Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[Dragonfly]

People who say the turned out ok and they clearly didnt as you know them a long time and can see their problems every day. And you cant say it. Same as people say their kids are fine but arnt evidently.

Haha, this applies even if they did turn out okay! My husband got hit by a car and he's okay, that doesn't mean it's something one should strive for!

I hate the, well my parents did XYZ and I'm fine so surely it's okay.

I have several people one who says she was hit by parents all the time and turned out fine, yet posts for years the most needy, necrotic, depressive, clingy posts and gets in to bad relationships where she is hurt all the time.Constant FML. I feel for her.

So glad this thread as remained civil, it's nice to be able to blow off some steam and be a judgemental bitch without worrying about offending anyone

I know I expected people would be killing each other by now? lol

I hate it when people laugh at children's expense and exploit them online for entertainment. These are people and its disrespectful. your own flesh and blood hung out to dry and be laughed at and shamed. I dont hold my tongue well then at all.

Not being able to post breastfeeding info for new mums without a massive debate and tempers flaring.

people that go on how much they hate their kid, name call them or generally call kids names on their facebook.

my real tongue holders are with family though, especially other halfs as I dont want a war starting and it would start if I spoke back about anything that actually annoyed me in the way I want to.

Exactly. I tend not to post about BF'ing on baby club as I am aware there are alternate means of feeding. I just get frustrated that I can't offer help or be proud of my BF'ing (which, mind you, I fought VERY VERY hard for) without someone thinking I'm having a personal dig at them. It makes me really sad

I post it on relevant pages to help mums, I realise help is sparce in some areas but to them my real intention is to bash formula apparently. I am sick of that.


Pass agg status updates about me really annoy me and I wont go and do the same back as they are stupid I have seen ones from people directed at me for breastfeeding a toddler after rowing with me on my page, for not hitting my kids after rowing with me on my page and bitching about what I post on my page in their status, family actually done that one on me.
Delete them cant be arsed with that its like school ground stuff. If you dont like someone on facebook what they do get rid bitching like that makes you look stupid.

 

[lilly_bum]

i am surprised i have a tongue left the amount of biting i have been doing

#when your baby is born you will need a break straight away so you will be happy for someone to babysit over night
no thanks i am quite capable of lookng after my own new baby....!

#your baby is 8 weeks old you should really be putting a RUSK in her bottle?
really should i i suppose she would also like some chips and gravy?

#awww hey little fatty fatty fatty aw your baby is so fat but cute!
come near me or my child again and i will elbow drop you bitch who calls a baby fat my lo has more teeth than her full family but you dont here me shouting heyy gumsy gumsy

 

[Dragonfly]

Rusks would be soft core compared to what my families suggested when they get together off their own bat. Whisky and rusks for bed time was what we got in bottles. Any wonder I have so many problems. Oh the tongue biting at family get together about chatting about old times and how wrong I am. gah!

 

[MikaylasMummy]

My friend today gave her 7 month old baby a nice big drink of coke through a straw.the same friend who used to regularly give her ds the same age as my son coke who now wants it whenever he sees it,and the same friend who's 5 year old daughter has a bunch of rotten teeth

 

[sbl]

Yeah!! we're still going!

I've got another one...why oh why do certain people feel the need to call their child "sexy"! Its feckin weird. Stop it right now!!!

 

[babydust1990]

That creeps me out too!

 

[BUGaBOO]

I get really annoyed and have to bite my tongue with my mum a LOT -

She weaned me at 3 months on MINCE AND POTATOES and keeps telling me to give Isla a pie crust for teething and how I'm 'torturing' my daughter for wanting to wait till 6 months to wean
She's in the whole 'babies manipulate and are out to test you from birth' camp - our parenting philosophies are polar opposites

I have to bite my tongue on people telling me bedsharing is a nasty habit that will have to be broken sooner rather than later. It is not a habit it's a choice!

Bite my tongue at being told several times when I was having severe BF issues (she was finally diagnosed with upper lip and posterior tongue tie at 14 weeks) to stop putting myself through hell and put her on formula

 

[Emerald87]

i am surprised i have a tongue left the amount of biting i have been doing

#when your baby is born you will need a break straight away so you will be happy for someone to babysit over night
no thanks i am quite capable of lookng after my own new baby....!

#your baby is 8 weeks old you should really be putting a RUSK in her bottle?
really should i i suppose she would also like some chips and gravy?

#awww hey little fatty fatty fatty aw your baby is so fat but cute!
come near me or my child again and i will elbow drop you bitch who calls a baby fat my lo has more teeth than her full family but you dont here me shouting heyy gumsy gumsy

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Yep, LO gets that. It pisses me off when I say to people "oh she hasn't eaten much today" and they say "well she certainly isn't lacking". WTF? Babies shouldn't diet and I should be concerned if she's not eating. That "reserve" is there for her health and for when she is running around *slaps a b!tch*

 

[Wishing_well]

I also hate it when people say " ohh she'll never learn to walk if you carry her everywhere!" (Re baby wearing)
Umm how is that any different to a pushchair?
And FYI she started walking at 9 months!

 

[BUGaBOO]

Oh and another one by both my mum and mil

'She'll need to get used to the pram'

Isla hates the pram, always has and screams in it till we take her out so we have to babywear

And
'She'll need to get used to other people'
When crying at being held by others

Argh!

 

[Dragonfly]

I also hate it when people say " ohh she'll never learn to walk if you carry her everywhere!" (Re baby wearing)
Umm how is that any different to a pushchair?
And FYI she started walking at 9 months!

yes apparently I should have 2 anti social kids will all sorts of disorders. So I have to bite my tongue when same people who gave me grief are complementing them and wondering why they are such good kids. They walk, they talk, they play with other kids, they sleep, they dont do as them people said they would. "you must be lucky".

 

[Wishing_well]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

 

[Emerald87]

I also hate it when people say " ohh she'll never learn to walk if you carry her everywhere!" (Re baby wearing)
Umm how is that any different to a pushchair?
And FYI she started walking at 9 months!

yes apparently I should have 2 anti social kids will all sorts of disorders. So I have to bite my tongue when same people who gave me grief are complementing them and wondering why they are such good kids. They walk, they talk, they play with other kids, they sleep, they dont do as them people said they would. "you must be lucky".

You must be lucky. Like you didn't love, educate, look after and support your kids. You're just lucky. You could have left them on the floor their whole lives and they would be exactly as they are. Der.

 

[Emerald87]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

Don't say no to me

I 100% believe in explanations too. I catch myself saying "no" but then make sure I follow it up with a good reason. Kids aren't idiots, they deserve to be told why you're asking something of them.

 

[BUGaBOO]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

That was a tip from Dr Sears at his seminar a few months ago 'don't say no to your children'
For example - if they touch something they're not meant to, say 'ah ah, not for Isla'
Otherwise they learn to use NO for everything. It wasn't about letting them do what they want but rather using different phrases instead of one word

 

[Leesy]

As many others have said my biggest pet hate in the whole wide world is the old classic

well i raised x amount of kids and they are fine / well my mum did that to/ for me and I turned out ok.

I cannot express how much this bugs me. Now I'm getting angry thinking about it.

 

[AC1987]

When my LO was newborn in laws came over as soon as I was discharged. A few things they told me which I had to bite my tongue.
"Leave her in her crib so she gets used to it" she was TINY she needed body warmth. I wish I had the energy to go get her after they did that to her

"Whatever you do don't rock her, she'll get spoiled" she was FOUR days old!! Looking back I think I shoulda just argued and got one

I'm sick of hearing that I'm going to spoil my baby, just by taking care of their needs.

 

[Wishing_well]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

Don't say no to me

I 100% believe in explanations too. I catch myself saying "no" but then make sure I follow it up with a good reason. Kids aren't idiots, they deserve to be told why you're asking something of them.

If someone says no to me, my first instinct is to ask why. So yeah, kids deserve to know why... Plus hopefully it'll stop the whole "but whyyyy" thing!

 

[Dragonfly]

I also hate it when people say " ohh she'll never learn to walk if you carry her everywhere!" (Re baby wearing)
Umm how is that any different to a pushchair?
And FYI she started walking at 9 months!

yes apparently I should have 2 anti social kids will all sorts of disorders. So I have to bite my tongue when same people who gave me grief are complementing them and wondering why they are such good kids. They walk, they talk, they play with other kids, they sleep, they dont do as them people said they would. "you must be lucky".

You must be lucky. Like you didn't love, educate, look after and support your kids. You're just lucky. You could have left them on the floor their whole lives and they would be exactly as they are. Der.

The ironic thing is and the thing I have to bite my tongue with is the constant stuff they put up with, headaches, misbehaving kids,screaming, hitting and general horrible time all around in the household. constant threads on problems with kids and status updates. I like to remind myself of this saying. Yet I get told I will make monsters . and you cant say anything, cant say well look at your life and mine and tell me whos having a hell of a hard time. Apparently my time will come. yeah I rather not make myself and kids miserable thanks.

 

[Noelle610]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

I feel the same! I never, ever use "no" if I can help it. I try to say things like, "not for babies" or "gentle hands". It seems to work well. There's a baby Charlotte's age at her daycare and she is pretty aggressive with the hair pulling. Her mom is always shouting "no, no, no!" and she just laughs. It's kind of funny. The poor mom, who is a really nice lady, asked me the other day when she would start to understand that. I wasn't sure if I should mention my feelings on the word. I didn't want to offend.