The WTT Graduate Thread...

[CakeCottage]

I saw that this morning Omi, I've already bought a couple of preloved ones hehe xx

 

[OmiOmen]

Aww, I am sorry. That is the worst timing it could possible be too.

 

[CakeCottage]

Tell me about it, I think I'll do this month with the fertility monitor then take a break... I've had enough x

 

[OmiOmen]

I am so sorry it has reached that point. I had to take a year or two off after my MC's due to fear of another one. It's really not nice getting into that position. I really hope the fertility monitor helps this month and you get a BFP.

 

[CakeCottage]

Thanks hun, it's so emotionally draining isn't it x

 

[OmiOmen]

I can't imagine how draining it must feel each month. I do really hope there are 2 BFP's on this thread by the end of the month.

 

[CakeCottage]

I'd like to say I hope so but I'm feeling pretty hopeless at the mo xx

 

[CakeCottage]

Treated myself to Irwin and Maathai and both of the new TB laundry detergents x

 

[OmiOmen]

You are heading for a really amazing nappy stash!

I want to say don't lose hope but I know that advice probably isn't going to help and is easier said than done. I really am hoping the CBFM helps this month.

 

[CakeCottage]

Thanks hun... I know it's going to happen and I will have a LO one day, it's just taking too long and I'm not very patient ha!

I know they're ltd edition and I want all of the geniuses x

 

[sarahfh]

So, I may have a slight problem....

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/30bb03cd130692b7c54e4595cf33def6_zps1b1720d3.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/24a816e8e3dfdec63c317195e0db53ec_zpsad97009a.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/8f9cac372caca1e49413808be0879107_zpsa9de6c93.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/a6dd3c95b702e17069a8e9fb22e736da_zpsc2b3a4ef.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/ca21eade719f02b8bfd4fbdb0e982598_zps3cdf7df0.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/aeae511293d22e21411a9e0bbf2e530f_zpsb68a774a.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/4d859e041987cf4cc3406236b0af3de3_zpsc7298dd0.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/8fac165d8f5851f159b42a8a25340964_zps41e3f17e.jpg

https://i1301.photobucket.com/albums/ag104/sarahghost/b4c8b27d13022324e803ab75b68bf919_zpsfdb4a6d9.jpg

So, the first one is everything in the box I had to upgrade to, then the photos up to the nappies are what I already had, then under the nappies is what I got today! Lots of 0-3 and some 3-6 bits too. All for £15!

Now my ovaries ache....

AF is due in a couple of days and I have AWFUL heartburn/reflux. It's killing me I swear.

 

[OmiOmen]

That is a really great deal! It all looks so cute too! I really love the sleep suits in the right of the second photo, elephants on them I think?

Sorry your not feeling good though. Do you take anything for the heartburn? I have some gross looking and tasting stuff that helps more often than not with it.

 

[sarahfh]

They are bears and the bottom one has stars on too. Safe to say I have an addiction!

I take rennie on a night before bed when it's bad but the last few days its just been constant as soon as I eat anything

 

[CakeCottage]

Oh Sarah, fab little stash you have going on hun... I'm totally going to have to show you my clothes stash one of these days! You've already seen my other nursery, nappies and bottle/breastfeeding stash hehe... I deffo have a problem

 

[sarahfh]

I feel a bit weird moaning on here as its technically a TTC board/thread but I don't feel all that comfortable on the WTT board for a lot of things these days. Not too sure why, I think it's just that there are so many new people, there are so few of us left still waiting from when I joined. So I'm going to camp out here with you guys for this moan!

Today I went with my step-dad to look at cars as he wants a new one, his is on it's last legs and he got some money back from an investment. I have been debating for a good year changing my car by this time next year, but I'm so back and forth on what to do. I have a 3 door Corsa, which is hardly ideal for children, an infant seat only just fits with my passenger seat as far forward as it will go. Since finding out about ERF I'm not sure I could justify to myself going with forward facing and I'm not sure an ERF seat will fit well in my car. Ideally I would get a new shape Ford Fiesta, it's the right size for what I need and I like Ford.

The thing is, it will mean even longer on a finance plan and along with saving for the house deposit I'm not sure that's something I want to get into. But I get the feeling a 3 door is going to quickly become a problem for me with ERF.

This month we cut it close to ovulation and I can't help but wish for a surprise even though I KNOW it's not the time. I just, I don't know. Is there ever going to be a good time? Yes we need to save money up and I need to be at my job like 6 months to get maternity pay but we could have enough money for baby things this time next year if we were good. I want to get the house bought first but I'm not sure I can wait the 4-5 years it will take us to get there.

I just don't know what to do. I don't want to go back on birth control, I hate what it does to my body. But I hate the months like this where I wonder what if.

I've already waited 18 months, I'm struggling with it enough now, so what will it be like in another 4 years?

I know I should be grateful for what I have, a wonderful OH, a lovely house, a new job etc. but I just can't help dwell on the things I don't have. I just want to be a homeowner, a wife and a mother. I know we will get there in time, but I'm not sure how I can keep myself occupied and sane in the meantime.

Earlier on I was just chilling on the sofa and all I could think of was how lovely it would be to be snuggled up with a little baby sleeping on my chest.

Okay, essay over! Feel free to tell me to stop moaning and man up, I know I'm being hormonal (12dpo is evil) and whiney!

 

[OmiOmen]

I wouldn't worry too much abut coming in here, I do too.

I don't think there is ever a 100% perfect time and the best thing to do is prioritise the order you want to do things. But only you and your OH can really know what order is right for you.

Timing is a hard thing. I think back to when I had my MC's and if I had not had them we would have managed but by the time we had DS1 things were just a lot easier in terms of finances and where we were living and I guess that made things less stressful and more enjoyable. But I also get that feeling of impatience, I know WTT for a second isn't the same as a first but I had it this time and honestly when you really want something you are wiling to put that extra work in. What I am saying is that it is a tough decision you have and I don't envy you having to make these choices. What does your OH think about the timing of it all?

 

[sarahfh]

OH is a bit on the fence really. He would love a child tomorrow but wants us to get into a position where we can give a child more than the bare minimum. We both want to have a mortgage and in the house we are in now that is a realistic goal for us if OH stops spending money on his car and gets on with saving too. Once I have this new job I can afford to save towards the house deposit and still put money aside for a holiday then start my baby fund after holiday. We could save up in 3 years if we really knuckled down.

I would like to be married when we have a baby, but I don't want a big wedding, just a small ceremony and no real evening do as such. Also, and I hate to say it, I'm not too worried about paying for that because I know my dad has some money saved up for that purpose and I know when we get engaged he will put a bit more in as when he was unemployed he used a bit to help tide things over (I don't mind).

I just don't know what to do about the car really. I get the feeling a 3 door will be fine to start with but would soon become difficult. The only other thing I can think of is if I pay mine off and keep it then when OH is eligible to swap his on his plan he could get a standard 1.6/2.0 engine Focus. I could use that during the day and he use my Corsa to go to work. But I've not spoken to him about it and I'm not sure how he would feel paying finance on a car he isn't using. But again, I might be fine with the 3 doors.
I could do with speaking to an ERF mum with a 3 door I think!

The biggest thing is the house, that's our main non negotiable. OH did mention something about his dad giving us some money towards the house but not sure when that would be as he needs to sell his house first.

Eugh.

 

[OmiOmen]

It sounds like you have your list set up and you both know what you want. I guess the car thing might not be as much of an issue as it seems now since a lot of men seem to refuse to change their car and then suddenly when they are expecting a child are willing to swap for something more practical. I am really sorry thee seems to be a long wait ahead though. I'd love to give advice to make the time pass quicker or it seem easier but unfortunately I don't have any to give.

 

[sarahfh]

It's okay, I think at this stage there's not much to do other than save as much as possible. It will have to be my motivation to save and not buy things I don't need lol!

 

[CakeCottage]

I'm venting...
Stupid veins!!! Went for my FSH and FBC blood tests on thurs, they managed to get enough for the FSH but not enough for FBC so I've been back today... Yet again they can't get blood as they can't find my veins... I'm deffo a vampire!!