The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[rdleela]

Hi, VR ladies! New to this thread; I'm in a similar but different situation than most of you, I think...

DH was diagnosed with azoospermia in late January of this year after doing his first SA. After many tests, including a testicular biopsy, we found mature sperm in April. After MORE tests, today we decided to move ahead with Vasoepididymostomy (VE) surgery, which is his only surgical option, besides us moving on to IVF/ICSI. We are just waiting on our surgery date!

Basically, my DH had a hernia repair operation as a newborn, and one undescendant testicle surgery when he was 2. Most likely, inadvertently, one of those surgeries has given him a vasectomy and/or scarring that's lead to a blockage.

I checked out the front page to see if anyone's DH's had the VE surgery done for their VR, but it didn't look like you guys have those details written in.

Has anyones DH had the VE surgery and if so, what was your experience with it? Thanks, ladies!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

This is a neat thread I am not the girlfriend or wife of someone with a VR, but I AM the product of a VR

Hello there! So nice to meet a product of VR. There are plenty of ladies who received their miracles and others who are carrying them. Thanks for sharing.

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Hello rdleela,

I'm sorry I have no experience on it. Maybe the other ladies can help. Are the Drs able to retrieve sperm? Good luck on the surgery!

 

[rdleela]

Hi, HappyBunny, thanks for the reply!

Oh, yah, we have mature sperm, and we'll be able to do IVF/ICSI as a backup, but I'm going with my gut feeling and trying the VE surgery first! It's free, and if it works, we get to TTC naturally!

I just know that a lot of VR's, I think about 25% of them, will have a VE done as a part of their VR, so just looking for girls with experience with this!

 

[chattyB]

Hi rdleela, welcome to the group!

I've heard of it before and the urologist had suggested it as an option if a standard reversal wasn't "do-able". My hubby had a bilateral hydroele operation when he was younger, followed by a vasectomy (after 3 children). The urologist was concerned that there may be too much damage/scar tissue from the two previous operations and we talked about a VE should the original plan prove too challenging. Luckily, the urologist was able to reconnect both tubes without the need to try connecting to the epydermis (sp?). It worked! We're expecting our bundles in January (BFP 11 months after VR).

It might be a good idea to have sperm collected during the operation just in case it doesn't go to plan. There are also other options whereby the sperm can be directly aspirated from the testicals and used with ICSI.

Good luck huni!

 

[tallybee]

Hi everyone :wave:

Welcome to new members, and awesome to see someone who is the result of a VR!

I just popped on to say that after long hard consideration I have decided to have the implant back in. The TTC journey has taken too much out of us, we've tried for 2 years and got to a stage now that we feel it's time to stop. Not to mention my body just can't handle AF... the only times I've had respite from it were when pregnant or on the implant.

This has been something we discussed before, I never thought it would actually come to it. But now I actually feel quite at peace with the decision to move on from trying. I have an absolutely wonderful family.

I wish every single one of you ladies the absolute best in your journeys, you all deserve it so much

I'll generally be found loitering in GS or GC - I may never have a bump or baby again but these forums rock

 

[TFSGirl]

This is a neat thread I am not the girlfriend or wife of someone with a VR, but I AM the product of a VR

Hello there! So nice to meet a product of VR. There are plenty of ladies who received their miracles and others who are carrying them. Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for making this thread! If it weren't for VR, I wouldn't even be here. My dad had a vasectomy when he was 24, then when he was 35 decided he wanted one more kid (my mom actually had my brother from a previous relationship), and so did my mom so he found a surgeon (the only one in the country at the time) and had his reversal! A short 2 months later they conceived me! That was 28 years ago!

 

[chattyB]

Tally I'm really sorry you've had to come to this decision but you really do need to look after yourself - I can't imagine what it's like to have such crippling monthly pain . I'll be keeping you in my thoughts hun

 

[sapphire1]

:wave: TFSGirl

Welcome rdleela. I don't have any experience of VE, but hopefully someone will be able to help.

Tally. I'm sorry you've had to make such a hard decision, crippling pain every month must be so awful for you. I'll see you around the usual places

 

[CMo]

TFSGirl that is amazing! Really gives us hope that it can happen!

Tally I'm so sorry that's the road your taking. Its must be a good feeling now to have made your decision.

AFM I'm at breaking point! DH has refused to use donor sperm which means ICSI which is out our budget just now. I'm gutted. We've not spoken for about a week now. I'm really just thinking about jacking in my marriage and going solo. I'm so confused!

 

[BabyHope2012]

tallybee so sorry to hear of your hard decision. It's good to know that you are at peace and can enjoy your family. Wishing you all the best x

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Hi, HappyBunny, thanks for the reply!

Oh, yah, we have mature sperm, and we'll be able to do IVF/ICSI as a backup, but I'm going with my gut feeling and trying the VE surgery first! It's free, and if it works, we get to TTC naturally!

I just know that a lot of VR's, I think about 25% of them, will have a VE done as a part of their VR, so just looking for girls with experience with this!

Good luck! I hope VE is sucessful and you don't have to do IVF/ICSI. When is the surgery?

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

This is a neat thread I am not the girlfriend or wife of someone with a VR, but I AM the product of a VR

Hello there! So nice to meet a product of VR. There are plenty of ladies who received their miracles and others who are carrying them. Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for making this thread! If it weren't for VR, I wouldn't even be here. My dad had a vasectomy when he was 24, then when he was 35 decided he wanted one more kid (my mom actually had my brother from a previous relationship), and so did my mom so he found a surgeon (the only one in the country at the time) and had his reversal! A short 2 months later they conceived me! That was 28 years ago!

How exciting! DH has twins that were born when he was 25 and decided to do a vasectomy and then he met me and now we want our own. I hope soon we can have our VR miracle. Thank you for sharing!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Oh Tally! I'm sorry you have made this decision. I wish you the best and hope you check up on us once in a while.

CMo - I'm sorry you are going through this. DH does not want donor sperm!? What made him change his mind? I hope you are able to talk to him and make him change his mind.

 

[tallybee]

Thanks so much for all the kind words everyone, it means a lot. I don't know how I'd have managed without this group, the support here is something I could never have imagined

It's a very weird feeling but mixed in with sadness there is a bit of relief as TTC has at times taken over my being and we all know the rollercoaster...

I will definitely check in to see how you're all getting on!

I expect to see lots of great news

Xxx

 

[sapphire1]

CMo, I'm sorry your DH is being that way. I hope he realises that you deserve the chance to have your own child, no matter what that entails.

Tally. I know what you mean, since we have stopped ttc I feel a strange mix of emotions. I'm coming to terms with it now, but it's so lovely to have the support from you girls x x

 

[CMo]

He just said he wanted to at least have a chance of trying ICSI first then if it failed he would go along with a donor.

We're in the middle of saving for a deposit for a house just now but we've agreed to wait until march then regardless of the money situation we'll go and see about ICSI and if we don't have enough saved we'll put it on a visa or something

 

[rdleela]

Hi rdleela, welcome to the group!

I've heard of it before and the urologist had suggested it as an option if a standard reversal wasn't "do-able". My hubby had a bilateral hydroele operation when he was younger, followed by a vasectomy (after 3 children). The urologist was concerned that there may be too much damage/scar tissue from the two previous operations and we talked about a VE should the original plan prove too challenging. Luckily, the urologist was able to reconnect both tubes without the need to try connecting to the epydermis (sp?). It worked! We're expecting our bundles in January (BFP 11 months after VR).

It might be a good idea to have sperm collected during the operation just in case it doesn't go to plan. There are also other options whereby the sperm can be directly aspirated from the testicals and used with ICSI.

Good luck huni!

Hi, Chatty! Thanks so much for the response and congrats on your BFP! It is SO nice to finally hear of someone else knowing about VE!!

VE is our only option, as DH hasn't had a V, so there is nothing to "reconnect", so the surgeon HAS to go directly to the epididymis.

IVF/ICSI is our back up if this surgery doesn't work. I'm in Alberta, Canada, and the surgery is 100% free for us, but IVF/ICSI would cost us mountains of money. We are going to a micro-surgery specialist in BC to have the surgery done, and I feel very confident in his skills. I am so grateful my DH is willing to have this surgery done to get us our baby!

Happy Bunny, so just from your signature it looks like your DH's sperm count was low after VR and now you're having to do IVF/ICSI? How long did you guys wait after VR to finally decide to do IVF? To answer your questions, we are still waiting to hear when our surgery date is, but I'm estimating end of August at the latest. I really hope we hear back by late next week, I am not a very patient person! lol

It is SOOOO awesome to see all the BFP's and how long it took you all to get them after surgery! It gives me hope!

I hope to find support and knowledge from you ladies, and I look forward to getting to know you all better!

 

[HappyBunnyAB]

Rdleela, my Dr told us from the beginning to move to ivf this was Feb 2011, but we didn't have the money. He said we could do IUI but because of the low count it would most likely not work. We actually did two IUI and we didn't get pregnant. So last December I met with the Dr and he told us again to move to ivf. So after 6 months of saving money we are finally doing it. The only problem now is that we need to freeze some sperm and on our last attempt there was no sperm found. DH had a flu last month and I've read that's it can kill all of your sperm if he had a fever. So if that is the case we will have to wait until the Sept cycle.

I know the feeling about being impatient.....good luck on your surgery. Hopefully it will be sooner than expected.

 

[justonexxx]

Hey ladies just checking in :flower

After my failed IVFmy ovualtion doesnt seem to be happening as it was
I used to get pos opk on CD14/15 and its CD16 and only a fiant psoitive on the sticks

Hope it sorts itself out soon.

Thinking of u all xxxx