The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[HappyBunnyAB]

Hi ladies,

I haven't posted in a while, but I needed to vent. We did an SA last week and I called yesterday and asked for the results and I was devastated! There was no sperm present at all I was in complete shock! I could not believe it! We are saving our money and been trying to get all the costs down and gearing up for invitro to find out that we have no sperm. I was so angry at DH because it had been over 8 days since the last time we bed and he said waiting more days would give us a better chance and he was wrong! I am so angry at him for thinking that way! Now we have to spend more money and do another SA next month. If this comes back again with no sperm I guess my dreams of being a mom will disappear!

 

[sapphire1]

That's good news Clare, hope it all goes well.

HappyBunny, I'm so sorry. Are you able to do ICSI if the next SA doesn't improve? Sending lots of GL vibes your way.

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Thank you Sapphire, yes if we find sperm we can do ICSI. Also, if we find any we are planning on freezing it just in case. Having a back up frozen vidal will add to the cost of course! If scarring is the issue then I don't know if he is willing to go through the surgery again.

 

[sapphire1]

I thought that with ICSI, they retrieve sperm directly from the testes? Freezing is a good idea, I wish we had had some frozen when DH first had the VR. Scarring is what worries me, we couldn't afford to have another VR or IVF if DH's tube scars over.

 

[chattyB]

I hope your next SA shows some improvement huni. Tubal scarring is my worst nightmare.

I can't remember the name of the procedure .... Something like TESA or PESA - they extract the sperm directly from the testicles.

I hope you're ok Hun, thinking of you.


Claire - that's great news!!

 

[sapphire1]

Thanks Chatty, I knew there was a way of extracting sperm direct.

Hope you're ok today hun

 

[ttcpostvr]

happy bunny! i was just having a consult yesterday for ivf this next cycle, and while my hubbys SA after his reversal have had "incredible results" he did mention that even if he had ZERO sperm present, he could just aspirate the sperm and do ICSI. If your doc doesn't do this then GO SOMEWHERE ELSE!

 

[ttcpostvr]

Hello beautiful ladies, I had a m/c in January, as you may remember, then last monday my oncologist said i needed to do ivf next cycle if i dont get pg this month, because i need 6 months of chemo as soon as i deliver and if ivf is not successful, then chemo needs to start my the end of april.
Yesterday, i was 12 dpo.
Yesterday, I woke up grauggy eyed and tested because I had to pee at 5 am, I didn't see a line, so I just went back to bed. We had an appt to begin IVF this next cycle yesterday, so I thought I would glance at the test again just to make sure. And I saw a little something, hardly enough to tell if it was just an evap line. When I did the negative effect on it, nothing showed. So went to doc, thought about it all day, took another one around 6pm, just to see if anything would show, not being fmu, I was not hopeful, but there was def a very LITTLE something there. So OF COURSE, I decided to test again this morning, hoping it would be darker with fmu, BUT it really wasn't much, if any, darker.

So my question is, do you ladies think it is just early, and my line will continue to get darker and darker each day? I have never tested daily like this with an actual positive. (I am a poas addict, but it usually never shows a second line AT ALL) So I'm confused as to how much it should change each day. It's funny how you can give advice all day, but when it's happening to you, you need to hear it!
I guess I was just expecting it to be more of a change this morning??

 

[chattyB]

There's definitely a little "something there" .... But given my recent situation when I dismissed a faint + result as an evap, I'm probably not the best to say if your pics are + or evap.

I hope this is your sticky bean huni!

 

[ttcpostvr]

outside of the 12 dpo 5am pic. the others were within the 10 min mark, not including the 12 dpo's with the 13 dpo, which were obviously already dried
(too early for evap line, if within the 10 minute window right?)
ugh! i wish it would have been nice and DARK this morning.

 

[sapphire1]

Hey hun, I definitely see something! Have you tried a FRER? ICs show faint for ages so it might be hard to see progression. I have everything crossed that this is your sticky bean!

 

[ttcpostvr]

thanks dear. no i havent tried frer. i think i will go buy some for in the morning. i have to go get a serum hcg tmrw and sunday. so we will see how those turn out. we def need some good news!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

I thought that with ICSI, they retrieve sperm directly from the testes? Freezing is a good idea, I wish we had had some frozen when DH first had the VR. Scarring is what worries me, we couldn't afford to have another VR or IVF if DH's tube scars over.

ICSI is when they inject the sperm directly into the egg. The doctor can obtain the sperm directly from the testes but it will be just as a VR. DH is not to happy about doing it again if scarring is the issue. He hopes next month we will see a result and we are going to freeze some as a back up.

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

happy bunny! i was just having a consult yesterday for ivf this next cycle, and while my hubbys SA after his reversal have had "incredible results" he did mention that even if he had ZERO sperm present, he could just aspirate the sperm and do ICSI. If your doc doesn't do this then GO SOMEWHERE ELSE!

What my Dr said was to have him see his Urologist and he would give us our options. DH is not looking forward to sperm extraction, but he will do it. We are paying for everything ourselves and these precedures are not cheap.

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

I see lines on those tests. Let's hope the get darker!

 

[ttcpostvr]

dh went to a doctor in oklahoma for a 1500 dollar reversal. his results are GREAT! he was 6 years post vascectomy. maybe an option, if your hubby would be up for doing it again. this doc does it so cheap because he sedates and uses a local anesthetic rather than general anesthesia. dr. david wilson is his name.

 

[Heramys]

I defo see lines!! woo hoo!!

By the way - I've seen people do those things with images on here before - how do you do that?

 

[ttcpostvr]

I took the pics with my smart phone. then chose the option to edit it, then went to the "negative" setting. To get it on here, you have to then email from your smart phone to yourself to retrieve on your computer.
you can also mess with the color settings on just about any photo editing program on a computer. hope that makes sense. good luck!

 

[Heramys]

Great I'll try that sometime.!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

dh went to a doctor in oklahoma for a 1500 dollar reversal. his results are GREAT! he was 6 years post vascectomy. maybe an option, if your hubby would be up for doing it again. this doc does it so cheap because he sedates and uses a local anesthetic rather than general anesthesia. dr. david wilson is his name.

We paid $4000 plust the anesthesia was another $700 and the hospital was $2,000. The funny thing was his insurance ended up covering the whole thing and we got our money back. I asked him yesterday if he would do it again and he said no, but he would do anything to have a baby with me so I took that as a yes. Thank you for the name. I'll talk to DH about it.