Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[mommie2be]

Something that irks me, Elementary schoolers with cell phones. OHs 10 year old brother has an IPHONE! With full internet access & unlimited everything! I got a cell phone when I was in 7th grade because I was a Cheerleader & was going on long bus rides with the whole football team. But an IPHONE with internet for a 10 year old who is already addicted to video games... NO.
*rant over*

 

[ShelbyLC]

I try to keep my house clean but it doesn't always happen. I also live in a small apartment with too much stuff, and my twins keep me busy, and when they're entertained and calm or sleeping, I'm usually pumping. I try to do as much as possible as quickly as possible. The wash is always running and I'm constantly folding clothes during nap time, the dishes get done first thing in the morning because I usually left them out the night before from being SO DONE with the day. And I'll admit - I have a stack of mail on the table, there's a basket of clean clothes waiting to be folded, the TV remote is on the floor and the kitchen counter could use a quick wipe down.

But my babies are happy. I spend quality time in the evenings with my OH after the babies are in bed, even though I could be dusting or organizing the DVD shelf. And, you know what? At the end of the week, everybody is happy, all the chores have been done, every room has been cleaned, and it's okay. My house might not always be spotless, and not every room will be clean at the same time, but it's okay. To me, that's part of being a SAHM. I get things done when I can, but my priority is, and always will be, my family.

 

[Twister]

I have to bite my tongue when mums who have LO's who sleep great and are easygoing put it ALL down to their fantastic parenting. It couldn't possibly have anything to do with their personality, and then imply that the parents who's babies don't sleep well and are higher needs than theirs must be doing something wrong.

Also when people say that routine from day 1 is the answer to all your problems. I don't doubt that some babies thrive off a routine but some don't and just because you don't enforce a routine straight away doesn't mean you're going to end up with a hell child.

 

[ShelbyLC]

Something that irks me, Elementary schoolers with cell phones. OHs 10 year old brother has an IPHONE! With full internet access & unlimited everything! I got a cell phone when I was in 7th grade because I was a Cheerleader & was going on long bus rides with the whole football team. But an IPHONE with internet for a 10 year old who is already addicted to video games... NO.
*rant over*

This!

I got my first cell phone at 13, with limited minutes and texts. My sister, six years younger than me, got her first cell phone six months after I did. I think it's ridiculous for kids to have cell phones. At that age, I personally believe that kids don't NEED a phone of their own, because they should always be near enough to an adult that if they need to call someone, they can use that adult's phone. (I'm referring to my mother's reasoning for my 7 year old sister getting a phone: "She plays outside a lot!" Yeah, in front of her friend's house, where the friend's dad is always watching!)

 

[aliss]

I have to bite my tongue when mums who have LO's who sleep great and are easygoing put it ALL down to their fantastic parenting. It couldn't possibly have anything to do with their personality, and then imply that the parents who's babies don't sleep well and are higher needs than theirs must be doing something wrong.

Also when people say that routine from day 1 is the answer to all your problems. I don't doubt that some babies thrive off a routine but some don't and just because you don't enforce a routine straight away doesn't mean you're going to have the perfect baby.

Oh I hear you, I use my complete opposite babes as a perfect example of why those people are full of shit.

 

[Dragonfly]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

Definitely.
My house is clean, tidy and my baby is happy! She even loves hanging the washing up...

now that is out of order, I have 2 here and preg and its hard to run around after all of them when I have no help at all. Not even family will take the kids for a while for me. Plus I have a disability which makes it harder. so on up manship I find it hard to bite tongue at. I do wish I was supermum and got rid of kids every day to clean but they ask for stuff like food. lol

I imagine it would be harder with older toddlers. My DD still sleeps quite a bit during the day, so it's easy to get things done when I'm home.

Mine dont take naps any more. and run about outside needing to be watched.

I'm biting my tongue right now, no wonder people assume "AP" moms are a bunch of snotty assholes. Ugh.

because AP moms can (not always) be snotty assholes?

I didn't set out to do AP because I read about it or thought it would make me better....I did it because it's what I felt I wanted to do. Cuddling, babywearing, attempted BF, etc.

I do use a stroller when I need to since I also have 14 month old niece most of the time. It's like having twins basically during the day. My LO loves her smartrike. She's walking so now I let her have time to just walk around the house, when she's done we sit and cuddle.

But at heart I think I am an AP mom, juts don't have a need to shove it down everyone's throat

I think this thread just hit a new low , its got way personal. I am an AP mum and know plenty of them and am actually insulted by this. And I wont even stoop to what I really think as I think thats actually breaking the rules so I will keep my mouth shut as usual.

 

[onetwothreebp]

I have to bite my tongue when mums who have LO's who sleep great and are easygoing put it ALL down to their fantastic parenting. It couldn't possibly have anything to do with their personality, and then imply that the parents who's babies don't sleep well and are higher needs than theirs must be doing something wrong.

I firmly believe it is all down to personality - I am a shit parent and my LO is extremely happy, mellow, and easy going. He has STTN for the most part since 3 weeks. I'm pretty sure I have done nothing to contribute to this, lol.

 

[sbl]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

Definitely.
My house is clean, tidy and my baby is happy! She even loves hanging the washing up...

now that is out of order, I have 2 here and preg and its hard to run around after all of them when I have no help at all. Not even family will take the kids for a while for me. Plus I have a disability which makes it harder. so on up manship I find it hard to bite tongue at. I do wish I was supermum and got rid of kids every day to clean but they ask for stuff like food. lol

I imagine it would be harder with older toddlers. My DD still sleeps quite a bit during the day, so it's easy to get things done when I'm home.

Mine dont take naps any more. and run about outside needing to be watched.

I'm biting my tongue right now, no wonder people assume "AP" moms are a bunch of snotty assholes. Ugh.

because AP moms can (not always) be snotty assholes?

I didn't set out to do AP because I read about it or thought it would make me better....I did it because it's what I felt I wanted to do. Cuddling, babywearing, attempted BF, etc.

I do use a stroller when I need to since I also have 14 month old niece most of the time. It's like having twins basically during the day. My LO loves her smartrike. She's walking so now I let her have time to just walk around the house, when she's done we sit and cuddle.

But at heart I think I am an AP mom, juts don't have a need to shove it down everyone's throat

I think this thread just hit a new low , its got way personal. I am an AP mum and know plenty of them and am actually insulted by this. And I wont even stoop to what I really think as I think thats actually breaking the rules so I will keep my mouth shut as usual.

I don't think this is directed at anyone so it's not meant to be personal.

I'm sure nearly everyone has read something they disagree with? Or am I wrong?

 

[socitycourty]

as for threads hitting lows, i've seen way worse than this and more.

we didn't say all AP moms are like this. just some. i'm pretty sure i'm not alone in feeling that way

 

[onetwothreebp]

If you separated mothers into groups based on their parenting styles, you would find snotty assholes in each group.

 

[Dragonfly]

If you separated mothers into groups based on their parenting styles, you would find snotty assholes in each group.

True and I met plenty of them.

 

[sevenofnine]

I loved reading through this! It helps reminding that there are sooo many different ways to do things, and one isn't necessarily better than the other (even if you believe it to be )!

Of course there are things I wouldn't do (or have done), but I love that we all have the choice to make for ourselves. It makes everything so much more interesting!

 

[LisaL79]

I bite my tongue, so to speak, every time I come here.

 

[robinator]

Cell phones didn't exist when I was a kid. GUESS WHAT? My parents always knew how to get in touch with me (gasp!)

*checks asshole, no snot*

 

[Wobbles]

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Antisocial, discriminatory or offensive messages (intended or otherwise) aimed at the community at large, certain demographics (including parenting styles) or specific members, are not permitted.

 

[robinator]

Not so much tongue biting as just plain annoying: when someone's immediate reaction to a problem someone has with their cat is to rehome it. I love my kitty; he's a devil at times but he's my baby!

 

[CeeDee]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

That was a tip from Dr Sears at his seminar a few months ago 'don't say no to your children'
For example - if they touch something they're not meant to, say 'ah ah, not for Isla'
Otherwise they learn to use NO for everything. It wasn't about letting them do what they want but rather using different phrases instead of one word

I learn something new everyday. I didn't know that saying "no" was a bad thing. I'm definitely going to stop saying it.

 

[robinator]

No, don't!

 

[socitycourty]

I don't understand how it's not ok to complain about AP parenting but the AP parents can say that CIO is abuse?

I just don't understand how at times the forum seems to cater to certain groups

 

[socitycourty]

i agree with the cat thing. something like 10,000 pets are euthanized every day in the USA