Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[JoHio]

Two things:

Sleep training very young babies, a common practice in my mom's group (8 weeks+)

The claim that babies need to "learn to be independent" and shouldn't be held too much. I hear this from moms and child free folks. In a similar vein, the assertion that cries "for attention" shouldn't be responded to. Okay, judgey moment... Please don't shoot me.... Then these moms wonder why my kid is so affectionate and ask how they can get their 11 month old to cuddle more

Amen sister. A-freakin-men. I have two of the snuggliest, sweetest, and most well-mannered babies and that's best that's how I am with them. Not everyone (ask my hubby - hahaha!) but with them.

 

[sequeena]

I should have told the old man on the bus about this thread. He told my son 'you're too old for your dummy take it out' but soon apologised when I told him he was only 1 and if he wants it he can have it!!!

There's a lot of things that make me roll my eyes but I've never seen anything truly dangerous, then I'd interject.

 

[Dragonfly]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

Definitely.
My house is clean, tidy and my baby is happy! She even loves hanging the washing up...

now that is out of order, I have 2 here and preg and its hard to run around after all of them when I have no help at all. Not even family will take the kids for a while for me. Plus I have a disability which makes it harder. so on up manship I find it hard to bite tongue at. I do wish I was supermum and got rid of kids every day to clean but they ask for stuff like food. lol

 

[CeeDee]

I have to bite my tongue when people complain about the baby’s father being a bipolar, deadbeat sociopath, but they are the ones who had sex them. I wish I could ask them why did you have sex with a bipolar sociopath?

 

[Noelle610]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

Definitely.
My house is clean, tidy and my baby is happy! She even loves hanging the washing up...

now that is out of order, I have 2 here and preg and its hard to run around after all of them when I have no help at all. Not even family will take the kids for a while for me. Plus I have a disability which makes it harder. so on up manship I find it hard to bite tongue at. I do wish I was supermum and got rid of kids every day to clean but they ask for stuff like food. lol

I imagine it would be harder with older toddlers. My DD still sleeps quite a bit during the day, so it's easy to get things done when I'm home.

 

[aliss]

I have to bite my tongue when people complain about the baby’s father being a bipolar, deadbeat sociopath, but they are the ones who had sex them. I wish I could ask them why did you have sex with a bipolar sociopath?

I'm always wondering why that only matters after he dumps her.

 

[Noelle610]

I have to bite my tongue when people complain about the baby’s father being a bipolar, deadbeat sociopath, but they are the ones who had sex them. I wish I could ask them why did you have sex with a bipolar sociopath?

I'm always wondering why that only matters after he dumps her.

Like my mom (and I think Oprah ) always says... "When people show you who they are, believe them"

 

[aliss]

I'm biting my tongue right now, no wonder people assume "AP" moms are a bunch of snotty assholes. Ugh.

 

[Twister]

I had to bite my tongue today when the hv said to try not to feed her every time she wakes in the night because she'll expect it all the time. Easy for her to say but she's not the one getting up multiple times in the night! I can barely keep my eyes open when she wakes as it is! I don't have the patience to be faffing around trying to shh/pat her in the middle of the night. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it lol.

 

[Randianne]

I think there's a lot of tongue biting going on regarding this thread. Baby club is playing very nice today!

 

[socitycourty]

because AP moms can (not always) be snotty assholes?

I didn't set out to do AP because I read about it or thought it would make me better....I did it because it's what I felt I wanted to do. Cuddling, babywearing, attempted BF, etc.

I do use a stroller when I need to since I also have 14 month old niece most of the time. It's like having twins basically during the day. My LO loves her smartrike. She's walking so now I let her have time to just walk around the house, when she's done we sit and cuddle.

But at heart I think I am an AP mom, juts don't have a need to shove it down everyone's throat

 

[socitycourty]

we even bedshared in the hospital

 

[aliss]

because AP moms can (not always) be snotty assholes?

Absolutely!!!

I never cared for "AP" methods before pregnancy, a high needs baby taught me that it was the only way to survive. Now I just do it because... it works for us

But one thing I have learned, having one horribly high needs difficult colicky baby and having one easygoing one, is that people who have only had an easygoing baby can really take it for granted (not saying all do, of course not all do, but some people can get a little high and mighty without realizing that they actually have it pretty good)

 

[cococobain]

I bite my tongue all the time even when I should speak up. Not so much when it concerns my LO, but otherwise I just keep quiet. While I was pregnant and went in for a routine check up (where they checked BP and urine for infection) the nurse said "Uh... see, I only have a few more of these sticks (the ones that you pee on) and I'd rather save them for someone else, you look fine to me". I should have said "Uh what gives you the authority to decide whether I'm worth checking for infection or not?" but instead I just went "Oh, okay..."

Long story short a week later I was in the hospital at 30 weeks in early labor with a severe kidney infection. When the doctor asked why I didn't get treatment when the infection showed up at my last visit and I told him they never tested me, I felt like such an ass. My LO could have been born there and then because I was too "polite" to speak up

 

[robinator]

I bit my tongue at my former billionaire boss and his charity/lunch date/spa day/workout obsessed wife who had a rotation of 4 nannies, including an overnight one to deal with bad dreams, etc., because they couldn't be bothered for the day to day care of their children. But I had to bite it; I didn't want to get fired.

 

[onetwothreebp]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

THIS! I have 2 friends on facebook who constantly bemoan the state of their house but then justify it by saying they're spending their time with their children. (Yet they still manage to watch loads of TV everyday??)

 

[Noelle610]

I don't bite my tongue about this, but this drives me bonkers:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpBTr4mxfhA

I don't begrudge anyone having money or privledge... Hell, I wish I had both! BUT... Please don't tell me how "hard" it is to be a working mom when you're A BILLIONAIRE who likely has multiple nannies, a housekeper, a personal chef, a chauffer, etc. It lacks sincerity, Jessica Alba.

 

[socitycourty]

yeah, i don't understnad why have kids if you don't want to do the majority of their care and not just the fun things. who wouldn't love to outsource poopy diapers? but you can't

 

[onetwothreebp]

Jessica Alba irks me.

 

[Noelle610]

Jessica Alba irks me.

ME TOO. It's serious, so I have to put it in caps.