Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[sevenofnine]

I've just had to hold my tongue when I saw 3 'friends' on fb discussing that how they keep their children in bed at night... One locked the door, the other tied string from their handle to another door handle and the other turned the handle upside down... I felt like putting 'what if there's a fire?!'

No kidding!!

When we moved into a farmhouse we're renting from an older couple, one of their kids' old rooms had a lock on the OUTSIDE of the door... and it gave me the creeps.

I'm not saying it was for locking the kid in there, but what other reason would there be to have a lock on a door from the outside... for a kids room...

 

[babydust1990]

I've just had to hold my tongue when I saw 3 'friends' on fb discussing that how they keep their children in bed at night... One locked the door, the other tied string from their handle to another door handle and the other turned the handle upside down... I felt like putting 'what if there's a fire?!'

No kidding!!

When we moved into a farmhouse we're renting from an older couple, one of their kids' old rooms had a lock on the OUTSIDE of the door... and it gave me the creeps.

I'm not saying it was for locking the kid in there, but what other reason would there be to have a lock on a door from the outside... for a kids room...

The thought really upsets me tbh. We had a no locks (inside or out) on bedroom doors when I was young and I'll be doing the same! My biggest fear is a house fire

 

[Twister]

Two of our 3 bedrooms have a lock on the outside and at the very top of the door, our room and LO's room. The spare room doesn't though. I also wondered why there would be locks on the outside of the doors, I posted a thread on here I believe and a lot of people said it could be to keep dogs or children OUT of the rooms during the day i'm not entirely convinced though otherwise there would be locks on all the bedroom doors. I dread to think tbh.

 

[babydust1990]

We don't even have a lock on our bathroom door

 

[diggory77]

My MIL had to put a lock on her daughters room on the outside as my DH (her son) used to break into his sisters room and empty her knickers all over the floor when she had gone to school when he was little- bloody monkey!
Xxx

 

[CeeDee]

Someone had a carseat perched on this shopping cart.

 

[sbl]

Someone had a carseat perched on this shopping cart.

OMG, well thats clever.

 

[Wishing_well]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

 

[Noelle610]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

This drives me bonkers too! It flies in the face of pretty much all current research and it just doesn't make sense!! Milk = far more calories than rice cereal/carrots/pears

 

[Scally]

I've just had to hold my tongue when I saw 3 'friends' on fb discussing that how they keep their children in bed at night... One locked the door, the other tied string from their handle to another door handle and the other turned the handle upside down... I felt like putting 'what if there's a fire?!'

No kidding!!

When we moved into a farmhouse we're renting from an older couple, one of their kids' old rooms had a lock on the OUTSIDE of the door... and it gave me the creeps.

I'm not saying it was for locking the kid in there, but what other reason would there be to have a lock on a door from the outside... for a kids room...

We used to have a lock on the outside of our door when we were kids- really not for a good reason, my mum used to lock it if my dad got drunk and was wanting to "discipline" us, he was usually so drunk he didn't work out there was a lock, it kept us safe. I thanked my mum for that a lot, I would never use such a thing to stop kids from getting out, awful just awful x

 

[Noelle610]

Can I just say... This thread isn't helping me with my recent efforts on being compassionate rather than judging

 

[Sproglet]

My (and my brothers) bedroom had a hook and eye catch at the top of the door. It was there after my younger cousins came to live with us, so we could put things we didn't want them to play with in our rooms and they couldn't get at it while we were out.

 

[Wishing_well]

My sister is currently giving her 4 month old puréed stuff as apparently she needs "to get used to tastes before she's weaned". Um no, that's the whole point of weaning!

I gently tried to explain about allergies and blw, but she used the "doctor told me to" card.....
He didn't.

 

[armywife11]

I have to bite my tongue a bunch when people ask for advice and then get mad with the advice you give. I have learned to not be mad about it anymore but it is frustrating.

 

[robinator]

I'll admit it..... I don't know why moms cart their wide awake babies around in their carseat. Car to shopping cart to car to baby group to car, etc. However, I don't think I ever would have thought twice about it if not for all the babywearing threads. Hell, without those threads and the knowledge, I probably would have been that mom. But now I see it as, don't you know your little baby would love nothing more than to be held?

 

[robinator]

I have to bite my tongue a bunch when people ask for advice and then get mad with the advice you give. I have learned to not be mad about it anymore but it is frustrating.

Goodness; this to the nth degree!

 

[kmbabycrazy]

My cousin made a FB post about how excited she was that her pediatrician recommended she start her "big" 2 month old on solids because he's must be so hungry....AGG!!

My nephew was HUGE and still had no solids till 17 weeks just lots of milk. I find that so hard to believe. Laugh it off.

My daughter was HUGE and she didn't have solids until 6 months. In fact, she was less hungry than her brother who I admit I did wean early but I was younger and less educated and just went off what my mum and health visitor said but this time I just went with Lily and she just wasn't interested, it was about 3 days before she turned 6 months when she grabbed some toast of my plate, I stopped as it had salted butter and went and cut up a nectarine and she ate the whole thing.

I hate seeing people wearing baby carriers wrong, when the baby just seems to be dangling off them. I'm not a baby wearer but I'm pretty sure they shouldn't be swinging about.

Also there is a woman who I see every time I pick Toby up from school who has a pushchair with one of those additional seats that can be clipped on the front. The girl in the front one is always asleep and because it's not a proper seat she's just dangling out of it, can't be good for her spine. And then has an older bigger child crammed in the proper seat part behind the clip on seat with no room and her legs dangling out. The girl is at least 4 so she seems big enough to be able to walk and I have seen her walking, and I know there are reasons she might not be able to walk very far but if that be the case she should find a double that is suitable instead of cramming two large children into a pushchair made for one child.

 

[C_baby]

This made me laugh so much mainly because I spend all day long biting my tongue, my Stepson does things with my beautiful grandbaby guided by his ex and her family that make me raise my eyebrows all the time. They have far too much influence on his life and he spends most of this time doing odd jobs for them for bits of pocket money so everything I do try and suggest falls on deaf ears. I've learnt for my own sanity to try to ignore it so I just keep it zipped.

Currently food is a huge bug bear of mine, basically unless I give her things she ONLY (at 15 months) has cold jarred 4m+ food, chocolate and crisps. I'll make a meal for all of us including my 7 month old and he'll insist on giving her a jar before we sit down. She is more than capable of eating food but somehow they've convinced him babies need jars.

From the age of 4 months she has come home from their house with chocolate bars or wotsit orange stains (usually both) down her clothes Every. Single. Day. I'll be like what's all over her? And the answer is "Oh I went to the shop and *the other grandparents* gave her a milky way", and as if it's not bad enough that they constantly fill her with crap she'll be absolutely covered with it and they don't even change her clothes or wash her face and hands!

I could go on forever to be honest but I've already wound myself up!!

 

[Twister]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

Agree 100%.

Tbh it really gets on my wick. Especially when they say "I know my baby best I know what he/she needs" clearly you don't!

 

[robinator]

I absolutely cannot stand people that wean early! (Yes I know I'll get abuse for saying that!)
Seriously, a 3 month old doesn't need food, even if he is "so hungry", just give them more milk!

Agree 100%.

Tbh it really gets on my wick. Especially when they say "I know my baby best I know what he/she needs" clearly you don't!

Yes, I always read that (in regards to early weaning) as "I have no idea what the hell I'm doing so I'm going to get defensive about it!"