The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[live_in_hope]

eek fingers crossed for you hunny!! Xxx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

To be honest I read even more about antibodies last night and realised that I'm delusional. There's no way I'm pregnant, it's basically impossible. So had an evening of being maudling drinking red wine. Red is never a good idea for lifting the spirits!! I really have to find a way to let this go, it's not healthy wanting something so much that I can never have! X

 

[rachy28]

Elmo, there is always a possibility. I have gotten pregnant with antibodies. Its was a year ago but it still happened 👍

My ivf meds have been delivered, I feel a little sick at the sight of all the needles and vials. I can't believe this is actually going to happen after over 2 years ttc xx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

Thanks rachy, I appreciate the optimism I really do, but you didn't have quite one hundred percent did you? So there was still that one or two percent chance. Just wish we didn't have so much debt from the reversal and all sorts of other crap so that I would be able to join you on your IVF journey, and Vicky with her re do. I feel stunted and stuck, we have hit a brick wall.

Have you ever found yourself developing an unhealthy almost bitter attitude to sex - like what's the point if i can't get pregnant. I don't want it to be like that but sometimes I can't help it. I do it anyway of course, don't want to narrow the chances even more x

 

[rachy28]

I know how you feel hun, I didn't want to dtd after finding out about the antibodies but still found myself doing it around ovulation anyway. Dh has 100%IgG & 72% IgA, apparently with IgG antibodies, they only inhibit the chance of sperm reaching egg by immobilising or agglutinating them. IgA is much more significant in affecting fertility, they prevent the sperm from penetrating and binding with the egg. So yes, we have severe immunological infertility x

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

I don't know why but in my head you had 98 percent or something, I apologise Hun.

Hmm don't suppose you can remember from when I shared our results which we had do you? I only knew that it was 100% but I can't remember if it was igg or iga. Going to have to dig out the results x

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

On the last one it just says 100% motile spermatozoa attached to beads? Do you know what that means in terms of igg and iga?

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

And on the original SA I can only seem mention of 100% iGg

 

[rachy28]

Maybe they only disclosed the IgG because that level was significant enough to cause issues with conceiving? I imagine with 100% IgG you most likely have a level of IgA. My fertility specialist did say that conception isnt impossible, just that it may take longer which im inclined to agree with, im not willing to wait any longer now tho x

 

[live_in_hope]

hey ladies xxxxxx thats a lot of meds rachy! But i cant help but notice your chart! Its on the rise at 11dpo! Looking good! Xxx

Elmo, im sorry you're feeling rubbish about it all, miracles do happen, me and rachy have both conceived against the odds so theres still every hope for you xxxx
Sex with us has severely been affected since our long haul ttc...it got to the point where id dtd with hubby pre-ov just to keep hi happy then when it came to ov, he would back off saying he's too tired, doesnt want to. I used to cry myself to sleep every month....he realises that if we did it more then maybe he wouldnt have scarred and has promised that we'll do it loads like we did oist vr last time....wewere told to dtd as much as poss so he did it himself most days then we bd whenever we felt like it, then loads around ov and that obviously worked for us so thats what we're planning to do again this time lol xxx

 

[rachy28]

No chance of that this month vickie, no baby dancing until after ovulation this month. As we signed the paperwork to give consent for ivf, we also signed a declaration to say we would use protection during the process x

 

[live_in_hope]

aw poo but that makes sense xx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

Well I can pretty much say for certain that I am going to come on sometime today. Have the unmistakable pains. Guess it was all in my head again. Least it's a normal 28 day cycle and not going to drag on for nearly an extra week of testing like last month!

I don't yet know if it will happen but the good news is that Ben is taking the new job, he will be getting a company car after three months of being there and will be starting in a month and a half so at that point we will be able to sell our own car, it won't pay for IVF but it will be a good start.
Rachy did you once tell me that IVF with icsi would cost us around the £6000 mark or have I made this up? Xx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

Well af came early hours of this morning so once again it was all in my little head. I don't feel too bad, I knew it would come.

Just letting you guys know that I have joined a closed private group on fb called Reverse it, if your interested. If you want I can share the link xx

 

[jlw617]

I don't know if I should be posting this here or not but I know I was always looking for success stories after my DH had his reversal...

Our journey started after we had our second child, we decided (and were pressured) not to have any more children...we were both fine with it until about 3 years we both felt like The Lord was really convicting us about having more children, after a very long process we were finally scheduled for his reversal in March of 2014- I began buying baby gear right away because my DH was healthy and we thought we'd get pregnant right away, I won't go into details but for quite a while especially following the surgery we were very worried it didn't work...the dr was terrible even though from what I had first read, he seemed perfect, anyhow The Lord blessed us in Septwmber with a BFP! We were thrilled!!! At my 8 week appointment, there was no heart beat or fetal pole, I knew then that something was wrong...I didn't miscarry right away, in fact 2 weeks later there was a very slow hb but I knew and the dr knew it didn't look good, a few days before thanksgiving I started to bleed lightly and then on Black Friday while I was taking some surprise engagement photos for a friend, I felt like I was in near full blown labour, after that I knew I had passed the baby I continued to bleed for another week or so and immediately started to ttc again. We got our 2nd bfp since the reversal just 2-3 months later in early February! I was scared to death that I would have another mmc, but through lots of prayer, I am now 22 weeks with a very healthy baby boy! I just wanted to share my story for any of you ladies who were maybe looking for some encouragement!

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby and congratulations on your pregnancy!
I wish I could say it gave me hope but sadly it doesn't as you where blessed to get pregnant quite quickly, both times within the year and in our case it's really not possible to conceive because of the antibodies. Guess we knew there where no guarentees when we had the reversal. Can't explain how much we regret the vasectomy, we where also pressured not to have anymore since we have three boys. We are hoping that in the future we might be able to pay for IVF. Xx

 

[jlw617]

I'm so sorry the reversal didn't work for you I hope you're able to one day pay for ivf-it's so terribly sad how much pressure there is now to not have more than 2-3 children.

 

[live_in_hope]

hi :wave: thank you for sharing and congrats on your pregnancy all us active ladies on this thread are all coming at it from very different angles! Ive had vr success, a beautiful daughter who will be 4 in sept (my first child) then a mc 18m after she was born.....that was over 2 years ago...hubby has since scarred over and we are booked in for a 2nd vr in sept...67 days to be precise! Lol. We are hoping like nothing else that it works as well as it did before but we shall see.....

Sorry af came elmo...theres nothing wrong in hoping each month. Although we arent ttc at the mo, if we happen to bd around ov time i will secrectly be hoping that im preg even though it is totally impossible!
Great news about your hubbys job! And the car too! rachy is on hol at the mo so prob wont get on to teply about the ivf costs. Sorry I camt help you with that....xx

 

[jlw617]

Hope it works out for you live in hope! My DH and I have been going back and forth about having another one or not after this one but we weren't sure how long we wanted to wait because I'll be 33 when I have this one so I've been debating about having another one because I'll more than likely be 35 by the time I have another one but I've heard about scarring over so if we do I think it should be sooner than later-thanks for sharing that with me.

 

[live_in_hope]

hey :wave: I must have been really niave because I hadnt heard of scarring (although it obviously makes sense, I just hadnt ever thought anout it) so after we had been ttc for 2 years somebody mentined scarring so i sent hubby for a sa and well, turned out that was what had happened.....
So I would recommend going straight at it...lol... We have vr sept '10, bfp dec '10, bfp april '13 so I had at least 2.5 of open tubes.....they could have closed up between april '13 (my last bfp) -may '15 (when sa showed zero) so at max we could have had 4.5 years of oen tubes....I must say....if we want another (which i am already 80% sure about) then I think we will have to ttc before baby is a year old..... God listen to me talking about #3!!! Havent even got anywhere near conceiving #2 my profile name hasnt ever been more suited.....I live in hope every day now xx