Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[mommie2be]

YES.
Corey loves bread. We usually have some type of bread with our meals and he eats his food & his bread. When we go to OHs aunts house for dinner, their family friend is always there & this woman has the nerve to tell me that MY son is going to be obese because he eats bread with his dinner!!!

 

[sbl]

Great replies ladies. The girl who gave her baby chocolate at 5 weeks said to me after.."haven't you given her chocolate yet??" Eh no she's only 5 months old why would I??

My other things are....commenting on babies weight be they big or small.
People making stupid remarks when bubs is crying, like mil say's "oh did mummy pinch you?"
People pronouncing my babies name wrong even though I've said it a hundred times and its not that difficult.
And sick relatives/friends visiting baby. Eh no feck off, we don't want you here germy!!

 

[sevenofnine]

I also never seen someone with a child the same name as me Severofnine.

It's a beautiful name!

 

[sevenofnine]

.commenting on babies weight be they big or small.

I get that a lot, people ask if I'm feeding her right since she's so small.

"No, I choose NOT to feed my baby, I like her better this way!"

Although I know they're just joking, so this really doesn't bother me!

 

[Menelly]

Yeah, I don't get it. I babysat for a friend yesterday with another 11 month old and she's a great kid. Her mom is more of the "don't spoil her" perspective. It was really interesting to compare our kids and I can't say for sure if it was personality or how they're parented, but man her kid can SCREAM! My daughter was extremely high needs/fussy, but she doesn't SCREAM like that now that her reflux is controlled. I did woneder for a moment if it was because her mom doesn't necessarily respond to just fussing whereas I immediately tend to my DD. She sure is quiet compared to this kid and she's not "easy" by any meaning of the word!

I think it totally depends on the kid and not the parenting philosophy. Because I'm very attachment parenting and my child can banshee shriek the wallpaper off the walls. (It's killing my ears.) Some babies just love the sound of their own shriek! LOL

 

[AnneD]

And sick relatives/friends visiting baby. Eh no feck off, we don't want you here germy!!

Oh don't start me on this!
"Well she's got to catch it from someone!"
"It's good for her immune system!"
"I get it (rota virus) every year, and I'm fine."

The last one is from MIL, who was mortally offended that I refused to go and visit her when she was in hospital with rota virus when baby was 2 days old. MIL works in school/nursery and is a great spreader of diseases because she will not cancel holidays etc. when she's ill. Her hometown is full of measles and call me paranid, but I am not going down nor am I keen on her coming up. She once visited when I was pregnant and she had shingles, without so much as asking me if I was ok with it. She proudly showed off her sores, too.

 

[Noelle610]

Yeah, I don't get it. I babysat for a friend yesterday with another 11 month old and she's a great kid. Her mom is more of the "don't spoil her" perspective. It was really interesting to compare our kids and I can't say for sure if it was personality or how they're parented, but man her kid can SCREAM! My daughter was extremely high needs/fussy, but she doesn't SCREAM like that now that her reflux is controlled. I did woneder for a moment if it was because her mom doesn't necessarily respond to just fussing whereas I immediately tend to my DD. She sure is quiet compared to this kid and she's not "easy" by any meaning of the word!

I think it totally depends on the kid and not the parenting philosophy. Because I'm very attachment parenting and my child can banshee shriek the wallpaper off the walls. (It's killing my ears.) Some babies just love the sound of their own shriek! LOL

Fair enough! I totally believe some things are nature versus nurture

 

[alaskagrown]

My cousin made a FB post about how excited she was that her pediatrician recommended she start her "big" 2 month old on solids because he's must be so hungry....AGG!!

 

[sbl]

My cousin made a FB post about how excited she was that her pediatrician recommended she start her "big" 2 month old on solids because he's must be so hungry....AGG!!

My nephew was HUGE and still had no solids till 17 weeks just lots of milk. I find that so hard to believe. Laugh it off.

 

[Scrooples]

My friend told me when baby was 4 days old and wouldn't sleep in her Moses basket to put her in, shut the door and leave her to scream. If I didn't I'd have a baby that'd never sleep in her own cot. Oh, and she had a glass of wine every evening so that it didn't bother her so much if the kids were screaming!

 

[girlnboots]

My ex-in-laws are terrible.

They gave a newborn ice cream and chocolate pudding when she was 2-3 weeks old. They also let her play with prescription pain killer bottles as rattles. The baby slept on the couch until she was about 6-7 months old. They had 2 cribs for some reason after, and had her toys and softies in the nice crib, and had the crib she slept in held together with duct tape and a parenting book. After the crib incident, I refused to go back to their house for any reason.

They said all this was ok because they "raised four kids and they knew what they were doing." Both of them are former drug addicts. Their older middle son is in and out of jail for theft and breaking and entering, their younger middle son is an abusive video-game addict with a violent temper, and their daughter had 2 kids by different men by the time she was 19 and constantly ran around with a crowd involved with drugs and alcohol.

Yup. Just who I want to give me parenting advice. Thank god I got out of that one!

 

[Noelle610]

They said all this was ok because they "raised four kids and they knew what they were doing." Both of them are former drug addicts. Their older middle son is in and out of jail for theft and breaking and entering, their younger middle son is an abusive video-game addict with a violent temper, and their daughter had 2 kids by different men by the time she was 19 and constantly ran around with a crowd involved with drugs and alcohol.

Yup. Just who I want to give me parenting advice. Thank god I got out of that one!

I love it when people use this as evidence they qualified to give advice....

 

[Twister]

Ugh I hate when people say that too lol. Oh keeps saying it about his parents because I keep disagreeing with things they suggest, it's not that I don't think they're capable, it's just that things have changed since they raised kids and a lot of the stuff they suggest is outdated. Plus I want to raise LO our way, not someone else's.

My nan asked why LO doesn't sttn and then went on to say "well all of mine slept through from 6 weeks" I find it hard to believe that after 6 weeks non of her 4 kids ever woke up in the night ever again lol.

I have to bite my tongue when people wean super early (as in before 17 weeks) and say that their baby was 'hungry and needed more'. I feel like telling them that a couple of spoonfuls of baby rice is hardly going to make much difference and to just give them more milk.

I also have to hold back when people suggest giving LO junk food. Literally as soon as I uploaded a photo of LO tasting her first solids my nan was asking if she could have chocolate and mil said we should give her rusks and chocolate pudding because oh used to love them (well no wonder he has a sweet tooth).

 

[Noelle610]

My nan asked why LO doesn't sttn and then went on to say "well all of mine slept through from 6 weeks" I find it hard to believe that after 6 weeks non of her 4 kids ever woke up in the night ever again lol.

She probably meant 6 YEARS OLD and forgot because it was so awful LOL. I sincerely think people block it out

 

[susannah14]

Oh man I've got everyone beat.

I met a mom over the weekend. This mom is my good friend's cousin.

-Her 5 year old daughter weighs over 110 pounds due to a terrible diet of candy and junk food.
-The mom lost 200 pounds because of anorexia and bulimia, including while she was pregnant with her 9 month old. The doctors kept telling her she HAD to eat and she didn't listen so she starved herself while pregnant. This is really sad.
-All she gave her 9 month old baby all day while we were with her was one bottle of formula, which she had left out in the sun on the beach all day. Oh and a few pretzels.
-Gives her 9 month old candy to suck on to get him to stop whining.
-Her 9 month old's carseat is forward facing and get this- she doesn't even strap that precious little boy in. SHE DOESN'T BUCKLE IT.
-She wasn't sure who the father of her 5 year old was until she came out and then she was like "Oh it was the black guy".
-We were with her on Saturday. On Sunday she found out she is pregnant again. All I could think is "Oh those poor children."

I kept asking my friend...is there anything physically wrong with the 5 year old to make her so obese? Nope, just terrible diet. Is it lack of education on the mom's part? Nope, she just doesn't care.

I have to think there's something mentally wrong with this woman, and the whole situation is really sad. Those kids...

 

[dawno]

Every time I go to Walmart!

 

[aliss]

-She wasn't sure who the father of her 5 year old was until she came out and then she was like "Oh it was the black guy".

Ohhh..... no girl.

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[sevenofnine]

Oh man I've got everyone beat.

I met a mom over the weekend. This mom is my good friend's cousin.

-Her 5 year old daughter weighs over 110 pounds due to a terrible diet of candy and junk food.
-The mom lost 200 pounds because of anorexia and bulimia, including while she was pregnant with her 9 month old. The doctors kept telling her she HAD to eat and she didn't listen so she starved herself while pregnant. This is really sad.
-All she gave her 9 month old baby all day while we were with her was one bottle of formula, which she had left out in the sun on the beach all day. Oh and a few pretzels.
-Gives her 9 month old candy to suck on to get him to stop whining.
-Her 9 month old's carseat is forward facing and get this- she doesn't even strap that precious little boy in. SHE DOESN'T BUCKLE IT.
-She wasn't sure who the father of her 5 year old was until she came out and then she was like "Oh it was the black guy".
-We were with her on Saturday. On Sunday she found out she is pregnant again. All I could think is "Oh those poor children."

I kept asking my friend...is there anything physically wrong with the 5 year old to make her so obese? Nope, just terrible diet. Is it lack of education on the mom's part? Nope, she just doesn't care.

I have to think there's something mentally wrong with this woman, and the whole situation is really sad. Those kids...

Oh. My. Goodness.

I wish you were making all that up...

 

[babydust1990]

I've just had to hold my tongue when I saw 3 'friends' on fb discussing that how they keep their children in bed at night... One locked the door, the other tied string from their handle to another door handle and the other turned the handle upside down... I felt like putting 'what if there's a fire?!'

 

[susannah14]

Oh man I've got everyone beat.

I met a mom over the weekend. This mom is my good friend's cousin.

-Her 5 year old daughter weighs over 110 pounds due to a terrible diet of candy and junk food.
-The mom lost 200 pounds because of anorexia and bulimia, including while she was pregnant with her 9 month old. The doctors kept telling her she HAD to eat and she didn't listen so she starved herself while pregnant. This is really sad.
-All she gave her 9 month old baby all day while we were with her was one bottle of formula, which she had left out in the sun on the beach all day. Oh and a few pretzels.
-Gives her 9 month old candy to suck on to get him to stop whining.
-Her 9 month old's carseat is forward facing and get this- she doesn't even strap that precious little boy in. SHE DOESN'T BUCKLE IT.
-She wasn't sure who the father of her 5 year old was until she came out and then she was like "Oh it was the black guy".
-We were with her on Saturday. On Sunday she found out she is pregnant again. All I could think is "Oh those poor children."

I kept asking my friend...is there anything physically wrong with the 5 year old to make her so obese? Nope, just terrible diet. Is it lack of education on the mom's part? Nope, she just doesn't care.

I have to think there's something mentally wrong with this woman, and the whole situation is really sad. Those kids...

Oh. My. Goodness.

I wish you were making all that up...

Me too

We were all discussing it at dinner and how they (my friend's family) wish they could say something...but HOW? How do you tell someone else how to parent without it blowing up in your face? At some point it's a danger to the children so you HAVE to say something...but the car seat thing seems dangerous to me...