The Vasectomy Reversal Wives & Girlfriends Club. aka (VR WAGs)

[VRMDB]

You're all so welcoming, thank you! We are not telling anybody unless I manage to fall pregnant, so it'll be lovely to share our journey with people who will understand. It's amazing to see how all of your experiences have progressed, and that there are current pregnancies.

We had our consultation yesterday, everything seems fine, the consultant thinks he'll be able to repair both sides, and he's all booked in for the first week of July! I can't believe it's happening so quickly.

mum2liam, I second the advice of finding someone else to see. How dare the gp treat your husband with such little respect.

 

[mum2liam]

Thankyou ladies...not really sure why we had to be referred by our gp, just that its their process.
At least the gp bit is over, now waiting eagerly for a call from the private hospital so that we can book our consultation.

Wow VRMDB just a couple of weeks for you! Thats ace! Good luck with it all.
Xx

 

[hopefulVRmum]

Wow that's brilliant!!! So happy for you! Not long to wait! Hope all goes well! Keep us in the loop.

My hubby is 6 days post op now and recovering really well. The swelling has reduced massively and he has no pain now . Cd1 one for me so we will be trying on about 3 weeks! (I have a longish cycle) xx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

I'm so sorry I have forgotten what I have read ladies!!

Vicki what amazing photos!!! So amazing to see, we have one booked for 27 weeks have never done it before and can't wait!!!

Rach holiday sounds fab glad you enjoyed it, hope you are feeling ready to start cycle so excited for you xx

As for contraception I don't think we will give it much thought, the antibodies made pregnancy very unlikely so I don't think it's likely to happen again and it it did well then wow what a blessing that would be. We will probably just use withdrawal method until we approach a time where baby is maybe 18 months old and then let nature do the talking! But I will never "try" for another baby after this, couldn't do it again.

Xx

 

[hopefulVRmum]

I don't blame you Elmo but it happened this time so it definitely could xxxz

 

[rachy28]

We went to Marmaris and had a fantastic time. We packed so much into that week away that im in such a daze that it even happened. It was definitely needed.

I cant say my heads in this transfer but im just plodding along with it all despite us knowing our chances are slim. But who knows, even ugly embryos can make the most beautiful babies.

Mum2liam, you can find a clinic and call them directly with regards to the vr, as a private patient, you choose where and who will perform the surgery. I simply rang our spire hospital and booked a consultation with our desired specialist, dh had his op just a few weeks later. No need for a referal anywhere in uk 🖒

hopefulvrmum, will you wait that long before
I struggled to make it past 11 days post surgery

xx

 

[hopefulVRmum]

Sounds like you had a great time Rachy. Marmarais is somewhere I've never been but I've heard it's fab for families.

Fingers crossed for you. I can't pretend to know much about this stuff at all. I read your siggy and couldn't make head not tail haha. Is it IVF you are having? I have a friend who had IVF twice and it worked both times. They had tried for years and years he has a very low sperm count and she had fertility issues too. The first time she had a beautiful baby girl and the second time they got twinnies .

Not sure how longer will manage tbh ha.....My fertile period is from the 12th July so I'd quite like him to 'clear' a few times before then. The Dr actually put 24 days on the forms he gave him but that's not gonna happen . I think as soon as he is all back to normal and the swelling has gone and the stitches he will be good to go. xx

 

[live_in_hope]

Hey ladies :wave: xxx

Poorly mumma here been throwing up since 4am yesterday and between intervals of throwing up, i slept alllll day.... Now Im out the other side, achy from wretching and still very weak....god....talk about coming from nowhere.....thankfully baby was so active yeaterday, poor girl, couldn't have been nice for her

xxx

Glad you had a fab hol Rachy, sounds like a lot of fun! just what the Dr ordered I bet! Xxx I know you arent feeling that hopeful about the transfer, but like you said, it is possible and theres no reason why it couldnt be possible for you to get your beautiful baby from your emby xxx

Mum2liam, Rachys right...research where you want your hubby to have theVR and contact them directly. The Dr doesnt even have to know, until you tick the box that the hosp can obtain/share hubbys medical records etc with them. It reall yhas nothing to do with the GP

Elmo, Im with you totally on the ttc after these ones. I just couldnt do it...it took everything I had this time and yer, if it happens, itl be an amazing blessing but I really doubt it, woth him expected to scar quicker this time, if not already... either way, i have two beautiful girlies and could not be happier xxx

30 weeks today xxx

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Hi ladies!
Sorry I haven't checked in since my last post, the family and I went on a trip and had a great time Thanks for all the positive posts, and I see there has been a lot of activity since last time!

I'm sorry the one doctor was rude and such a terrible person to treat your hubby that way, I hope you get referred to someone far better than that.

afm we've been ttc each day so far, though I'm starting to wonder if the next round we should try for twice a day rather than once. Though I'm looking for ways to spice it up more so that it doesn't feel like 'work' lol, that's the last thing I'd want ttc to turn into. i hope everyone is having a good day if not, then a far better day.

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

Be wary of over doing it though. I don't know if it's coincidence but we where dtd loads at least once every day during my fertile period from the time that he had the reversal to our bfp, which was 20 months, the one month that we conceived we where both poorly and as a result had only managed to do it every other day for a couple of days. Think we dtd three times that cycle xx

 

[hopefulVRmum]

Yeah I am pretty sure my last two were one hit wonders lol. Well normal service is resumed so time will tell I guess 😃 xxx

 

[VRMDB]

How is everyone doing? I'm starting to get nervous about the op on Monday. I'd like to get H a little gift, but can't think of anything particular.

HopefulVR, how is your husband doing? Has he recovered well?

Rachy, are you all ready for this week? I know i'm new to the group, but I have followed your story and am hoping for the best for you.

 

[mum2liam]

VRMDB good luck for monday, not long to go!

We had a letter this morning for a consultation for july 7th... Arghhh...
I think I've been a little ignorant and not looked at all this properly, ive been reading threads, and people going on about antibodies, and scarring, im confused, can anyone fill me in?

 

[hopefulVRmum]

How is everyone doing? I'm starting to get nervous about the op on Monday. I'd like to get H a little gift, but can't think of anything particular.

HopefulVR, how is your husband doing? Has he recovered well?

Rachy, are you all ready for this week? I know i'm new to the group, but I have followed your story and am hoping for the best for you.

He's going great thanks. 15 days post VR now. Stitches and swelling gone so we are ready to go.

I've just been diagnosed with PCOS and put on metformin so hopefully that will help.

Good luck for Monday let us know how it goes hun. Fingers crossed for you!! xxxx

 

[live_in_hope]

hiya :wave:

Ooh good luck VRMDB hows he feeling?

Mum2liam Yes, those things can be problematic but neither are a dead cert. A certain amount of antibodies is normal, apparently 45/50% is normal, my hubby had 65% after his 2nd vr but ive known people which much more and more even 100% get their bfps. elmo is a success story on here for that! scarring can also occur, my hubby being one....but... After his vasectomy and before his 1st vr, he had an op so already had scar tissue there. But it was 4.5 yrs after vr that we knew he had scarred. My last bfp was 2yrs before that (i had a mc) so we had at least 2.5yrs of open tubes but could have been up to 4.5yrs. Now he had a 2nd vr, that window could be alot less. I wasnt aware of either before the 1st vr and i must say, it was a lot easier not knowing. Guess they are things out of anybodies control, like with any operation, there are always likely to be side effects of some sort xx

 

[cuddlebugluv]

VRMDB : I hope everything goes well tomorrow! Remember to bring something for you to snack on, I'm not sure how long it will take your DH, but mine was in for 4 hours and I hadn't eaten anything and became light headed.

 

[cuddlebugluv]

VRMDB good luck for monday, not long to go!

We had a letter this morning for a consultation for july 7th... Arghhh...
I think I've been a little ignorant and not looked at all this properly, ive been reading threads, and people going on about antibodies, and scarring, i'm confused, can anyone fill me in?

Antibodies are a possibility, however our Doctor claims they don't hinder being able to get pregnant but a low sperm count can. After all is done and he goes in to give his analysis make sure they get a count and give you the full details of that sample. Unfortunately the place my husband had his sample sent to did not give him ANY information other than " Oh yes, Sperm is there." and that was it. Quite frustrating and lazy on their part if you ask me. :/

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Hi ladies,
I'm currently waiting for af to show. It's due the 5th and I'm pretending it will be arriving to counteract all the fretting I tend to hoping it doesn't. A little reverse psychology perhaps Granted this is our third time trying, so I'm not alarmed too much yet but still always hopeful. I hope everything is going well for everyone!

 

[rachy28]

antibodies do reduce chances of pregnancy but it depends on which type and titre is present.
My dh has 100% igg which basically causes them to stick together, a semen analysis will show this as agglutination. He also has 80% iga which prevents fertilisation and binding. We have gotten pregnant naturally but it took us a long time and it ended in early loss.

Transfer day is Wednesday!
We travel down to London tomorrow.
Fingers crossed our snowbaby thaws well and decides to burrow in for the long haul xx

 

[ElmoBumpToBe]

VRMDB - I hope all went well!!!?

Liv are you feeling better Hun!?

Liam's mummy I won't go over what others have said, unfortunatly antibodies most Deffo do affect chances of conceiving despite what some
Doctors insist however I am proof that it doesn't make it impossible! Just takes a lot of time

Rachy!!! Wow transfer day tomorrow, I will be thinking about you all day! Please let us know how it goes xx

All my other vasectomy reversal ladies I hope you are all well and enjoying ttc xx