Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[randomrach]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

I have a hoover-phobic, clingy and generally more high needs baby but I still try to hoover daily (if not every other day) she cries every time but it's just one of those things. You have to make up for it with big hugs afterwards lol. If anything she gets extra attention for getting upset.

 

[robinator]

Lol, I only vacuum once a week; I could not imagine doing it daily. Although, each day has it's own set of chores....

Also, once my LO hit about 13 months, all fear of the vacuum went away and now she tries to climb on it as I vacuum....

 

[Unexpected212]

Yeah I agree that there is always time to clean. Even when LO would only sleep on me I'd find time to run the hoover round.

Mostly in the week I have like one big cleaning day where I do the hoovering, and deep clean, then the rest of the week is spent keeping on top of the washing, washing up, and doing all the 'surface' jobs and another hoover if it gets mucky.

But then again I guess everyone standards of 'clean' are different. I don't mind how others keep their houses as long as it's not like a bio hazard.

 

[randomrach]

The main reason I do it most days is that we have a long haired cat and he gets fluff everywhere and baby puts everything on the floor in her mouth

She is getting better with it now - she cries rather than screams but is quiet if there's someone around to cuddle while I do it.

 

[Emerald87]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

My house is a little messy not dirty but a bit disordered. My defense is that I have too much stuff in a small apartment. We're building a big place

All playdates have been at my house, or at a park/softplay. I still have not been invited to her house and she's been very straightforward that it is a disaster zone. Fine by me, but at least admit it's a mess because you don't feel like breaking out the vacuum lol

Hehe. I vacuumed today LO was sitting on the lounge and had her feet vacuumed at the same time

I will host many a play-date at the new place and I can't wait! I will have a nice, big, shiny place that I'm proud of. I'm honestly ashamed of this place due to the fact we have a whole lot of baby toys (jumperoo, swing etc.) in a small living area and the hallway is so small two people can't fit past each other at once Our spare room/nursery is our storage area.

It's definitely not a lack of trying to clean though! My shower and toilets get scrubbed, the dishwasher goes one or twice a day, most clothes washing is done and sheets are changed.

I will admit I'm a bit lazy with folding and I iron as I go

 

[babydust1990]

I'll admit I don't iron That's probably why I have so much extra time to clean

 

[robinator]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

My house is a little messy not dirty but a bit disordered. My defense is that I have too much stuff in a small apartment. We're building a big place

All playdates have been at my house, or at a park/softplay. I still have not been invited to her house and she's been very straightforward that it is a disaster zone. Fine by me, but at least admit it's a mess because you don't feel like breaking out the vacuum lol

Hehe. I vacuumed today LO was sitting on the lounge and had her feet vacuumed at the same time

I will host many a play-date at the new place and I can't wait! I will have a nice, big, shiny place that I'm proud of. I'm honestly ashamed of this place due to the fact we have a whole lot of baby toys (jumperoo, swing etc.) in a small living area and the hallway is so small two people can't fit past each other at once Our spare room/nursery is our storage area.

It's definitely not a lack of trying to clean though! My shower and toilets get scrubbed, the dishwasher goes one or twice a day, most clothes washing is done and sheets are changed.

I will admit I'm a bit lazy with folding and I iron as I go

Geez, no wonder you don't have a lot of time to clean, what with emptying the dishwasher once or twice a day! We run ours every other day, although I do hand wash a lot of things in between. I should really stop and just let the dishwasher do it's job lol

 

[Emerald87]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

My house is a little messy not dirty but a bit disordered. My defense is that I have too much stuff in a small apartment. We're building a big place

All playdates have been at my house, or at a park/softplay. I still have not been invited to her house and she's been very straightforward that it is a disaster zone. Fine by me, but at least admit it's a mess because you don't feel like breaking out the vacuum lol

Hehe. I vacuumed today LO was sitting on the lounge and had her feet vacuumed at the same time

I will host many a play-date at the new place and I can't wait! I will have a nice, big, shiny place that I'm proud of. I'm honestly ashamed of this place due to the fact we have a whole lot of baby toys (jumperoo, swing etc.) in a small living area and the hallway is so small two people can't fit past each other at once Our spare room/nursery is our storage area.

It's definitely not a lack of trying to clean though! My shower and toilets get scrubbed, the dishwasher goes one or twice a day, most clothes washing is done and sheets are changed.

I will admit I'm a bit lazy with folding and I iron as I go

Geez, no wonder you don't have a lot of time to clean, what with emptying the dishwasher once or twice a day! We run ours every other day, although I do hand wash a lot of things in between. I should really stop and just let the dishwasher do it's job lol

Damn straight - make that dishwasher your bitch! I only wash the junk that doesn't fit in it

Anyways this thread has motivated me, I'm off to scrub the spare bathroom! (yes, a 2 bed small apartment with 2 bathrooms one doubles as a laundry)

 

[robinator]

It's 0550, I've already spent 30 minutes sweeping and mopping the hardwoods and am now relaxing with coffee and bnb, awaiting the waking of baby. (And watching Real Housewives of OC, who I'm sure hire cleaners) Take that, lazy mamas!

 

[Noelle610]

Heres my rant. I can't stand when people judge me for my parenting choices. Sometimes I want to leave here because It makes me feel so bad about myself as a parent.

I think as long as a child is loved, well looked after and cared for the rest doesn't really matter.

I weaned at 4 months and hearing people can't 'stand' people like me really hurt.

I'm not trying to cause an argument or derail the thread. I get the purpose of it. I just cant believe some of it.

So I do wish to keep the peace I just didn't realize how much I probably get judged.

But then again this is a rant thread...so that was my rant!

I will be honest! A lot of the things I have to "bite my tongue" about I've done! Mostly because I wasn't very educated. I really do think the first baby is for practice Seriously though, I think there's truth to the thought that things that irritate us about others are actually what bother us most about ourselves. I've done several things I wouldn't do with the next:

• Introduced solids at 5 months
• Determined to have baby sleep in her own space instead of co-sleeping from day 1
• Tried to have way too much of a "schedule" from early on instead of going with the flow
• Didn't babywear until around 4 months
• Went from breastfeeding to exclusively pumping because I didn't understand that I can help my daughter latch despite jaundice and the early introduction of a bottle

At the end of the day, of course you're right that love is what's most important. There's a lot of abuse and neglect in this world and introducing rice cereal at 4 months is of very little concern in comparisson to what happens to kids every day.

I'm kind of thinking of this thread as a place to vent your judgements without guilt

 

[Twister]

I have to admit, sometimes my house gets a little messy. Not dirty though, it just gets a bit disorganised sometimes. For example at the moment there's a pile of LO's clean clothes on the sofa which need folding and there's a washing basket full of clean clothes upstairs which needs putting away. And the washing up needs doing. I just need a bit more motivation to do some chores

Meh.

 

[robinator]

I have to admit, sometimes my house gets a little messy. Not dirty though, it just gets a bit disorganised sometimes. For example at the moment there's a pile of LO's clean clothes on the sofa which need folding and there's a washing basket full of clean clothes upstairs which needs putting away. And the washing up needs doing. I just need a bit more motivation to do some chores

Meh.

I hate putting laundry away. I wish the clothes would go Mary Poppins and do it themselves.

 

[Twister]

Me too, and I absolutely hate the washing up. If we had room we would so have a dishwasher.

 

[Emerald87]

*ahem* we have a pile of clean clothes - hey but they're clean

ANYHO it's 11pm, the spare bathroom is sparkly and I'm tired. All this judging has exhausted me.
Keep things interesting until the morning!

 

[robinator]

Yes, judging is very exhausting business

 

[Tittie]

I had to bite my tongue when my OH's uncle was making a pot of real coffee and then go on to say I better make B one so he doesn't feel left out (B is his 3.5 year old son who had already had a cup of real [not instant] coffee that morning)

I am pretty relaxed when it comes to parenting choices but it's just common sense that a child that age does not need that much caffeine! It was hard to not say something

 

[Emerald87]

It's 0550, I've already spent 30 minutes sweeping and mopping the hardwoods and am now relaxing with coffee and bnb, awaiting the waking of baby. (And watching Real Housewives of OC, who I'm sure hire cleaners) Take that, lazy mamas!

Yeah, show off I draw the line there. I sleep when baby does

 

[Sapphire83]

We shall, Emerald.

 

[robinator]

It's 0550, I've already spent 30 minutes sweeping and mopping the hardwoods and am now relaxing with coffee and bnb, awaiting the waking of baby. (And watching Real Housewives of OC, who I'm sure hire cleaners) Take that, lazy mamas!

Yeah, show off I draw the line there. I sleep when baby does

layzaaaaaay.....

 

[Sapphire83]

It's 0550, I've already spent 30 minutes sweeping and mopping the hardwoods and am now relaxing with coffee and bnb, awaiting the waking of baby. (And watching Real Housewives of OC, who I'm sure hire cleaners) Take that, lazy mamas!

Yeah, show off I draw the line there. I sleep when baby does

layzaaaaaay.....

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