The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[wannabeprego]

@Ababy, I am so sorry that the got you again and that you are having a hard time with TTC right now, I know how exhausting TTC is and I have had to take breaks from B&B a few times as well because it all got to be to much at times. Big hugs to you hun.. Good luck for your DH's next SA, I hope the vitamins have helped and his numbers have improved.

@Sapphire, Thank you for the kind words I am sorry that your DH is going to be out of town during your OV window... That must be really hard since your DH has to travel alot and unfortunatly our cycles always seem to have bad timing... Like if i was going on vacation than AF would show or other stuff like that.. ugghhh... the joys of being a women...

AFM, I didnt even do any OPK's this cycle, and I dont have any HPT's so i cant test even if i wanted to.. To be honest with you I have pretty much given up for now until I get the surgery and recover from that.. i just dont see what the point is at least until that is done with.. DH & me just got back from walking at a park with a 3 mile trail and it has playgrounds, basketball courts and tennis courts. we were going to play tennis but there were to many people already on the courts so we just walked the trail and got a work out that way instead.... We had nice weather again here today, 50's and sunny, even though the wind was kind of chilly... But overall I had a good day with DH.. I just got done eating dinner and I made pan fried chicken breasts, long grain rice and corn... Dinner was yummy....

 

[tallybee]

@Chatty, Good luck with your business plans!!! I hope you are very success and that everything goes great for you hun!!!

@Tally, I hope you enjoy your meal and have a lovely weekend!!

AFM, I just got done with being very upset and crying my eyes out... That staffing agency job that I mentioned to you girls a few days ago, the girl never called me back so I am guessing that she went with another person for the job, which i could guess is because the commute would of been very far from where I live, but that is just a guess from me.... Who the hell knows

So than yesterday I got a call back from a job I applied to earlier in the day for an administrative job with a different staffing agency that looked pretty good and was close to home but I missed the ladies call so I called her back and spoke to her a little earlier today, and basically she told me that I had to many gaps in employment, and that their staffing agency had some prestigous award that they had to uphold for quality and that she had over 100 resumes for her job... so I tried to explain my gaps in employment, most of it is due to me relocating several times from different states over the years, and also because I went back to college to complete my BA degree.. etc... Well long story short she told me that in this area I wouldnt be able to find work with the gaps in my employment and that if she had a more "entry level' job she would keep me in mind for it,But oh yeah she said I have alot of good skills in my background... So here is what pissed me off...
-First of all why did you waste my time to call me back about the job before you reveiwed my resume and saw the gaps in my employment??? Just so you could upset me and make me feel like shit maybe??
-Secondly keeping my resume for a more entry level job, meanwhile the job i applied to doesnt require any degree at all??? I have my friggen bachelors degree for goodness sakes lady...

So than after i get off the phone with the bitch I get all upset because I think about all of the mistakes i have made over the years and how i could of done alot of things differently, and how I have this BA degree now that wracked me up about 35k in debt and the degree isnt doing jack shit for me now to help me get a job since the shit economy is in the crapper.. I completed my BA degree in human resources (HR)12/2010 with a 4.0 GPA by the way which doesnt mean shit with the horrible way things are now.. I once had high hopes of graduating and getting a job in the field of HR, but that dream faded when I realized that I am in competition with hundreds of other people in the HR field and my chances of getting a job like that are slim to none. Than i think about how I cant even get pregnant and that isnt even working out for me and how tuff our finances have been... So the tears start flowing and I remember how frustrating and tiring and horrid it is looking for a job.. and man oh man am I ever running on empty from dealing with this shit, the entire time I have moved to this state a little over a year ago it has been hell for me from working horrid shit jobs to even finding our house and moving. I swear I have been cursed with some bad vodoo or something... FU**!!!!

It sucks huge hairy ball$$ girls, but I am trying to pull myself together and not let that bitch ruin my day.. I have managed to stop crying now at least....But it is so hard not to feel hopeless and get depressed dealing with everything day after day... It is hard to stay positive and put a smile back on your face every day...

Thanks We had a wonderful time!

I am so sorry to hear about the shitty luck you've been having with jobs. I know it won't be any consolation, but really it is the economy and not you. So many people are applying for so few jobs, it's really tough so please try not to take it personally.... as hard as it is

@Heramys, thank you for being so sweet hun!!

I am feeling much better now since DH, me and our dog went hiking on some trails around this very pretty lake in a state park close to our house yesterday afternoon. It was a sunny lovely day in the 50's which is almost unheard of for this time of the year here and our dog absolutely loved it.. she always gets so excited exploring on all of the trails.. We saw a bunch of people riding horse back as well, the horses were very pretty, and than we made the mistake of hiking down a horse trail, and man was there alot of horse shit on the trail, my dog almost tried to eat the horse's poop but i yelled at her and stopped her just in the nick of time..Ewww.. I love dogs but they can be really gross at times... LOL...There are apparently alot of beavers around the lake, we saw a tree that was half eaten through with beaver teeth marks on it.. Another nice thing is when it is warm you can rent a canoe and go paddling around the lake...

I am relieves to see you feeling better about things

And yea dogs are gross at times

The hiking trails and scenery around there sound beautiful

Evening ladies

Sorry I haven't been on lately just I am feeling really low with last months head mess

To top it off AF has arrived a week early something that again has never happened, I don't know what to think anymore, did I have a miscarriage but didn't realise as was so early, even though got a positive frer or was it simply my body messing around with me

Hubbie is now on fertiliaid, stopped well man to try this and he is originally due to go for another SA at being of march but he would have only been taking the new tablets for a month so don't know whether to still go ahead and see if it has made a difference or if it is worse

To top it off all I see is newborn babies and pregnant ladies it's driving me mad

I know there a lot worse ppl off than me and I do understand that I just needed to rant

Sorry xxxxx

Don't be sorry! We understand how horribly tough it can be

I hope the fertilaid leads to your sticky

Ooh Chatty, how exciting! Wish you all the best for your business plans

Happy Anniversary Tally! Hope you're having a lovely weekend.

Aw wannabe, I just want to come and give you a big hug. You've got so much to worry about at the moment. I hope everything works out for you.

ababytogether. I'm sorry you're feeling low. The body does strange things sometimes, makes no sense. I hope you start to feel better soon.

I've been low today too. I wish I could just forget about the MC and move on. Instead, I keep thinking that I should be more than half way through my pregnancy by now and would have had my 20 wk scan. Didn't help when I saw my friend's 20 wk scan on fb, even though I'm obviously pleased for her. Got another dodgy month this month. I am on CD7 and DH goes back to Scotland on Monday am, he'll be away for my fertile time again. No point wasting the preseed and softcups, I'll just count it as a dud month.

Thanks hunni

Aw hun I can't imagine how hard that must be seeing your friend's scan and all.

And it must be so frustrating your DH having to be away at completely the wrong times in your cycle

I hope things look up soon

Well - we had a great time out for our anniversary dinner, though possibly a couple too many margaritas...

Went to the friends house party yesterday evening, spent half the time holding their beautiful 3 month old girl who had woken up grumpy and cross but then fell asleep on me...... How much did that inflame my broodiness.........

Not much else to report really....

 

[clare79]

hi everyone, i dont post on here much now, as most of you know my dh vr was a sucess then it healed back over after only 5 months. we have decided to go down the route of ivf/icsi now. we are egg- sharing for reduced ivf/icsi. had our first consultation appointment on the 9th feb, i had scans which looked at my ovaries which were normal and a amh blood test which came back today as 28.42 which we were told was also normal. our next appointment is on 29th feb, this will be a counselling session ( as were are egg- sharing) and more bloods.
consultant hopes that if everything is ok we should start injections in april time ... he has reccommended just one embryo transfer but we have decided to go for 2 embryos.

im sending lots of and to you all.. lets have some 2012 bfp'sxxx

 

[ababytogether]

Thanks everyone

Doesn't help that my good friend has told me she is pregnant and is due the same day as I would have had I been pregnant

Didn't think it would hurt me but it has, I wish her all then best but am so upset

2nd one of my friends due on exact same days as each other and same day as I could have been

Maybe it just isn't meant to be for us...but I just need to know now...

 

[clare79]

Thanks everyone

Doesn't help that my good friend has told me she is pregnant and is due the same day as I would have had I been pregnant

Didn't think it would hurt me but it has, I wish her all then best but am so upset

2nd one of my friends due on exact same days as each other and same day as I could have been

Maybe it just isn't meant to be for us...but I just need to know now...

Aw Hun I can understand how you feeling. My sister in law and friend are both about 10 weeks pregnant now and I just keep wishing and hoping that out turn will come. We are trying our last option now as our vr wasn't successful we can only afford to try ivf once. just keep thinking positive and it will help you to relax. Have you tried preseed and softcups?? Xx

 

[wannabeprego]

hi everyone, i dont post on here much now, as most of you know my dh vr was a sucess then it healed back over after only 5 months. we have decided to go down the route of ivf/icsi now. we are egg- sharing for reduced ivf/icsi. had our first consultation appointment on the 9th feb, i had scans which looked at my ovaries which were normal and a amh blood test which came back today as 28.42 which we were told was also normal. our next appointment is on 29th feb, this will be a counselling session ( as were are egg- sharing) and more bloods.
consultant hopes that if everything is ok we should start injections in april time ... he has reccommended just one embryo transfer but we have decided to go for 2 embryos.

im sending lots of and to you all.. lets have some 2012 bfp'sxxx

Good luck with the IVF.. I hope you finally get your BFP!!!

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[wannabeprego]

AFM, The arrived today.. But i am okay with it and I pretty much expected it!!!

I did get some good news though and I have a job interview wednesday with a staffing agency for an admin job processing mortgage paper work. it is a temp to perm position and the commute is pretty good as well. If everything goes as it should i will be going back to work this thursday. I really hope that it is going to be a nice place to work and that i will like it there!!

Something ironic though is that this is the same lady and staffing agency that made me upset last week where I cried after i got off the phone with her, because she said I had gaps in employment and that i wouldnt be able to find work... etc.... I am over it though if the end result is a good job for me in the end!!!

The only thing is that i might have to postpone the surgery because when you are new at a job it is sometimes hard to take any time off in the beginning, but I will see how it is when I get there. I have been stressed out and anxious though worrying about paying for the surgery with just our tax return $$ and with only DH's income. We have been pretty tight $$ wise and i really needed to get back to work ASAP. So I will be able to save up money faster when I am working full time and pay for the surgery easier, i also will be able to afford IUI when we are ready to take that step as well. I will keep you girls updated about the surgery though. I would feel a little sad if I had to postpone the surgery in a way but I know that waiting will make things alot easier on me and DH and take my anxiety and stress level down alot as well because to be honest with you girls I have been freaking out lately about our finances!!!

 

[sapphire1]

Sorry the witch got you wannabe. Really hope you get the job!

Good luck Clare, I hope everything goes smoothly.

Hope you're starting to feel a little better ababytogether.

Urgh, I need to sort myself out. My friend had her gorgeous baby last night. She got pregnant the month I started TTC. Spent most of last night crying Daren't tell DH, he thinks I'm nuts already

 

[clare79]

hi everyone, i dont post on here much now, as most of you know my dh vr was a sucess then it healed back over after only 5 months. we have decided to go down the route of ivf/icsi now. we are egg- sharing for reduced ivf/icsi. had our first consultation appointment on the 9th feb, i had scans which looked at my ovaries which were normal and a amh blood test which came back today as 28.42 which we were told was also normal. our next appointment is on 29th feb, this will be a counselling session ( as were are egg- sharing) and more bloods.
consultant hopes that if everything is ok we should start injections in april time ... he has reccommended just one embryo transfer but we have decided to go for 2 embryos.

im sending lots of and to you all.. lets have some 2012 bfp'sxxx

Good luck with the IVF.. I hope you finally get your BFP!!!

https://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh126/izzybee22/Good-Luck-181589924.gif

thank you xx

 

[clare79]

AFM, The arrived today.. But i am okay with it and I pretty much expected it!!!

I did get some good news though and I have a job interview wednesday with a staffing agency for an admin job processing mortgage paper work. it is a temp to perm position and the commute is pretty good as well. If everything goes as it should i will be going back to work this thursday. I really hope that it is going to be a nice place to work and that i will like it there!!

Something ironic though is that this is the same lady and staffing agency that made me upset last week where I cried after i got off the phone with her, because she said I had gaps in employment and that i wouldnt be able to find work... etc.... I am over it though if the end result is a good job for me in the end!!!

The only thing is that i might have to postpone the surgery because when you are new at a job it is sometimes hard to take any time off in the beginning, but I will see how it is when I get there. I have been stressed out and anxious though worrying about paying for the surgery with just our tax return $$ and with only DH's income. We have been pretty tight $$ wise and i really needed to get back to work ASAP. So I will be able to save up money faster when I am working full time and pay for the surgery easier, i also will be able to afford IUI when we are ready to take that step as well. I will keep you girls updated about the surgery though. I would feel a little sad if I had to postpone the surgery in a way but I know that waiting will make things alot easier on me and DH and take my anxiety and stress level down alot as well because to be honest with you girls I have been freaking out lately about our finances!!!

sorry got you hun
great news about job, good luck xx

 

[clare79]

Sorry the witch got you wannabe. Really hope you get the job!

Good luck Clare, I hope everything goes smoothly.

Hope you're starting to feel a little better ababytogether.

Urgh, I need to sort myself out. My friend had her gorgeous baby last night. She got pregnant the month I started TTC. Spent most of last night crying Daren't tell DH, he thinks I'm nuts already

i totally understand how you feeling hun, my friend fell pregnant and had her baby 2 weeks ago and we were trying at same time, and my sister-in-law and another friend are both pregnant too.. dont get me wrong im really happy for them but just want it to be me too . xx

 

[Heramys]

Good luck Clare! FX

Wannabep: FX for you too you get the job!

Sapphire: I totally understand. I feel like that too and I don't think my OH understands me as he's saying "just stay positive"... so feel a bit lonely in this

 

[nicoley]

so ladies i got my bfp yesterday...wanted to post in here to let yas know...dont give up!!

 

[Heramys]

Congratulations!!!!! good luck with your pregnancy!! How exciting

 

[wannabeprego]

so ladies i got my bfp yesterday...wanted to post in here to let yas know...dont give up!!

Congrats again on your BFP hun!!!! I also said congrats on your HPT testing thread as well earlier!!!

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How long were you trying after the VR before you got your BFP?? Did you do anything different this month to get your BFP?? What was your OH's SA counts like??? Thanks for giving us girls some hope that it can still happen for us!!!

 

[nicoley]

We did nothing Different and my oh refused to do a sa because he felt that we would be blessed if it's gods will...so that was difficult and hard on me...so he has his reversal April 13 2011... So we starting trying end of may June I believe...

 

[shelly_t]

Arrrrgghhh!!

Booked the VR yesterday with Duncan Harriss!! Scared now and sick with worrying about whether we have done the right thing and chose the right surgeon!! Cant believe its really happening after over a year of talking about it........

 

[shelly_t]

And just noticed a post about VR'S healing back over--arrggghhh--is this common? we werent planning on trying the second we are able we just planning on planning at the minute (palpitations)

 

[wannabeprego]

Hi my lovely ladies!!! Well I just got home from my interview at the staffing agency and it went really great!!! I mostly had to fill out paperwork for direct deposit and taxes and an application for employment. And long story short... WOOOO HOOOOOO!!!! I got the job and I will start tomorrow with a 9 to5 shift. I am just so excited and happy right now, I have been doing a little happy dance all afternoon!!!

I am going to try to focus on saving up as much $$ as I can right now to pay for future fertility treatments, (IUI). It will be so nice having a little extra $$ again to be able to do stuff with DH again. it has been tuff just living off of DH's income alone. I also wont be stressed about paying for the surgery I need either when I was just having to rely on the tax return alone to pay for it before. I am going to see how things go with the new job tomorrow to decide on whether or not i will need to post pone the surgery for sure or not. I want to see how their training program is and how they feel about anyone taking anytime off in the first 90 days of employment, because in the first 90 days you are working as a temp for the staffing agency and than after that if you do a good job you can get hired on as a permanent employee. So i also have to keep that factor in mind if i like the job i will need to make sure i am working hard and that i have good attendance so I get hired on permanently with the company. I reallly hope that it will be a nice place to work and that I am going to like the job!! Wish me luck for my first day of work tomorrow girls!!!

 

[wannabeprego]

@ShellyT, Good luck with the upcoming VR!!! I hope that your OH has a quick recovery and tons of after!!!

It has been over 2 years since my DH's VR and he is still making and he hasnt had a problem with scarring back over yet, so I know that doesnt happen to every man that gets a VR, although I know a few girls on the thread unfortunatly had this problem happen to them. I am not sure what factor contributes to this or if there is any way to know if it will happen to your guy or not though??? Sorry I couldnt be more helpful...