Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[pompeyvix]

People do that?!?!

Not only that but one of my friends posted a photo this morning of the food her child erm.. didn't keep down!!!!! Yea just what I wanted to see as I ate my breakfast!

That is super gross! I can ALMOST understand showing poo in a potty as it is an achievement I guess when a baby/toddler first uses it properly. But I cannot for the life of me understand why someone would want to post puke?!

 

[Twister]

I have a friend on fb who comes across as somewhat anti breastfeeding and once when breastfeeding came up in the news she posted a rant about how it had been in the news a lot lately (it really hadn't) and that there's nothing wrong with the bottle. I had to hold my tongue and stop myself from going on a rant at her about how just because bf gets a mention in the news doesn't mean they're bashing bottles or formula and that breastfeeding exists and she needs to just get over it (it wasn't the first time she'd posted something like this).

 

[greenbeans12]

I can not stand when other's judge people's parenting - none of us are perfect! It's what makes parenting beautiful. We make mistakes, we learn, and we evolve from it. As long as the parent is not being cruel or neglectful then I keep an open mind.

 

[Randianne]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

Link me???

It's the last picture of the post. Look at your own risk!

https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/43426727217/valentines-day-2013-love-edition

 

[mrsrof]

I had to bite my tongue when some friends of mine put on facebook how they were sleep training their twins. Who were 6 weeks old. They even called it sleep training.

 

[Emerald87]

Love the new avatar, Randianne

 

[fieryphoenix]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

Link me???

It's the last picture of the post. Look at your own risk!

https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/43426727217/valentines-day-2013-love-edition

Are you Elizabeth? Lol I loved that reaction!

 

[Randianne]

People do that?!?!

Maybe just my crazy friends! One of them posted a heart shaped poop her son did on Valentine's Day. So I evilly submitted it to STFU Parents and it got posted.

And now I really hope she doesn't read BNB because she doesn't know it was me.

Link me???

It's the last picture of the post. Look at your own risk!

https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/43426727217/valentines-day-2013-love-edition

Are you Elizabeth? Lol I loved that reaction!

Haha, no, that was her sister. I did love her reaction though!

 

[Noelle610]

People who say the turned out ok and they clearly didnt as you know them a long time and can see their problems every day. And you cant say it. Same as people say their kids are fine but arnt evidently.

Haha, this applies even if they did turn out okay! My husband got hit by a car and he's okay, that doesn't mean it's something one should strive for!

I hate the, well my parents did XYZ and I'm fine so surely it's okay.

 

[socitycourty]

I thought of another one....

when someone told me that a c section wasn't giving birth. so, I guess I just went to the hospital, stayed for a week and somehow ended up with a baby? not including the fact that I carried her inside me. I thought it was cruel and rude. especially since this person knew I had planned and worked towards a natural birth med free, blah blah.

I saw a mom last week at Target, she had a shopping cart and in the seat where toddlers go she had a blanket laid down and a newborn laying in there. I was really too surprised to say anything, then she was in the diaper aisle next to the aisle i was in and I heard newborn crying, then I walked past her and she was holding the baby. I was like jesus christ what the fuck, i seriously said that to myself. so dangerous

 

[Emerald87]

I thought of another one....

when someone told me that a c section wasn't giving birth. so, I guess I just went to the hospital, stayed for a week and somehow ended up with a baby? not including the fact that I carried her inside me. I thought it was cruel and rude. especially since this person knew I had planned and worked towards a natural birth med free, blah blah.

I saw a mom last week at Target, she had a shopping cart and in the seat where toddlers go she had a blanket laid down and a newborn laying in there. I was really too surprised to say anything, then she was in the diaper aisle next to the aisle i was in and I heard newborn crying, then I walked past her and she was holding the baby. I was like jesus christ what the fuck, i seriously said that to myself. so dangerous

I honestly loathe this statement. I didn't have a C but honestly, it is the most unjust, rude, low thing you can say to a mother. I also don't agree with the statement "natural birth", sorry - in my book all birth is natural in one way or another. I categorise as c-section and vaginal because those are the methods and, like you, many mothers don't get a choice so to tell them they didn't birth naturally isn't fair. You still had a baby either way -_-

 

[Randianne]

when someone told me that a c section wasn't giving birth. so, I guess I just went to the hospital, stayed for a week and somehow ended up with a baby? not including the fact that I carried her inside me. I thought it was cruel and rude. especially since this person knew I had planned and worked towards a natural birth med free, blah blah.

Ah, yes, the birth police. Because your birth doesn't count unless you had an uncomplicated, unmedicated, completely zen experience.

To go along with that, I didn't exactly bite my tongue when one friend told another that birth wasn't pain, just pressure. I'm sure that is shocking to everyone on BNB because I'm kind of known for holding back my opinion.

 

[Emerald87]

when someone told me that a c section wasn't giving birth. so, I guess I just went to the hospital, stayed for a week and somehow ended up with a baby? not including the fact that I carried her inside me. I thought it was cruel and rude. especially since this person knew I had planned and worked towards a natural birth med free, blah blah.

Ah, yes, the birth police. Because your birth doesn't count unless you had an uncomplicated, unmedicated, completely zen experience.

To go along with that, I didn't exactly bite my tongue when one friend told another that birth wasn't pain, just pressure. I'm sure that is shocking to everyone on BNB because I'm kind of known for holding back my opinion.

You must have an orgasmic birth in a ditch to consider it "natural"

 

[socitycourty]

i loathe that saying, along with "pain with a purpose".....it still freaking hurts.

I labored for over a day without any meds. got the epidural to see if things would speed up. I had an infection and a high fever. baby had distress. I went 32 hours of labor before my c section. got to pushing stage and dr. couldn't even see her head. took me off to c section and turns out she was transverse. so really i went through all the b.s. for nothing, i almost would have rather just went immediately to c section instead of emcs. i was so exhausted on top of the surgical recovery.

it is maddening when people try to make it like you get the "easy" way out when having a c section. I couldn't even laugh for 2 weeks because it hurt like hell.

 

[vintagecat]

I don't see why moms need to criticize how babies are born. That's just weird!

The only pet peeve I have in regards to birth is unneeded early induction, unsafe medications, and doctors not regarding the interests of the mother. Birth is not meant to be 'convenient' for the doctor. It should be entirely on the mother's terms and a doctor should be honest with their patients! I feel like they often lie just to get you out of the hospital and don't give you or the baby any time.

 

[ShelbyLC]

I don't see why moms need to criticize how babies are born. That's just weird!

The only pet peeve I have in regards to birth is unneeded early induction, unsafe medications, and doctors not regarding the interests of the mother. Birth is not meant to be 'convenient' for the doctor. It should be entirely on the mother's terms and a doctor should be honest with their patients! I feel like they often lie just to get you out of the hospital and don't give you or the baby any time.

Unneeded early induction gets me, too. When my SIL was pregnant with my niece, she was induced on her due date, just because she was "ready to not be pregnant anymore". I understand that it's really uncomfortable to have 6-10lbs of baby inside of you, but I would have given anything to get to that point.

I obviously understand induction for medical reasons, it's just "I'm done being pregnant" that irks me.

 

[fieryphoenix]

I don't see why moms need to criticize how babies are born. That's just weird!

The only pet peeve I have in regards to birth is unneeded early induction, unsafe medications, and doctors not regarding the interests of the mother. Birth is not meant to be 'convenient' for the doctor. It should be entirely on the mother's terms and a doctor should be honest with their patients! I feel like they often lie just to get you out of the hospital and don't give you or the baby any time.

Unneeded early induction gets me, too. When my SIL was pregnant with my niece, she was induced on her due date, just because she was "ready to not be pregnant anymore". I understand that it's really uncomfortable to have 6-10lbs of baby inside of you, but I would have given anything to get to that point.

I obviously understand induction for medical reasons, it's just "I'm done being pregnant" that irks me.

My Dr offered induction on my due date to me as well, I was due the 14th, she started talking about having me come in on the 13th to deliver on monday. I refused though, I wanted him to pick his own day, which ended up not working out anyways, Dr insisted on induction on the 20th, my guess is they get more money from the insurance companies for induction as you are in the hospital longer, kinda cynical I know but just my thought.

 

[socitycourty]

My OB told me the risk of stillbirth goes up after 41 weeks.....I would have insisted on being induced if i went that long. Just because I was afraid of losing her and we'd already been high risk. luckily went into labor at 37+6 spontaneously

 

[Emerald87]

My OB told me the risk of stillbirth goes up after 41 weeks.....I would have insisted on being induced if i went that long. Just because I was afraid of losing her and we'd already been high risk. luckily went into labor at 37+6 spontaneously

Yes, there's no convenience or money factor beyond 40+10 - just safety of Mum and bub. There is a HUGE increase in stillbirth risk, sadly.

 

[socitycourty]

I remember asking my OB if she would make me go past 40 weeks, she said they usually would go to 41 and I freaked out.

thank god my LO came early but not too early. I would never risk it just to let her "come on her own time" too scary for me.

I agree that inductions for convenience are dangerous but c sections and inductions or interventions that save a baby's life should not be looked down upon.

I don't buy the whole c section for dr's convenience either. they were happy to let me labor and try things for a long time until my fever got too high and then my LO had some heart rate issues. once they told me that I was thinking the surgery couldn't come fast enough