Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[Randianne]

Anytime people post pictures of their child's poop. I am very happy that your child is using the potty! But really, I'll take your word for it. I don't need a CSI level evidence photo.

 

[robinator]

People do that?!?!

 

[Twister]

I've never seen anyone do that but I've heard many stories on here about it!

 

[overcomer79]

when people give your child an audience because he is throwing a tantrum and screaming like you are killing him because he doesn't want to get in his car seat.

The ones I wasn't able to hold my tongue on are the ones holding their phones out staring me down about to call 911. Really, don't you have anything better to do???

 

[Randianne]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

 

[girlnboots]

As someone has already said...

'I did x,y,z and it never did me/my kids any harm'

Yes, this is all good and well, you may well be here to tell the tale, but what about the people who did x,y,z and didn't live to tell the tale? No one can hear their cautionary side to the story.


Sorry- tht was a bit morbid

YES, YES, YES! My friends are always asking me why I quit smoking. I just look at them and say very slowly, "I'm PRE-G-NANT" And they'll always, WITHOUT FAIL, say, "Well, my mom smoked with me, my sister, my brother, blah blah blah, and we all turned out just fine!" And I just SOOO want to go on a rant about lower birth weights and higher risk of SIDS, childhood breathing problems and infections, allergies, asthma....etc.

Plus, if they see me every day and have to ask why I'm not smoking, then obviously, they're NOT "just fine" in the head!

 

[robinator]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

I don't know whether to gag or laugh my ass off. A bit of both, I guess

 

[Dragonfly]

People who say the turned out ok and they clearly didnt as you know them a long time and can see their problems every day. And you cant say it. Same as people say their kids are fine but arnt evidently.

 

[pompeyvix]

Loads, most mentioned here already.

The biggest thing for me is weaning. Apart from a couple of my close friends with babies, almost every one else I have come across irl (namely baby groups) wean at the earliest opportunity which is 17 weeks. It is so unbelieveably common and I really do bite my tongue.

We were having a few issues with LO's sleep a few months back (she was 5 months from memory) and at one of the baby groups I go too I was talking about it with them. Every single girl said to me it's because she needs food and that I should seriously start weaning asap!

As it turned out it was nothing to do with that (ditching the dummy and moving her into her cot turned from her terrible night time sleeper to a brilliant one) and when we did start weaning her at 6 months she clearly wasn't ready and only started eating properly about 2 or 3 weeks ago.

Today I had to bite my tongue. I was out having a picnic with LO. The sun was shining and there was not a cloud in the sky. I kept LO in her pushchair for the most part, but when I took her out I made sure she was in a shadow as we lost her sun hat enroute to the park. However, I saw a mum sitting across from me holding her newborn in the direct sun for AGES. The sun was beating down right onto the top of his head (he had no hat). He had a little bit of newborn fluff hair and I couldn't see suncream mixed into his hair and I really wanted to go and say something. I didn't of course!

 

[Twister]

Yeah, 'turning out fine' doesn't just mean surviving. There are many parenting choices which almost certainly won't result in death but could potentially cause physical and/or mental health problems further down the line. I won't bring them up as I don't want all hell to break loose

 

[robinator]

I have a bnb one

When someone has a legitimate issue with their MIL/FIL/mom/dad and someone else chimes in with, "you should just be grateful that your LO has grandparents that want to be part of their life". Oh, stfu

 

[Emerald87]

This thread has actually allowed me to blow off some steam and post something that has been eating me up for a while.

Thank you.

 

[pompeyvix]

People do that?!?!

Yep, afraid so! One of my best friends (who I love dearly) posted a picture on fb of her little boy standing by his potty which had the biggest poo in it you could imagine!

 

[Dragonfly]

I had to delete something on facebook and hold my tongue, personal friend of other half, cant say something to him as we fell out once before. Assumes I spend all day and night on facebook pages so that means I cant do a course I said I wasnt able to do . forgets I have kids in the house, what do I just ditch them and the new born and walk miles every night to the city for a course with a panic attack season? so I didnt bother explaining as he is thick about kids and held my tongue. Likes to give advice on kids, rather rough advice to.

 

[robinator]

People do that?!?!

Yep, afraid so! One of my best friends (who I love dearly) posted a picture on fb of her little boy standing by his potty which had the biggest poo in it you could imagine!

That is just so weird lol

 

[Emerald87]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

Link me???

 

[Dragonfly]

I have a bnb one

When someone has a legitimate issue with their MIL/FIL/mom/dad and someone else chimes in with, "you should just be grateful that your LO has grandparents that want to be part of their life". Oh, stfu

or someone reminding you there are bigger problems in the world

 

[Twister]

So glad this thread as remained civil, it's nice to be able to blow off some steam and be a judgemental bitch without worrying about offending anyone

 

[armywife11]

People do that?!?!

Not only that but one of my friends posted a photo this morning of the food her child erm.. didn't keep down!!!!! Yea just what I wanted to see as I ate my breakfast!

 

[Emerald87]

I hate it when people laugh at children's expense and exploit them online for entertainment. These are people and its disrespectful. your own flesh and blood hung out to dry and be laughed at and shamed. I dont hold my tongue well then at all.

Not being able to post breastfeeding info for new mums without a massive debate and tempers flaring.

people that go on how much they hate their kid, name call them or generally call kids names on their facebook.

my real tongue holders are with family though, especially other halfs as I dont want a war starting and it would start if I spoke back about anything that actually annoyed me in the way I want to.

Exactly. I tend not to post about BF'ing on baby club as I am aware there are alternate means of feeding. I just get frustrated that I can't offer help or be proud of my BF'ing (which, mind you, I fought VERY VERY hard for) without someone thinking I'm having a personal dig at them. It makes me really sad