journey and a blessing verus a curse, an opportunity to learn things you didn't know about yourself and to emerge as a better person in and out. I'm hoping for some of her optimism to spill over to me

and whether or not that brings us a baby later, I still feel it may give me a boost to work with myself to feel happier and healthier, body and mind. It wasn't outrageously expensive, so I thought I'd try it. She then has a series of hour-long group teleconferences which people who have completed the Intro are welcome to join as needed, subject to space in the group and availability, which I think cost $108/session. Not sure if I'll be doing any of these, but I may do one or two as needed, if needed. I'll see how the initial sessions go and how I want to proceed from there. She also offers an all-day in-person workshop in Woodstock, NY for $350 (or $550 for couples), which, knowing how much similar workshops cost, I think is very reasonably priced, except I'm nowhere near NY. But the tele-sessions are meant to be an alternative to that workshop, or at least that's my understanding. Anyway. I'm usually very wary of those types of things as I've always felt they were money-grabbers, but since her books echoed so many feelings and thoughts I'd had myself, I thought I'd give this one a shot (my hope is also for it to help me create a plan of action as to what to seek next - acupuncture? herbs? fertility yoga? group therapy? you name it - I feel lost...I hope her seminar will help me decide what I need based on my individual circumstances). If you're interested in doing some browsing, here's her Fertile Heart website:
https://www.fertileheart.com/
Wow, $3K for a consultation with the RI???

(Pirate - I think it stands for 'Reproductive Immunologist'). Is that the specific one you're seeing or are they all priced similarly? And here I thought, consultations with REs were expensive (my doctor was $300, and I've seen anything from $250 to $400 in the LA area). Any idea why it could be so expensive? Will you be paying for it out of pocket or will you have a co-pay? If so, I think you have a right to know how much it will cost upfront. I'd call their office and ask what to expect in terms of out of pocket cost.
I hear you both about indecision. You never know which way to turn and what is the right decision. I think having my endo confirmed played a big part in my decision. Years ago I knew a girl who had severe endo and still went ahead and did 5 IVFs, all failed. The meds only made her endo worse, to the point where the doctors could see it in the ultrasound (which I'd never heard before) causing her crippling pain all month long. She's now 38 and after several laps that haven't helped much and two 6-month breaks with Lupron (which she loved) her doctor is telling her he can't prescribe these anymore (too much risk of long term side effects) and she now needs to either live with the pain or have a hysterectomy. Needless to say, her endo has also become so much worse than before after the treatments, that even the low chance of conceiving she had before is now gone. I thought that was extremely sad and swore I would take care of myself and my health first and foremost, even if that meant never having a baby of my own and having to adopt. Plus my endo is much lighter than that to begin with, so I think I may have a decent chance over time and with taking extra care with an endo-friendly diet, acupuncture etc. So in that respect, my decision was somewhat easier. I may also change my mind later, but for the time being, I don't want to think about fertility treatments.
I agree with both of you about insurance and fertility treatment coverage. It would be nice to have that option, or at least the option of a rider to include infertility if the person desired to have that sort of coverage. Luckily, fertility treatment expenses over 10% of adjusted gross income can be deducted from our tax returns, so at least our tax liability gets somewhat reduced. There's also the 'adoption tax credit' where up to $13K or so in expenses can be claimed as a tax deduction on the year when an adoption was pursued (this applies even to failed adoptions). Since both routes are very expensive, these are at least better than nothing..
