Things I cannot say out loud....

[ClaireMuir123]

Elephant, the exact same happened to me with people I thought were true, honest friends! Now I only have maybe 2 or 3 left. Either tell them how they've made you feel or move on and find some new friends You'll feel much better for it xxxx

 

[Lettuce]

Agree on some new mates, go for it. I felt dead left out when I was pregnant, from my school mates but my works mates have mostly been pregnant recently so they were great, but I missed my best mate!
However she's been great since Jenny was born, it was her birthday yesterday, and instead of a boost night out she arranged for an early dinner in the pub, that's family friendly so I could go! can't they do that? Or would you be able to suggest it? Xx

 

[elephant29]

Agree on some new mates, go for it. I felt dead left out when I was pregnant, from my school mates but my works mates have mostly been pregnant recently so they were great, but I missed my best mate!
However she's been great since Jenny was born, it was her birthday yesterday, and instead of a boost night out she arranged for an early dinner in the pub, that's family friendly so I could go! can't they do that? Or would you be able to suggest it? Xx

Last year when I was pregnant with Aria we all went to a festival for the weekend. I was 7 months pregnant so everyone promised it would be a nice relaxed weekend and they'd not leave me out. Well not one day or night did anyone not drink, OH included. I was so lonely and bored! No one suggested anything that might be nice for me to do!

This time we have the Tall ships in our town so OH got invited down last night as they were all there and thats when the comment was made about witching his phone off. They just didnt think that maybe I would like to come down and OH could watch LO. I didnt even get invited!

I have my best friend in England, my other best friend works constantly so we meet maybe once a month for dinner and my other close friend works all the time and has a 6 year old. I have a good friend who's LO is 1 week older than mine. We spend our mat leave together but with both of us working now its hard to get together. Also she wont leave her LO with her OH so night time is not an option to meet up.

Sorry I'm pure woe is me today haha.

xxx

 

[cowboys angel]

Sounds like you need a woe is me day. I'd definitely hang out with you...if it weren't for the ocean....

 

[Lettuce]

It's ok to have a woe is me day! You near Glasgow then? I wanted to see the tall ships too, but not really well enough yet.
I think this is something you should say out loud, that you are unhappy! Or get your oh to say it for you. If they are your friends they should involve you! In fact your oh should be saying he wants you to come! xx

 

[krwh]

i totally agree with all of this. i dont like it when people say oh, go on, let him do/have "x". it's my child. leave me alone. you may have well intentioned ideas but no, i dont want to let him eat sweets right now, i'd rather he developed a taste for bananas, not icing or sweets so dont just put things in his mouth (and no, im not militant, i have nothing against sweets or crisps per say, it was a just special occasion treat for me growing up and i want my son to be the same way), no, all his food doesn't need to be pureed (agree with the original poster there...a lady, a friend of my sister in law's, who i didnt know tried to take apple out of his mouth, THAT MY SISTER IN LAW CUT UP FOR HIM TO EAT, that he was chewing because she thought he was choking on it. he's not going to die, lady, i promise, i understand why you did it, but your well intentioned act scared me and freaked me out, because i dont know you, even if you were trying to help), and to the people who have tried to tell me to let oliver cry it out... he wont. he just gets even more upset. im still learning, and it may be my first time, but that doesnt mean im stupid. and, if i want advice, ill ask for it. whew, i feel better now.

i felt the same way about having a child though sometimes...sometimes people you thought were friends treat you like youre "different" and they just dont understand.

 

[elephant29]

Sounds like you need a woe is me day. I'd definitely hang out with you...if it weren't for the ocean....

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Thank you!! Dam oceon, haha.

Xx

 

[elephant29]

It's ok to have a woe is me day! You near Glasgow then? I wanted to see the tall ships too, but not really well enough yet.
I think this is something you should say out loud, that you are unhappy! Or get your oh to say it for you. If they are your friends they should involve you! In fact your oh should be saying he wants you to come! xx

Yep I'm in greenock for my sins!

Spoke to oh last night and he felt really bad about it all. He was asked to go out again last night but said no and stayed with me instead.

Aw hope u start feeling better soon. U didn't miss much with tall shops, far to busy!

Xxx

 

[patch2006uk]

To my nan-

There may well have been a report saying salt is good for you, but Isaac can still only have 1g a day.

He's been having solids for 2 weeks, and is just mastering soft cooked veg and fruit. He does not want or need a biscuit. No, not even a plain biscuit.

I love my nan, I really do. But gah!

 

[Lettuce]

To mil, stop saying my daughter will be on mince and tatties by next week. She is big, I know, can't you just say "well, you're feeding her well!" or something?

 

[pinklightbulb]

OH: STOP CRITICIZING MY F***ING MOTHERING!!! You're right, you AREN'T there all day so what gives you the right to 'point the finger' as you put it since apparently asking gets you 'nowhere' if something has gone wrong with LO (we've had lots of problems with LO being constipated recently. We took him to A&E again today and were told it is most likely behavioural, NOT anything I have done or not done... thank you OH!!! He's been going off at me about it thinking it MUST be something I'm doing )
And thanks for the apology too, not!!!!
GRRRR!!!! Need hugs

 

[shambaby]

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[secretbaby]

Such a brilliant thread - haven't read all of it yet but have to dash - but wanted to add mine before i forget - to my mum;-

1. The cat is NOT the enemy - he is scared stiff of Charlie, and avoids her like the plague - he will not scratch her or smother her ... she is more likely to do damage to him. You have told me enough times over the last 11 years you hate the cat, but hey get the message 11 years - he is here to stay, we love him and he lives with us not you.

2. I have three buggys GET OVER IT - I spent less on the two I bought (hum cause you paid for the urban I bought of ebay) than most people spend on a car seat. The Zia was a luxury but it makes my life so much easier that It was worth every penny.

3. You do not need to constantly send me clippings from the daily mail. Much as I know you are caring for our health it drives me insane.

4. You CONSTANTLY moaned at my OH when he was overweight - now he has lost 7 stone and has a within range BMI you moan that he is too thin - he can't win.

5. LO does NOT need water - don't care what babies in your day needed, I know you were a nursery nurse but things change!

6. If you utter the phrase 'I find that hard to belive' one more time I will not be responsible for my actions.

I should put I love my mum dearly and know the above is all out of concern but it drive me round the bend.

7 - to my friend STOP STOP STOP sticking your dirty fingers in LO mouth - you work in a hospital and should know better.

 

[pinklightbulb]

pinklightbulb

Thanks hun I seriously needed that. OH can be so awful about my mothering sometimes. I know he knows he's being an ass, because he admits it! But even when he's proven wrong about whatever he's 'not happy' about over whatever he thinks I've done, I get no apology. It seriously sucks

 

[whoops]

To my father:

Lily eating is not a spectator sport. Stop standing there watching while I'm feeding her. You're distracting her and you're pissing me off.

 

[shambaby]

it really does suck. have you spoken to him about how he makes you feel? i feel really blessed to have my hubby - don't get me wrong he has his faults, but he would never question how i care for hayden, as he realises it is me who is there with him all day, so i know him best and will always act in his best interests. now if he could just stop giving him his dummy every time he murmurs, and get over the idea that he will drown him if he tries to bath him . . . .

 

[pinklightbulb]

Yeah, I tell him all the time But he doesn't listen, or he does and says he'll stop but then he doesn't. He's very particular about LO and if he thinks I've done something that isn't up to his standards or is the 'wrong' thing I know about it. Like this time when he thought LO being backed up was because I didn't feed him properly or give him enough fluids. He gets 3 FFs a day still, water, yogurt, fruit, cereal for breakfast and usually jar food for tea because he still only has 2 teeth-- mostly an effing liquid diet and certainly enough food, but it was still magically somehow MY fault this keeps happening.
FFS!!!!! AHHHHHH!!! OK I feel a bit better after that virtual yell lol. But yeah. It sucks.

 

[Lettuce]

To the evil *******s who broke into my car this morning : thanks for that you total cocks. You stole a sat nav worth 40quid, now I have to pay lots more to have a window fixed. And I have to try and sort this out while my newborn baby is having a cluster feed. Im relaying on my car just now, with my DH driving as I recover from a traumatic birth. You truly are scum of the earth, may you always have an sneeze you can't get out! (I hate that feeling)
Just away to cry now... x

 

[hmcx]

To the evil *******s who broke into my car this morning : thanks for that you total cocks. You stole a sat nav worth 40quid, now I have to pay lots more to have a window fixed. And I have to try and sort this out while my newborn baby is having a cluster feed. Im relaying on my car just now, with my DH driving as I recover from a traumatic birth. You truly are scum of the earth, may you always have an sneeze you can't get out! (I hate that feeling)
Just away to cry now... x

 

[pinklightbulb]

Lettuce