The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[ttcpostvr]

Thanks ladies! Loving every moment of it. That's for sure! Thinking of you all too! Thanks for everyones sweet encouragement during our year of ttc.

 

[wannabeprego]

Thanks ladies! Loving every moment of it. That's for sure! Thinking of you all too! Thanks for everyones sweet encouragement during our year of ttc.

Congrats on your BFP!!! I am so glad that your scan went well and that everything looks good with baby. I hope that you have a happy and healthy 9 months!!!

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[tallybee]

Lovely scan pic hun!

How is everyone else? Not much to report here really!

xx

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Hello ladies,

Not alot to report for me. Next week we are doing another SA and FX that we find some sperm for IVF. Still saving my money and hoping to be pregnant soon. How is everyone else?

 

[tallybee]

Thinking of you Happy Bunny

 

[ashley0320]

Question for all you VR ladies, my DH had his reversal on 4/12, was found on both sides. We didn't get any instructions on when would be safe/okay. Did your doctors give you or your DH instruction? If so what were they? (if you don't mind me asking)

 

[tallybee]

Hiya Ashley, it seems from what ladies have said on here that different surgeons have said waiting anything between about 2 weeks all the way up to 6 weeks. I think though it really depends on how your DH is feeling. I hope he is healing well

x

 

[ArmyWifeCarli]

Hello everyone! Congrats to all the girls with BFP! And Baby dust to all the new girls who are at the beginning of their VR journey.

As for me. We see the RE in May. I am very excited to get on with this process. They cram Alot into each appointment as well. So we will be having our first IUI shortly after. I am excited. I know we are going to most likely be doing injectibles as well as a trigger shot just by them observing my paperwork. So that's what's going on.

I hope everyone is well!!

Carlise

 

[ttcpostvr]

Ashley, we were told 2 weeks. Lasted 11 days. Hubbies results were better than most mens who never had a vascectomy (so we were told by my reprod specialist, who is in no way affiliated with the doc that did reversal)

Carlise- good luck! Just took care of a lady who got prego first attempt with triplets going that route!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Ashley - Our Dr said to wait 3 weeks and we did. Good luck!

Good luck Carlise! you get to be our next VR success!

ttcpostvr - 8 weeks already! So happy for you!

 

[tallybee]

Good luck Carlise hun

 

[2plus1makes3]

I am new to this group, my DH is getting a VR next Friday, I can almost die! I did promise thugh we wouldnt ttc until 5 months later, how am I going to wait!

 

[CMo]

Hey ladies hope your all well! Not posted for a while but been keeping up to date with you all.

I brought up using donor sperm with dh last night. He initially wasn't too keen but we did talk about it. It's going to be about £8500 for icsi & sperm retreival compared to £950 for a shot at iui using a donor. As there are no problems with me, that i know about we could have a lot more shots at iui compared to one shot at icsi. think dh is worried that it won't be his and he'll be raising someone else's baby. Tried to explain its not like that it will be 100% his and he'll be there the whole time it's just we'll be getting an hand to actually get pregnant.

Don't know if I'm being selfish but I'm so desperate for a baby I'll try anything. What do u ladies think? Xx

 

[tallybee]

I am new to this group, my DH is getting a VR next Friday, I can almost die! I did promise thugh we wouldnt ttc until 5 months later, how am I going to wait!

Hi :wave: welcome to the group All the best with the op and beyond.

Hey ladies hope your all well! Not posted for a while but been keeping up to date with you all.

I brought up using donor sperm with dh last night. He initially wasn't too keen but we did talk about it. It's going to be about £8500 for icsi & sperm retreival compared to £950 for a shot at iui using a donor. As there are no problems with me, that i know about we could have a lot more shots at iui compared to one shot at icsi. think dh is worried that it won't be his and he'll be raising someone else's baby. Tried to explain its not like that it will be 100% his and he'll be there the whole time it's just we'll be getting an hand to actually get pregnant.

Don't know if I'm being selfish but I'm so desperate for a baby I'll try anything. What do u ladies think? Xx

DH was all for using donor sperm at one point. He was so disappointed in 'letting me down' (ie not being able to get me pregnant)... we talked it through and basically the same issue as you describe came up. It's such a personal thing, some guys may not be put off by it but many would be. What put me off was, though DH was saying it wouldn't matter that it wasn't his biological child, it's easy to say that before we've actually gone for it - I suspected he could easily feel differently once I was pregnant and it's not as if we could change our minds then!

I think the only thing you can do is to discuss options at great length

 

[chattyB]

Hi to the newbies! Good luck on your journey to BFP!

CMo - i hope to hear BFP news from you soon!

AFM - nothing much has changed apart from my attitude lol. VR 1st anniversary will be here at the start of June and it's been a long year constantly testing, checking and hoping for a sticky bean. I'm starting to accept that it may never happen, Infact I'm starting to plan for the future with no babies in tow (thinking of downsizing the house etc) which is scaring me a little tbh - I seem to have subconsciously switched from "must have a baby" mode to "Meh, a baby might not fit in with our plans". Maybe it's my own mind trying to protect me from further disappointment. That said, I looked at the calender this morning and discovered that I'm actually a day late (AF due yesterday), I have no desire to test yet, afterall, I completely missed my last BFP even with a test and didn't realise til I started bleeding . I'll leave it til the weekend and test if there's no AF by then.

babydust!

 

[Heramys]

well we just had the results back from the SA. 0% sperm.
might be a blockage somewhere but the surgeon didn't think another procedure would change anything.


We've already got an appointment at a fertility clinic booked in late May. Now our only option is ICSI but who knows - he might not even have retreivable sperm and my tests might be crap as well. Already have a high FSH. Now waiting for the results back on my AMH test. Happy days.

Right now I don't know what to do. It feels totally hopeless.

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Oh Chatty! I know it's hard to be positive but you were already pregnant before that means you have a good chance to get pregnant again. Don't beat yourself up! Many times we overwhelm ourselves with wanting a baby so bad. Many woman had gotten pregnant when they stop trying. hang in there you are going to have your baby you'll see.

Heramys Is this the second SA? Last year we got zero sperm couple of times and we've realized that when DH waits more than 6 days between ejaculations we get zero sperm. I'm sure his producing sperm and it's just the scarring that's blocking it. If that is the problem they will still be able to retrieve sperm via MESE/TESA. You can still have your baby. Don't give up!

AFM, well I got another SA and we have 5 million sperms but no motility . At least I know there is still hope and no scarring. I got get DH on vitamins again and help with the motility. In two weeks we are going to freeze the sperm as a back up for IVF. I've also been doing acupuncture and I must say it really relaxes me. Ever since we stopped trying I feel so much better. I'm praying that IVF works for us because this is our last chance. to all of us!

 

[ttcpostvr]

hello beautiful ladies,
just thought i would update you on my sweet little baby. ordered a fetal doppler online and received it monday, listened and couldn't find anything. today, i searched for like 20 minutes and FINALLY found that precious sound. 176 bpm! i have another u/s friday!
thinking of you all! have faith. it will happen!

 

[wannabeprego]

Hi lovely ladies!! I have missed all of you guys!! I hope you guys are doing well. Sorry I haven’t been on much lately. Work has been keeping me super busy and then my laptop crashed so I haven’t had much computer time lately. I need to buy a new laptop!! Work is kind of crazy right now because I have been training to take my supervisor’s place and she goes on on maternity leave at the beginning of June so I don’t have much time left to train. She will be out for 3 months on leave. I am hoping that baby doesn’t decide to come early so I can have some more time to train. We had a new girl start on Monday of this week and I have been helping my supervisor train her on doing recruiting. I have been feeling a little stressed because I have felt overwhelmed at points with everything that I had to learn and I was worrying I wouldn’t be able to master her job or have enough time to, before she has her baby. Fingers crossed her baby doesn’t decide to come early so I can at least have the rest of this month to train!!!

I have put TTC on the back burner for now until I can have my surgery. I didn’t see the point in focusing on TTC anymore and going through the painful emotional roller coaster when DH and my chances of getting pregnant are so low right now. I just can’t handle the heart ache and pain of it all right now, I am glad that work is a distraction and that it has been keeping me so busy at least even though it has been kind of nuts with everything I have to learn!!

One weird thing that did happen to me this cycle and it has never happened to me before, is that I had a few streaks of brown dried blood when I wipped right around my ovulation/fertile window. Of course I was hoping it was implantation spotting and that I am pregnant, It has never happened to me before in the 2.5 plus years that I have been monitoring m cycles. I haven’t done OPKs in a few months now so I don’t know for sure when I ovulated this cycle. DH and me had a lot of sex during my fertile window though so who knows. I am not getting my hopes up or anything though, because it just isn’t that easy… sigh…

I hope all of you girls have a lovely weekend. I am going to continue to check in on you girls from time to time so I can try to keep up with everything that is going on!!

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[tallybee]

Hi to the newbies! Good luck on your journey to BFP!

CMo - i hope to hear BFP news from you soon!

AFM - nothing much has changed apart from my attitude lol. VR 1st anniversary will be here at the start of June and it's been a long year constantly testing, checking and hoping for a sticky bean. I'm starting to accept that it may never happen, Infact I'm starting to plan for the future with no babies in tow (thinking of downsizing the house etc) which is scaring me a little tbh - I seem to have subconsciously switched from "must have a baby" mode to "Meh, a baby might not fit in with our plans". Maybe it's my own mind trying to protect me from further disappointment. That said, I looked at the calender this morning and discovered that I'm actually a day late (AF due yesterday), I have no desire to test yet, afterall, I completely missed my last BFP even with a test and didn't realise til I started bleeding . I'll leave it til the weekend and test if there's no AF by then.

babydust!

hun I could have written that myself... 2 years post-vr for us and a long while ago I just shifted. I'm even considering going back on the mini pill for a while as I am in so much pain and losing so much blood each AF and it's affecting me finishing my degree, which then after that I want to be sorting out a career..... etc.

I guess the future will bring what the future will bring for us.

well we just had the results back from the SA. 0% sperm.
might be a blockage somewhere but the surgeon didn't think another procedure would change anything.


We've already got an appointment at a fertility clinic booked in late May. Now our only option is ICSI but who knows - he might not even have retreivable sperm and my tests might be crap as well. Already have a high FSH. Now waiting for the results back on my AMH test. Happy days.

Right now I don't know what to do. It feels totally hopeless.

So sorry hun, I hope the appointment at the FC can get you somewhere

hello beautiful ladies,
just thought i would update you on my sweet little baby. ordered a fetal doppler online and received it monday, listened and couldn't find anything. today, i searched for like 20 minutes and FINALLY found that precious sound. 176 bpm! i have another u/s friday!
thinking of you all! have faith. it will happen!

That's amazing hun xx

Hi lovely ladies!! I have missed all of you guys!! I hope you guys are doing well. Sorry I haven’t been on much lately. Work has been keeping me super busy and then my laptop crashed so I haven’t had much computer time lately. I need to buy a new laptop!! Work is kind of crazy right now because I have been training to take my supervisor’s place and she goes on on maternity leave at the beginning of June so I don’t have much time left to train. She will be out for 3 months on leave. I am hoping that baby doesn’t decide to come early so I can have some more time to train. We had a new girl start on Monday of this week and I have been helping my supervisor train her on doing recruiting. I have been feeling a little stressed because I have felt overwhelmed at points with everything that I had to learn and I was worrying I wouldn’t be able to master her job or have enough time to, before she has her baby. Fingers crossed her baby doesn’t decide to come early so I can at least have the rest of this month to train!!!

I have put TTC on the back burner for now until I can have my surgery. I didn’t see the point in focusing on TTC anymore and going through the painful emotional roller coaster when DH and my chances of getting pregnant are so low right now. I just can’t handle the heart ache and pain of it all right now, I am glad that work is a distraction and that it has been keeping me so busy at least even though it has been kind of nuts with everything I have to learn!!

One weird thing that did happen to me this cycle and it has never happened to me before, is that I had a few streaks of brown dried blood when I wipped right around my ovulation/fertile window. Of course I was hoping it was implantation spotting and that I am pregnant, It has never happened to me before in the 2.5 plus years that I have been monitoring m cycles. I haven’t done OPKs in a few months now so I don’t know for sure when I ovulated this cycle. DH and me had a lot of sex during my fertile window though so who knows. I am not getting my hopes up or anything though, because it just isn’t that easy… sigh…

I hope all of you girls have a lovely weekend. I am going to continue to check in on you girls from time to time so I can try to keep up with everything that is going on!!

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:wave:


It's tough putting TTC aside but I'm glad your work is keeping you busy, all the best xx