Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[overcomer79]

oops let me comment on the right thread:

to answer OP's question: there are some comments on this thread that I have to bite my tongue on! I think this is the right one! They seem so similar .

 

[susannah14]

I'll admit it..... I don't know why moms cart their wide awake babies around in their carseat. Car to shopping cart to car to baby group to car, etc. However, I don't think I ever would have thought twice about it if not for all the babywearing threads. Hell, without those threads and the knowledge, I probably would have been that mom. But now I see it as, don't you know your little baby would love nothing more than to be held?

Well, my baby was perfectly happy being pushed along in a cart in his carseat even when awake. He's not the cuddling type. Baby wearing is not for everyone. (Yes I babywear but not all the time, and certainly not for long periods of time).

I think both options are valid...

 

[overcomer79]

I'll admit it..... I don't know why moms cart their wide awake babies around in their carseat. Car to shopping cart to car to baby group to car, etc. However, I don't think I ever would have thought twice about it if not for all the babywearing threads. Hell, without those threads and the knowledge, I probably would have been that mom. But now I see it as, don't you know your little baby would love nothing more than to be held?

Well, my baby was perfectly happy being pushed along in a cart in his carseat even when awake. He's not the cuddling type. Baby wearing is not for everyone. (Yes I babywear but not all the time, and certainly not for long periods of time).

I think both options are valid...

James HATED being worn. Ginny on the other hand gets so excited and dances when I get the ergo out!

 

[AC1987]

Me and my sibblings had locks outside of our doors, my parents said it was to keep us from sleepwalking.. I wonder why they just didnt have a baby gate installed.


Oh I hafta bite my tongue ALOT but I find myself venting it but to other people.
The whole sugar water thing.

My sister who doesn't have kids and never wants them has told me a few things.
-Just put her down and the floor and let her scream, show her who is boss. (when my LO was tiny!)
-I hope you don't spoil her, she better not turn out bratty
-you should give her candy, its better she has them while shes young

My mom continuely tells me ways I can dry up my milk.

MIL has said somethings to me as well..
"Poor baby, your mom is so mean she starves you" (when shes upset that she can't feed my LO to the point of puking)

A friend recently told me that her nephew started on solids at 2 months because he needs iit, and was shocked when I told her I was waiting til my LO was ATLEAST 4 months, now looking back I wish I waited til 5 months or more as she wasnt even interested in food back then

 

[robinator]

I'll admit it..... I don't know why moms cart their wide awake babies around in their carseat. Car to shopping cart to car to baby group to car, etc. However, I don't think I ever would have thought twice about it if not for all the babywearing threads. Hell, without those threads and the knowledge, I probably would have been that mom. But now I see it as, don't you know your little baby would love nothing more than to be held?

Well, my baby was perfectly happy being pushed along in a cart in his carseat even when awake. He's not the cuddling type. Baby wearing is not for everyone. (Yes I babywear but not all the time, and certainly not for long periods of time).

I think both options are valid...

Then there a shitload of babies out there that hate being worn. Not trying to argue, just saying.

 

[Noelle610]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

Agree 100%.

Tbh it really gets on my wick. Especially when they say "I know my baby best I know what he/she needs" clearly you don't!

This gets me just as much as someone saying they're raised four kids, so they know what they're doing. Just because you HAVE a kid doesn't mean you're the expert. In fact, I feel like I was a right idiot the first few months of motherhood! In some ways I think that was good because it opened me up to hearing facts/opinions.

 

[Emma&Freya]

I think us Mums forget everyone else knows our baby best than us ourselves, I mean, we dont live with them or look after them....

 

[robinator]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

Agree 100%.

Tbh it really gets on my wick. Especially when they say "I know my baby best I know what he/she needs" clearly you don't!

This gets me just as much as someone saying they're raised four kids, so they know what they're doing. Just because you HAVE a kid doesn't mean you're the expert. In fact, I feel like I was a right idiot the first few months of motherhood! In some ways I think that was good because it opened me up to hearing facts/opinions.

I totally agree. I still feel like an idiot sometimes. Not as much as I did a year ago, though!

 

[overcomer79]

What's it to you if someone else doesn't babywear? It's a struggle for me. I have muscular issues in my neck and shoulders caused by an injury? For others, like any other decision, it just doesn't suit their family.

Anyway maybe I should have bitten my tongue on that.

 

[Wishing_well]

What's it to you if someone else doesn't babywear? It's a struggle for me. I have muscular issues in my neck and shoulders caused by an injury? For others, like any other decision, it just doesn't suit their family.

Anyway maybe I should have bitten my tongue on that.

Do you really need to turn this into an argument. It wasn't personal.
It was a lighthearted thread!

 

[robinator]

What's it to you if someone else doesn't babywear? It's a struggle for me. I have muscular issues in my neck and shoulders caused by an injury? For others, like any other decision, it just doesn't suit their family.

Anyway maybe I should have bitten my tongue on that.

This thread isn't about you; it isn't about me. It's about things we bite our tongues on.

 

[Noelle610]

Oh I just thought of one!

When people say, "A baby will fit into my life, not the other way around"! That's the worst. You brought a child into this world, they didn't ask to be born! It's not the BABY'S job to make sure you can still have it your way.

 

[fieryphoenix]

Play nice kids!

 

[Wishing_well]

I really hate the whole " she/he needs to get used to being away from you!"
Why, so she feels like I've abandoned her..?

 

[sevenofnine]

Two of our 3 bedrooms have a lock on the outside and at the very top of the door, our room and LO's room. The spare room doesn't though. I also wondered why there would be locks on the outside of the doors, I posted a thread on here I believe and a lot of people said it could be to keep dogs or children OUT of the rooms during the day i'm not entirely convinced though otherwise there would be locks on all the bedroom doors. I dread to think tbh.

My MIL had to put a lock on her daughters room on the outside as my DH (her son) used to break into his sisters room and empty her knickers all over the floor when she had gone to school when he was little- bloody monkey!
Xxx

The weird thing is... this lock is right on the doorknob! Even my 3 year old nephew can unlock it! (He likes to play with it when over and lock his sister inside ) Creepy!!

My (and my brothers) bedroom had a hook and eye catch at the top of the door. It was there after my younger cousins came to live with us, so we could put things we didn't want them to play with in our rooms and they couldn't get at it while we were out.

Haha, I'm sure there was a better reason to have it, my mind just always goes to the worst scenario!

I'll admit it..... I don't know why moms cart their wide awake babies around in their carseat. Car to shopping cart to car to baby group to car, etc. However, I don't think I ever would have thought twice about it if not for all the babywearing threads. Hell, without those threads and the knowledge, I probably would have been that mom. But now I see it as, don't you know your little baby would love nothing more than to be held?

I find it quite hard to do my grocery shopping quickly even if I am babywearing. Having to reach around her while she's trying to grab at me and everything is quite difficult. Thus, she stays in the carseat happily playing with toys most times.

I babywear a lot, but shopping tends to be a time when I do not. (At least heavy shopping.) I do really love babywearing though, it's great and she loves it!!

 

[Twister]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

Agree 100%.

Tbh it really gets on my wick. Especially when they say "I know my baby best I know what he/she needs" clearly you don't!

This gets me just as much as someone saying they're raised four kids, so they know what they're doing. Just because you HAVE a kid doesn't mean you're the expert. In fact, I feel like I was a right idiot the first few months of motherhood! In some ways I think that was good because it opened me up to hearing facts/opinions.

Yep, tbh I didn't and still don't have a clue! Take sleep for example, I had no idea that my LO was ready to drop a nap until it was pointed out to me on here, there I was spending hours every day fighting with my LO to take naps when it turns out half the time she didn't need or want them I tell ya, being baby led ain't half as easy as people make it out to be. Even now I still have to guess when my LO is hungry and go through a checklist of things that could be wrong when she's fussy, all her cries sound the same to me except maybe her pain cry. I'm hopeless lol.

 

[overcomer79]

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[ShelbyLC]

- A friend of a friend weaned her son at 3 months. Made me so sad to hear.

- When people let their babies CIO and there is a legitimate reason for the crying (such as a tummy ache). One of OH's friend's babies is 3 months and CIOs on a regular basis, and she has bad reflux. I'm not saying I'm against CIO or people that do it, but if your baby is in pain, you need to pick him/her up.

- People not putting the chest clip of a car seat over the chest

- People that don't wash their hands for the full 3 minutes before entering the NICU.

sorry. Didn't mean to go on and on...

 

[Noelle610]

I really hate the whole " she/he needs to get used to being away from you!"
Why, so she feels like I've abandoned her..?

I get this too! When I leave my daughter at daycare, she gets upset (she's fine after I leave, but the process is upsetting to her). I usually sit on the floor with her and we cuddle/play for a bit. Another mom always says, "She has to learn sometime". What does she have to learn?! That she will be left abruptly?! Such an odd thing to say.

 

[Emerald87]

Oh I have one!

When a parent says "you can't do 'xyz' to your baby because it's their life and their body" and then go ahead and impose their own dietary/religious/fashion/medical bullsh*t beliefs on their own kids. I've bitten my tongue a few times...