this one time. my friend was discussing her sorority with a group of us (one of them was one of her sorority sisters) and i made some quick comment that i "wouldnt have time for a sorority". she goes "oh we hate that excuse" (as if i need an excuse to not join a sorority??? i dont have an issue with them.. i just.. dont care.. or have the time) she goes "we have people getting their honors and masters degrees and they have time" yeah.. uhm.. thats called good time management.. because a thesis paper doesnt cry all night.
so i just politely reminded her that i have a kid to attend to and DONT HAVE TIME. and she goes "one of our sisters has TWO kids!"
1. what are their ages? mine is an infant. an infant who requires me to be SOBER and PRESENT to feed her at a whim. older kids MIGHT, depending on the child, have other things theyre doing with friends and their relatives.
2. is she a single parent? (answer: no) because i AM, and even if i werent, and even when my mom will babysit.. my daughter misses me and cries the whole time.. not worth it.
3. if you love your sorority, GREAT! but every second i spend drinking, bar hopping, socializing with people is a second i have taken out of my childs basket and into something that is honestly meaningless to me.. i would consider it to be bad parenting to leave my child hungry, upset and with her grandmother for something as frivilous as a sorority. i'm also in school fulltime as well.. i have spaced my classes so that i'm never gone more than 3 hrs (the max she can go between feedings just about, though i leave frozen EBM) just because someone has time for school+friends or kids+friends or kids+school+frends doesnt mean that i PERSONALLY do. babies arent standardized, my child requires more than her's do (obviously.. unless she neglects them which i highly doubt).
RANTEND/
sorry.. i needed to say that. omg.
it drives me crazy everytime i think of it because i didnt want to argue at a restaurant with friends.. but she's SOOOOOO delusional. and wants kids! i know she'll learn, but i feel so bad for her percieved idea of how she's going to keep her social life. lol.