Things I cannot say out loud....

[15.11.10]

MIL - don't constantly go looking for people to mistake you for LOs mom! And call his pushchair yours, don't flatter yourself!!

 

[xnewxmummyx]

STOP letting Erin sleep for far too long in the day!! Its not you that has to fight her until midnight to sleep! I have to work and so does your son and I know you're doing me a huge favour by having her but JESUS respect our wishes!! I won't tell you again!!!

i have that issue with MIL too!! makes me soooooo angry

 

[peanut56]

FIL - Please ask me before you shove random food in my baby's mouth. Because you're such a douche and know absolutely nothing, you don't know what she can and can't have. Also, you're a douche.

 

[MommyMika]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

 

[msmissa]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

 

[Kalah]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

I hate that one as well!! Actually it wasn't long ago I posted a status on facebook about hating that people automatically think young mom = bad mom. Although I do know one young mom, she's actually the exact age as me, but is having a really hard time accepting that she's a mom and chooses to go out all the time and put all her focus on going to salons/getting her hair & nails done/dieting/working out/tanning and handing her baby off to other people all the time so she can do those things, including sending the baby away for a week at a time to family a few hours away. It's the few young moms like that who make the rest of us look bad. I've known plenty of moms in their 30's who were just awful too but everyone just assumes they're great because they're older.

ETA: And it's so frustrating when people assume since I'm young it must be SO hard and I can't possibly be coping with it at all. Fair enough I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, but that's got nothing to do with Kili, she actually makes me feel a lot better!

 

[Mizze]

To OH-Be patient! She doesn't "hate" you - you just aren't patient enough to calm her down. Give it time, you can do it!

Ditto,

Ditto!

Mizze x

 

[minkymoo]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

I hate that one as well!! Actually it wasn't long ago I posted a status on facebook about hating that people automatically think young mom = bad mom. Although I do know one young mom, she's actually the exact age as me, but is having a really hard time accepting that she's a mom and chooses to go out all the time and put all her focus on going to salons/getting her hair & nails done/dieting/working out/tanning and handing her baby off to other people all the time so she can do those things, including sending the baby away for a week at a time to family a few hours away. It's the few young moms like that who make the rest of us look bad. I've known plenty of moms in their 30's who were just awful too but everyone just assumes they're great because they're older.

ETA: And it's so frustrating when people assume since I'm young it must be SO hard and I can't possibly be coping with it at all. Fair enough I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, but that's got nothing to do with Kili, she actually makes me feel a lot better!

It's just as much hard work when you're in your 30's (or nearer 40 in my case). In fact I dare to say perhaps harder since we're old and tired even under normal circumstances!

 

[Lianne1986]

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

i call my baby beautiful and he's a boy

ETA - altho i say 'who's a boo ti ful boy' in a funny voice to him

 

[Kalah]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

I hate that one as well!! Actually it wasn't long ago I posted a status on facebook about hating that people automatically think young mom = bad mom. Although I do know one young mom, she's actually the exact age as me, but is having a really hard time accepting that she's a mom and chooses to go out all the time and put all her focus on going to salons/getting her hair & nails done/dieting/working out/tanning and handing her baby off to other people all the time so she can do those things, including sending the baby away for a week at a time to family a few hours away. It's the few young moms like that who make the rest of us look bad. I've known plenty of moms in their 30's who were just awful too but everyone just assumes they're great because they're older.

ETA: And it's so frustrating when people assume since I'm young it must be SO hard and I can't possibly be coping with it at all. Fair enough I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, but that's got nothing to do with Kili, she actually makes me feel a lot better!

It's just as much hard work when you're in your 30's (or nearer 40 in my case). In fact I dare to say perhaps harder since we're old and tired even under normal circumstances!

I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

 

[minkymoo]

I think it's because the world is very different these days, for instance in my mum's era the majority of women got married and started families very young because working wasn't the done thing, the man worked and the wife looked after the home etc.

 

[Katt]

My go!

To mil NO I BLOODY HAVEN'T LOST WEIGHT! If ihad lost weight every time I saw you, I would be a frigging beanpole by now! STOP KISSING MY ARSE! andyes I still am breastfeeding, and no she doesn't bite me. It really is not a big deal!

To fil if you want to see your grandchildren, get off your lazy arse and go and see them. Just because you are a man doesn't mean the rest if us have to run around after you. No I will not fill up your drink, no I will not pick up our crap and no, your son is not a pansy for having an equal relationship!

To sil/bil/rest of oh family. Just go away. I don't like you. Full stop.

 

[Kalah]

I think it's because the world is very different these days, for instance in my mum's era the majority of women got married and started families very young because working wasn't the done thing, the man worked and the wife looked after the home etc.

Yes definitely culture has changed a lot! I wrote on another thread a while back that it used to be (hundreds or thousands of years ago) so normal for teenage girls to have babies and they were raised by all the women of the village rather than just the mother. All the women would help with the cooking/cleaning/looking after children/nursing other women's children for those who couldn't/etc... so no one ever had to do it alone. While all the men went out together to hunt/find building materials/make weapons/build houses/etc..
That was just the natural way of life and now we're so far from that it's no wonder life seems so difficult.
Now we've evolved so much that just doesn't happen anymore in normal societies. I think it would be interesting to go back to a time like that just for a little while, to see what it was like.

 

[Mizze]

[I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

Biologically at 38 im a new Mum about 20 years too late!! Go body!!

Mizze xx

 

[minkymoo]

[I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

Biologically at 38 im a new Mum about 20 years too late!! Go body!!

Mizze xx

I just read that quote and thought 'I didn't write that!!'

I'm 37 so not far behind you

 

[Mizze]

[I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

Biologically at 38 im a new Mum about 20 years too late!! Go body!!

Mizze xx

I just read that quote and thought 'I didn't write that!!'

I'm 37 so not far behind you

Yey for us later Mums!

Oops did I get my quotes mixed up!

Its true though - i think late teens is the optimum time (biologically) speaking to have babies - its a society thing that sees it as too young

Of course speaking PURELY personally - id have been a crap Mum at 18 - but then id have been a crap Mum at 28 - some of us take a little longer to mature than others!

Ever since having C I have nothing but MASSIVE respect for younger Mums - seriously do not know how they do it!

Mizze xx

 

[cowboys angel]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

I hate that one as well!! Actually it wasn't long ago I posted a status on facebook about hating that people automatically think young mom = bad mom. Although I do know one young mom, she's actually the exact age as me, but is having a really hard time accepting that she's a mom and chooses to go out all the time and put all her focus on going to salons/getting her hair & nails done/dieting/working out/tanning and handing her baby off to other people all the time so she can do those things, including sending the baby away for a week at a time to family a few hours away. It's the few young moms like that who make the rest of us look bad. I've known plenty of moms in their 30's who were just awful too but everyone just assumes they're great because they're older.

ETA: And it's so frustrating when people assume since I'm young it must be SO hard and I can't possibly be coping with it at all. Fair enough I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, but that's got nothing to do with Kili, she actually makes me feel a lot better!

It's just as much hard work when you're in your 30's (or nearer 40 in my case). In fact I dare to say perhaps harder since we're old and tired even under normal circumstances!

I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

And now that puberty is starting younger and younger (8-10) we're gonna have a whole host of REALLY young moms. Unfortunately their bodies won't be able to handle it.

But I agree. I'm 19, and I can't imagine having started later in life because it's tiring now! If I didn't have so much energy and could pull all nighters :Haha: I couldn't have done this!

 

[ClaireMuir123]

My rant isn't much about my 'baby' as he's now 3 but....

Sister - no my son will not rebel because I refuse him things unless he says thank you and use 'tough love'. Before telling me I'm doing it wrong, take a look at the devil child you are raising right now. Yeah, thought so! And also, if I tell you not to give my son fizzy juice DON'T FUCKIN DO IT! Since when did 'no' mean 'why not?!' And do not laugh at me for the choices I make..............

Grrr................ x

 

[Kalah]

NO I will not put a hat on my baby "even if it's the hottest day in July". He wears a hat when it's cold. Not when it's boiling out. I can handle it. Give it up.

Stop calling my baby 'beautiful'. He's a BOY.

Just because I feed on demand does NOT mean my baby will learn he can demand everything in life. Give me a break. Do you eat when you're hungry? That's what I thought.

No, just because he's crying does not mean he's hungry. There are other optioons

Dear stranger on the Ferry:
Please don't scold me that I "Look too young to have a baby". I'm 24, perfectly capable of taking care of my son, and even if I was a teenager that means nothing, there are plenty of fabulous teen moms !!

Definitely agree. i get this all the time, too. So frustrating since I'm 22 and age doesn't determine your ability to be a good mother

I hate that one as well!! Actually it wasn't long ago I posted a status on facebook about hating that people automatically think young mom = bad mom. Although I do know one young mom, she's actually the exact age as me, but is having a really hard time accepting that she's a mom and chooses to go out all the time and put all her focus on going to salons/getting her hair & nails done/dieting/working out/tanning and handing her baby off to other people all the time so she can do those things, including sending the baby away for a week at a time to family a few hours away. It's the few young moms like that who make the rest of us look bad. I've known plenty of moms in their 30's who were just awful too but everyone just assumes they're great because they're older.

ETA: And it's so frustrating when people assume since I'm young it must be SO hard and I can't possibly be coping with it at all. Fair enough I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, but that's got nothing to do with Kili, she actually makes me feel a lot better!

It's just as much hard work when you're in your 30's (or nearer 40 in my case). In fact I dare to say perhaps harder since we're old and tired even under normal circumstances!

I was actually thinking that to but didn't want to say it in case it was taken the wrong way
I already have half the energy I did 10 years ago so I can't imagine how I'll be 10 years from now! It seems like a woman's body is just designed to have children in their 20's really (absolutely nothing wrong with having them older of course) so it always baffles me why some people think it's wrong Although it does tend to be more economically difficult to have children young in today's society, but I'm sure thousands of years ago it was completely normal to have babies in your teenage years, otherwise why would puberty start so early!

And now that puberty is starting younger and younger (8-10) we're gonna have a whole host of REALLY young moms. Unfortunately their bodies won't be able to handle it.

But I agree. I'm 19, and I can't imagine having started later in life because it's tiring now! If I didn't have so much energy and could pull all nighters :Haha: I couldn't have done this!

Yeah that would be scary have a kid REALLY young! I think you have at be at least 15 for your body to be physically ready to actually grow/give birth to a baby. Years ago I heard a story of a 13 year old girl who was pregnant and due to have the baby just after she turned 14 and the doctors were really really worried about her because her body wasn't physically matured enough yet they weren't sure she'd be able to survive the birth. I don't know what ever happened to her though, wish I could remember her name to find the story!

 

[Cupkake.Luver]

To my MIL:

Stop telling me the baby NEEDS to sleep with us in the bed. I don't WANT to do that. You did that and your son slept with you till he was 14. Sorry, not happening here.

To my Mom:

STOP SAYING MY BABY!!! HE'S NOT YOURS! YOUR DRIVING ME INSANE!!!

Also, if I'm not ready to bring him to your house yet, then leave me be. I'll bring him when I'm ready. Geez.

To my FIL:

Stop calling him Junior. I gave him a name, which is Xavier. Please use it.

Kthx.